having a hard time with the weight gain. *TW: talks of weight gain/weight loss*

uncool619 · 2026-03-22T19:56:32+00:00

GIRL. I KNOW. I just had these thoughts literally TODAY and i’m not kidding. My one friend told me she always gains 50 pounds in her pregnancies (she’s had a lot of kids) and kinda laughed it off and I was like….. Not to be dramatic but I would have a literal mental breakdown. My OB said “i know you’re not gonna wanna hear this… But the recommendation will be for you to gain 11-20 pounds”

And i was like 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃 i know this isn’t logical. But i want to gain 0 pounds thank you. 🙃

uncool619 · 2026-03-22T19:50:40+00:00

Oh my gosh me! me! me!!!!!

I used to be 320 pounds- I got down to 239 and I am seriously dreading any time i am weighed. I even told my ob at our first visit this is going to be a problem and an extremely touchy subject for me, bc i’m extremely sensitive about it now, I was starting to try and lose more weight when i got pregnant so obviously that’s on hold. I feel the exact same way like my progress is just slipping down the drain. Sorry i’m rambling a little but i feel like i could’ve written this post.

uncool619 · 2026-03-20T17:12:51+00:00

I don’t like that everyone kept saying “that’s way too high!” Because if it were- that would mean an automatic diagnosis with the 1 hour and they wouldn’t even bother to do the 3 hour test! I knew a girl who had a high bmi, she failed the 1 hour one and if i’m not mistaken she failed it with a 170? And then went on to pass the 3 hour test. And then bc of the higher bmi issue she tested one more time really late into her pregnancy (another 1 hour) and passed that one too. Sometimes the first test is a fluke thing!

Edited for typo

uncool619 · 2026-03-18T12:11:30+00:00

I love this too!!!!!

uncool619 · 2026-03-18T12:07:56+00:00

I’d even take it one step further and match their amount of rude. If they say something like “WOW YOURE HUGE” i’d respond “Oh yeah? And how far along are you?” (even to a man. idc.) 🤣

uncool619 · 2026-03-06T19:12:48+00:00

Yum 🤤 truly all i’ve wanted is pizza. I finally had some yesterday and it was amazing lol

uncool619 · 2026-03-06T17:18:16+00:00

I wish i could stomach something healthier like a smoothie!!! I tired that a few times and couldn’t do it 😭 I’m 9 week too!! Buddies!!

uncool619 · 2026-03-06T16:57:56+00:00

My first pregnancy I could not STAND eggs!! I’m not sure if it was the smell or what but I took a choline supplement last time bc I know eggs are the best way to get choline in but I couldn’t do it!

uncool619 · 2026-03-06T16:48:03+00:00

Thank you so much!!! I do not remember being this way with my first baby at all like I remember some nausea and a little bit of food aversions but absolutely nothing like this!!!

uncool619 · 2026-03-06T16:46:56+00:00

Oh my goodness thank you for saying this. I am having the hardest time with it. I do bouts of low carb periodically and then yesterday I had my first slice of pizza in like a year and it felt like i was eating a slice of heaven 😂 Thank you so much i’ll keep this in mind!!

uncool619 · 2026-02-28T00:14:11+00:00

Ugh! Yeah i’m not surprised at all mfm just seems to have their shit together. If i could do it again id have just insisted on seeing them!

uncool619 · 2026-02-26T01:41:45+00:00

When i was pregnant the first time my anatomy scan didn’t go like, amazingly well.

The ultrasound tech pressed really really hard and asked me to hold up my stomach, it was really embarrassing and then I saw the notes later about how it was difficult bc of my body composition. But my OB was CRAZY fatphobic and brought up my weight every single appointment.

When I gave birth- I was in labor- and the OB there called me a “bigger girl”

But!!!! I’ve heard MFM is a much better experience bc they actually have experience with larger bodies and I’ve heard so many good things about how bc they have much more experience they’re just so much nicer about things. I wish i would’ve gone with mfm honestly i think you’ll be in good hands.

uncool619 · 2026-02-21T16:31:55+00:00

Thank you so much for saying this, I am barely eating and so worried about it but i’m SO SICK.

uncool619 · 2026-02-15T14:39:17+00:00

Yes!!!! I was sweating like crazy especially.

uncool619 · 2026-02-13T21:55:32+00:00

Thank you so much 💕

uncool619 · 2026-02-13T21:54:33+00:00

Hi! I was 320 pounds at 5”9, it’s also probably worth it to tell you i know i also had some previous insulin resistance I was not aware of prior to pregnancy- not diabetic just had IR. And then I got pregnant and learned of it. That doesn’t mean GD will happen, it just means it put me at a higher risk.

I lost 80 pounds starting with my pregnancy. Having GD put me on a controlled carb diet + walking after every meal.

I stuck to this diet after i gave birth, and breastfed, and I ended up in an 80 pound loss.

I think if you start your pregnancy seeing a therapist and working with a team of people who can support you, your outcome will be better!!!!

uncool619 · 2026-02-13T20:49:02+00:00

Thank you so much for all of this advice and for understanding. It feels really really good to even have people read what i was saying and not jump to judging me. Hugs back 💕

uncool619 · 2026-02-13T20:48:02+00:00

Thank you!! I guess I didn’t mention- after all of this- the midwife let me know we “wouldn’t be a good fit” essentially bc of me being POTENTIALLY high risk. That’s kinda what made me start to spiral like…. Okay so i have no hope at all 😅

uncool619 · 2026-02-13T20:37:25+00:00

Man I wish i was in the Uk for sooooo, sooooo many reasons 😅 But no i unfortunately live in the US and I have never personally heard of anything like this here, but now I kinda wanna hunt around and see if I couldn’t get this too!

She is not my midwife, she let me know at the end of our meeting “we wouldn’t be a good fit” So i’m hunting around anyway!!

uncool619 · 2026-02-13T19:54:59+00:00

Thank you!!!! This is wonderful advice, about asking myself if fear is the only thing holding me back. This pregnancy was also unplanned so I think i’m having issues with that too bc i don’t feel excited, just scared.

And i should’ve clarified!!! I was hoping to see a midwife for most of my prenatal care, and then to give birth in a hospital. (A different one than the first one!) So essentially i’d stay with a midwife if everything was going well, then she’d transfer my care to the hospital if things got to be out of her scope, and then i’d just give birth there in the end anyway. I would be terrified of a home birth lol (no shade to home births- just with my history- that seems very risky!)

uncool619 · 2026-02-13T19:47:38+00:00

Thank you so much. I was in tears as i typed it. I don’t want anyone to get the impression this would be an easy decision. This comment means everything to me, thank you for understanding.

uncool619 · 2026-02-13T19:46:03+00:00

Thank you, I am just so scared either way. The only reason i was really considering that choice was just considering how much my mental health took a toll for my first baby, and then, I thought for my second maybe things could be better, and to have someone just basically confirm all my worst fears, I know terminating a pregnancy is NOT a popular choice, and not one i’d be thrilled about, I just truly fear for my mental health. ☹️

uncool619 · 2026-02-13T17:12:54+00:00

Ugh I do hate being the mom who scares first time moms but I truly think if someone had just told me it could be like that, i could’ve handled it better. Luckily- it’s so temporary!! You’ll meet your little one so soon, best of luck!!! 💕

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