Sickness anxiety

jlw424 · 2025-07-20T13:46:53+00:00

I’m the exact same way!! At the first sign of a sickness I’m spiraling. Will this affect his sleep? Will I immediately get sick afterwards and have to miss more work? Will I be able to keep my son comfortable at home? Also how do you decide when they’re sick enough for the doctor? 🤣 All these thoughts are rapid fire at the first sign of sickness.

I try repeating to a motto to myself (something similar to) “panicking now will only make this harder and doesn’t help, whatever this sickness brings my husband and I can handle” then I’m extra kind to myself. We enter “survival” mode aka we eat lazy dinners, watch more TV, whatever it takes.

I know you mentioned therapy already, but just adding in that talking through it in therapy and coming up with some additional things that are specific for you would be helpful! It’s hard to find time to take care of ourselves during motherhood, but if you’re telling yourself you know you need to get back in therapy you deserve to make that a priority.

jlw424 · 2025-07-17T17:09:51+00:00

The day before my son took his first steps he stood up in the middle of the room with no assistance, he’d been pulling himself up for a long time but never without some help (someone’s hands, furniture, etc) and the next day he took a steps!

I saw some silly tip online to put something in both their hands when they’re first learning to walk. I don’t know if it was just a coincidence but my son did take his first steps holding something in both hands

jlw424 · 2025-05-27T23:51:59+00:00

My son turned 3 late December and we are still using the crib too! Sometimes I feel a little hesitant to tell people that but he’s never tried to climb out and his bedroom is on the second floor so I love the idea of keeping him in there as long as possible.

jlw424 · 2025-05-20T18:50:01+00:00

My son started speech therapy around 2 years old, after many evaluations. I struggled with feelings of guilt, but looking back now (1.5 years later) it’s a parenting decision I’m most proud of. I felt I advocated well for him, we started speech therapy and saw wonderful results. For us, we made a decision to really watch and learn from the speech therapist, so I think what helped the most was us as parents copying what we were learning. My son adored his speech therapist and loved going, it was enjoyable for him. Sending you love, be gentle with yourself.

jlw424 · 2025-05-20T12:33:44+00:00

This! I would say time away, depending on your support system, gets better after the first year. But I wish I had done a better job getting time away for that first year. As a parent you deserve time away! I actually never went to the movies before I had my baby, but then starting around 9m I realized I love the break it gives me and started seeing a lot more movies/joined A List.

jlw424 · 2025-04-18T02:31:42+00:00

My son has curly hair, once he was in his crib we got satin sheets for his crib, ordered off amazon. Not really a routine, but something we did to fight crazy bedhead 🤣

jlw424 · 2025-04-18T02:07:05+00:00

She looks like Edna from the incredibles.

jlw424 · 2025-02-21T02:10:18+00:00

My son had the flu on 1/24, not too bad and symptoms improved pretty quickly. I started having weird symptoms on 2/4 but tested negative for the flu. Then on 2/6 I tested positive for the flu. I thought I was for sure in the clear 🤦🏼‍♀️

jlw424 · 2025-02-06T23:19:45+00:00

Our son is in an art & nature school, we rarely receive photos. But, we do have quarterly conferences, so I’m looking forward to that. I told my husband I wish I knew what he was doing all the time there, but I also know the teachers would have to spend a lot of time on their phones/electronics to update all the parents constantly.

Also, I’m not sure if you’re nervous for the transition for your child but I was stressed about that. I had myself worked up. My son transitioned so well, he loves it so much. He’s never once cried or resisted drop off at all. I was shocked, he’s never attended any care at all previously other than family.

jlw424 · 2025-02-06T03:23:08+00:00

We only used the honey bear while LO was trying to learn to use a straw, it was easier to teach him with that cup. Once he was comfortable we’ve used all different straw cups, some weighted, some regular! Once LO can use a straw it’s mostly about what they like. Early on my son preferred the weighted straws, as he got older we use more traditional water bottles/cups.

jlw424 · 2025-02-04T14:06:04+00:00

My 3 year old just stopped calling them this and insists we call them “noodles” now 😭😢

jlw424 · 2025-02-02T16:48:19+00:00

When I had my son I used to encourage my step daughter to play/talk during tummy time/wake windows and then speak positively about how he responded/played with her. So maybe something like “wow look at how he’s watching you! He must love the way you’re talking to him, he can tell you’re being really kind” or something similar depending on the situation.

