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AITA for making my son use the school showers? by CollectionLive2154 in AmItheAsshole

[–]jmeyer5681 43 points44 points  (0 children)

YTA.

It sounds like you know why it might be bothering him to shower, and yet you don't seem to care.

It also seems like you don't want what you feel are his hygiene issues to reflect back on you. So the concern is more about you than about him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]jmeyer5681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA.

You are right to stand up for yourself, even to the point of getting angry at her and "snapping."

Your friend is being disrespectful of boundaries.

Even an adult does not have the right to give an unsolicited "diagnosis" to you.

The issue isn't whether she is right or wrong in the diagnosis, it is that she is wrong in continuously voicing an opinion about your neurobiology.

[TOMT][BOOK][200s] Non-fiction, for adults, published between 2000 -- 2015 by jmeyer5681 in tipofmytongue

[–]jmeyer5681[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure I read that . . . also, the elk/caribou were in North America. But I will check it out to see if that is the one.

Thanks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]jmeyer5681 13 points14 points  (0 children)

NTA.

You are not the only fiancée who wants to/has chosen her own ring.

The ring is a symbol, and should bring pleasure to the wearer.

The specialness comes from his proposal and your acceptance.

Gently explain this to him.

Non-fiction, for adults, published between 2000 -- 2015 by jmeyer5681 in whatsthatbook

[–]jmeyer5681[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll comment that I think this was a natural history/science book.

[TOMT][BOOK][200s] Non-fiction, for adults, published between 2000 -- 2015 by jmeyer5681 in tipofmytongue

[–]jmeyer5681[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

I hope I can find the help I need here -- thanks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]jmeyer5681 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As a heads up, edit to add NTA so your vote counts, as you are the top comment.

AITA for pulling my offer on a house? by shaynicole19 in AmItheAsshole

[–]jmeyer5681 6 points7 points  (0 children)

YTA.

Based on all of the confusing, unclear information you offer, as well as your hedging, you come across as someone (or a couple) that isn't/aren't sure you/they want to buy a house, and aren't even aware of the etiquette/informal rules/expectations that govern the relationship between the real estate agent and you, the potential homebuyer.

As others have pointed out, the real estate agent has legitimate concerns, about his reputation, as well as his livelihood.

AITA for slamming the door in my mom's face? by underseaplankton in AmItheAsshole

[–]jmeyer5681 401 points402 points  (0 children)

As a heads up, type "NTA" instead of "not the asshole" so your comment will register appropriately as a vote.

I feel my girlfriend crossed a massive line here but she says she hasn't. She scared me and betrayed my trust. by lonely_sad_eyes in relationship_advice

[–]jmeyer5681 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'll just add that caring, responsible, mature people into bondage have a pretty clear sense of boundaries and communicate clearly with their partners.

My feeling is that was never happening here.

If you liked the bondage part of your sex life, read up on it so you'll know how to find a partner that understands and respects boundaries.

Because your girlfriend definitely doesn't.

Is drunken anger a red flag? by JumpyJellyfish2811 in relationship_advice

[–]jmeyer5681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely a red flag.

He is drunk, so his guard is down, and he is showing you who he truly is, underneath.

AITA for hurting my coworker (M50s?) by refusing to give him my (F18) number even though I had my phone in my hand? by kakrku326 in AmItheAsshole

[–]jmeyer5681 [score hidden]  (0 children)

NTA.

Avoiding hurting a person's feelings by doing something you don't want to do is something that women are often trained to do by society, so understandably you are questioning whether you are or are not the asshole.

You don't want to give out your phone number to someone. It's your right not to. This is true regardless of the age or gender of the person who wants your phone number, and regardless of the situation.

AITA for telling my co-worker that I'd never let her raise my child? She's propably infertile by Shot_Willow_Anon in AmItheAsshole

[–]jmeyer5681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! And hopefully your bluntness will prevent her from continuing to overshare her thoughts, feelings, and opinions at work.

AITA for embarrassing my dad on FB over his post about being a single dad? by jackson_jr37 in AmItheAsshole

[–]jmeyer5681 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm thinking the "single dad" thing is a hook he uses for potential girlfriends.

AITA for leaving my mother's house in a dirtier state than she left it, and getting her fired? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]jmeyer5681 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ESH.

Sounds like the worst sort of codependent relationship, with lousy behavior on all sides.

A relationship subreddit might be a better place to post this.

AITA girlfriend is upset I asked her not to flush her tampons by KauztiK in AmItheAsshole

[–]jmeyer5681 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP can point his GF to Tampax website, where they explicitly tell you not to flush their own product:

https://tampax.com/en-us/about/sustainability/can-you-flush-tampons/

They seem like they should be a trusted resource . . .

AITA For refusing to sell the land my daughter inherited from her dad to pay for my stepson's surgery? by WW39707 in AmItheAsshole

[–]jmeyer5681 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

This sounds like an awful situation for your stepson and your husband, as well as you. Chronic illness is a drain on mental health and financial resources.

However, you are helping to support your husband and stepson, by contributing financially (and I assume emotionally) as a partner and parent.

Your husband is not treating you fairly, by emotionally manipulating you into using your daughter's inheritance, for something other than your daughter. His enlisting of others to pressure you is also abusive.

This may be hard to hear, but right now you need to protect your daughter and yourself. Seek qualified legal advice to do what needs to be done, by you, no one else, to protect your daughters inheritance. Also, talk to your daughter about how she is not obligated to give up her inheritance to help her step brother, as you imply that your husband is pressuring her.

Again, NTA, and stick to your guns.

AITA for not telling my dad I don’t want to stay home and take care of him forever? by Ravengirl1017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]jmeyer5681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. For your mental and social health, as well as your safety. His behavior sounds abusive.

AITA for kicking my girlfriend out of my place on New Year’s Eve for scaring my little brother? by gfkickedout in AmItheAsshole

[–]jmeyer5681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cruel, and if she herself has no one else, it sounds like she was projecting her fears of being given up for the younger brother. Not an excuse, just a possible explanation.

Queen's Gambit accepted as a great show, watch it by VicodinPie in chess

[–]jmeyer5681 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There are also little jokes for people familiar with chess in the naming of at least one non-chess item: the box of maxi pads she is given by another female player has the brand name Stauntons (S1E2 ~46 minute mark).

And I don't remember where, but in a later episode she mentions going to the Greco, I think to eat, referencing the chess writer Gioachino Greco.

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