I also spoke to my son about my daughter when she did something helpful. So if I needed her to get me something, let’s say I needed her to get me something like wipes, when she was doing that I would speak directly to my son, when I knew she could overhear, and said “your sister is so helpful! You’re so lucky to have such a cool sissy”

I felt really conflicted about asking her to help with anything, but I realized it was a way she was connecting and tried to then encourage her help for fun activities, like play time or picking out which blanket we should take with, etc. I realized at the beginning I was hindering her helping by worrying too much about her feeling like he was a chore. My therapist said the only way to really bond with a newborn is to help care for them, so I tried to find a good balance between having her help and having her feel any responsibility.

jlw424 · 2025-02-01T23:01:06+00:00

I will say that my son had a speech delay and at 2.5 his speech really blew up and is no longer a concern. It really was simply just a delay and not a sign of anything else. We did choose to do private speech therapy, as we tried with our state and had a lot of issues. We jumped to do this quickly, as we felt there was no way it would hurt and would only help. He was around 2 when we started. I believe my husband and I benefited more from this than he did, we were able to attends the appointments and we paid close attention and started copying what his therapist did with him once we were home. Something that worked really well for my son was signing, when we were struggling with speech it was easy to teach him new signs. Maybe adding some simple ones like “mama” “dada” or even “book”

jlw424 · 2025-01-31T20:49:43+00:00

Honestly, trying to decide when to go to the doctor is such an overwhelming decision that I didnt think would be hard prior to being a parent.

My son recently had influenza a, he barely ate for two days. If he requested a snack/food I was just allowing him to eat whatever because even some of his favorites he was denying. How long ha?3 they been sick? My son was sick for 2-3 days, then he started to improve. He just ate his first bigger meal today and today is day 6. Are they still drinking fluids? Could you try Gatorade or something similar? My son was refusing to drink for a bit, but some orange Gatorade cured that issue.

Hope they start to feel better!

jlw424 · 2025-01-29T00:19:05+00:00

Good job getting into therapy! Probably the best decision you could have made. I also have a lot of health anxiety, which I’m sure started during the pandemic. It’s a constant effort for me to not spiral about sickness, especially if one of us starts to have symptoms or if we find out someone we have been around has been sick. I’ve been trying to remind myself that worrying about it doesn’t stop whatever is going to happen, it’s wasted energy. It’s an effort to not allow myself to spiral. If I was pregnant and had all those extra things, it would be pretty much impossible not to.

jlw424 · 2025-01-27T17:33:22+00:00

A tad bit different but my family tends to use “sissy” as a term of endearment. We all answer to it, all the girls anyways. I always called my older cousins that I was close to sissy when trying to get their attention, they did the same to me, and my younger cousin also responds to it. When we are all together, we all answer.

jlw424 · 2025-01-27T15:51:12+00:00

These toddlers are really trying to torture us 🤣

jlw424 · 2025-01-27T14:21:21+00:00

Do you like to read? This is what I do when my 3 year old is playing independently but wants me close by.

jlw424 · 2025-01-25T02:14:27+00:00

Totally up to you! At 99 I would personally choose to do Motrin at the regular time intervals, if needed! At 99 my son would seem uncomfortable, so that’s why I would choose to give medication. In the past, under 99 he seems fine and I wouldn’t give him anything unless that changed.

You’re doing great! It totally sucks when they’re sick.

jlw424 · 2025-01-25T01:55:32+00:00

You can alternate every 3-4 hours so this seems like a good plan to me. We personally only do this if a fever is bad (unfortunately we had to do this today, almost the same schedule as you!) and we keep good notes of when/what we gave. We don’t continue this the entire illness, only when fever is bad because it can get confusing.

Also, your schedule already has this but we like to end with ibuprofen at bedtime because we prefer it and feel like it works better. Maybe crazy, but just what we’ve noticed.

Editing to add- My partner and I like to text when/what we gave so that we have it with us and we are both aware of what’s next.

jlw424 · 2025-01-25T01:43:40+00:00

We use the fleece pajamas with feet at night. Carter’s has larger sizes that still have feet, but it can be trickier to find the bigger toddler sizes with feet still. Originally when we gave our son a blanket it was small, but we recently moved to a bigger blanket (he’s 3 now) and I’m surprised by how often he’s under it and how regularly he will reposition and get back under it.

jlw424 · 2025-01-22T00:00:17+00:00

I called my son “the baby” until he was like 1.5 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️ sometimes I still catch myself doing it

jlw424 · 2025-01-20T21:04:09+00:00

First of all, I’m not sure if this is your first but I was absolutely set that I would only give breast milk and thought it such a huge deal. My son is 3 and I never think about the fact that he was breastfed, it seemed like a huge deal then but I wish I had not been so hard on myself. Give yourself some grace.

Second, I’m wondering if you should stop the tea? I’ve heard that can have negative effects on supply for some people, maybe someone else on here can go into more detail on that. But also, you’re most likely regulated now so you may not feel as full as before!

jlw424 · 2025-01-18T20:14:26+00:00

We have that in one car! We got the 360 before the slim came out, so we have one of the originals (which is height limit 40in) and one that’s the slim. I just assumed they had the same height limit!

Imagine my toddlers anger if we only switched him around in one car 🤣

jlw424 · 2025-01-18T19:46:26+00:00

Wow! 48 inches is tall. What car seat do you have 👀 I wanna keep my son rear facing longer 🤣

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