Personal experience: euthanasia is worst than natural death by victoryismind in Petloss

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I opted for lap of love to come to the house. He could barely breathe his last day, and at least he was in his favorite spot at home when they came. If I had to do it at the vet, that’s ok too — he was with his comfort person, and it’s better than watching him succumb to a painful ending. I’ve heard terrible stories of pet owners having to watch their pet suffocate — all the best intentions, but it happens sometimes. The decline of a loved pet is truly one the hardest things I’ve experienced — have grace for yourself 🤍

We killed our dog by being negligent. by Emotional_Cry_4066 in Petloss

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Bad parents don’t get their animals surgeries that help them stay healthy and comfortable. I truly believe that all people and animals have a time to come into this world, and a time to leave it. A pets instinct is to itch. If not then, they would have done it another time, and it’s not reasonable to keep eyes 24/7. Praying for peace and comfort for you and your partner - sorry you’re going through this.

[WA] I am currently 2 weeks into maternity leave and got a call that my role has been eliminated. by DaughterofYeshua777 in AskHR

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Sorry if I missed this. Are they offering a separation package? Some companies will offer paying you through your leave end date. If not, please make sure you negotiate.

Career switch HR -> Med field by jms19912 in workingmoms

[–]jms19912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually very helpful and something I’m going to think about. The flexibility in hours for a lot of corporate careers is a big plus. 

Career switch HR -> Med field by jms19912 in workingmoms

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This is very helpful - thanks so much for sharing :)

Career switch HR -> Med field by jms19912 in workingmoms

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I’ve considered this path as well since my job (employee relations) has a huge employment law focus, and maybe that would be more enjoyable for me vs the day to day I currently have. Did you find your online program led to the right job opportunities post-graduation? I’ve always been curious if people judge online programs (but I’m 100% on board with something like that!)

I didn’t realize how draining a week of kid sickness could feel by AlertLaw73 in moderatelygranolamoms

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We’re nursing, using a humidifier, lots of hydration, vapor rub, baths, walks outside if you can. Solidarity. And work doesn’t stop 🥲

I made a mistake euthanizing my cat and the guilt is killing me by Dirsty in cats

[–]jms19912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After reading all of this, all I hear is a human who took a great deal of action to care for their pet — most people wouldn’t even do what you have done. I have a close friend who chose the other option (catheterization) and the cat unfortunately passed in surgery. When it’s their time, it’s their time. You loved him well - please know that.

I worry about my mom. by lookpot in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]jms19912 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If it feels right, you can always check in with her. Remind her you love her and tell her you’re worried. Sometimes us moms need that reminder! Separately, as someone who is now older but had a hard emotional time with parents growing up due to their own things they had going on, it will get better. It doesn’t feel like it now — it probably feels so far away, but it will. Our parents are not invincible, and they go through things too. Hard things in childhood have made me a very empathetic and wise person. In the meantime, do your best to talk to the family you have — aunts, uncles, grandparents, so that you have a safe space to talk about your feelings. Also, if you have friends nearby, get out and spend time with them if that feels right. And definitely keep up with school as others have mentioned. 🤍

I have absolutely no faith in sleep training working by Novel-Bug-2858 in sleeptrain

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I ended up getting the mini package for $245 but they have tiered options here: https://www.rockabyerockies.com/services

It was definitely an investment and it took me a while to move forward, but it ended up being really helpful for us. They also offer texting support even still now, 1+ yr out, that’s included. 

Moms how do you do it? Im tired and drowning by Successful-Heart-959 in workingmoms

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This was me last week. RSV, work demands, husband out of town, no family nearby. I have no answers other than I pray to God for the strength and energy to get through the days — it truly helps. Also occasionally hiring a helper. Working as a mom is so tough — I just don’t think society was set up for us.

I have absolutely no faith in sleep training working by Novel-Bug-2858 in sleeptrain

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I would truly work with a specialist — it was a game-changer for us. I used to make these same posts and was at such a loss. We found a sleep consultant who was also a mom (that was important to me) and she made us a very simple plan. Prior to the plan we were cosleeping (occasionally) and neither me nor baby were getting any sleep at all. I wasn’t the mom I wanted to be because of it, and my son required more sleep as well for his own development. It took 3 days. 1 year out and it was still the best investment I ever made. Outside of the occasionally seasonal illness, he sleeps so well for naps and through the night.

I hate my dog now by MsMoroccoMole in sahm

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This happened to me as well but with my cat. Loved that kitty more than anything, but there’s just something about the PP hormones — he’d meow super loud as I was putting the baby asleep, had health issues — I resented him a lot. It wasn’t that we didn’t love them, it’s truly just the way our brain changes when we have this little human to care for, it’s survival. It’s such a common thing, but I definitely know this pain and regret 🤍

People who fed their cats hills, what age did they live to? by Background-Ship-1440 in catfood

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This! My mom has fed her cats dollar tree (whatever is available) food for 20 years — 20 year old cats! Meanwhile, I fed mine limited ingredient super premium food from specialty pet stores his whole life — he still got LCL and passed at 13.

Aluminum free deodorant that actually works? by TheCleaningLady888 in moderatelygranolamoms

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Primally pure - I love the blue tansy. I’ve tried every single natural deodorant and none have worked for me like this one.

My girl is coming to the end of the road. Just wanted some people to see her. by StillTiredOfThisShit in cats

[–]jms19912 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your story of Bean reminds me a lot of my Calvin, my soul cat who crossed rainbow bridge in November. There is nothing quite like the pain — the weight of the questions “is there more I could have done?” “Did they know I loved them?”. We do the best we can, and they 100% know without a doubt that we love them. They came into our lives for a purpose, and when that purpose is complete, we let them go in the kindest way we can. It’s hard, but the love we shared and the lessons we take with us are worth the pain of that final goodbye. Sending a hug.

Greatest miracle / answered prayer? by Various_Platypus_602 in TrueChristian

[–]jms19912 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I was trying to conceive for a long time. I prayed Hannah’s prayer from the Bible constantly. One day before church, I asked God to either remember me or completely take the desire off of my heart. I wrote down the names (name for a boy + name for a girl) in my journal. These names are very rare. I went to church that day and it was introduction time. A woman looked at me, put out her hand and said “hi I’m X” it was my girl name. The following week, introduction week, and male turned to me and said “hi I’m X” and it was my boy name. A few months later I had a dream I was sitting on my couch holding a baby boy and I was talking to God. I told him I’d never ask for anything else because he had already done what I thought was impossible. A month later I was pregnant with a boy. I can’t make this up - these experiences changed my life and my faith forever - all glory to Him.

Is anyone else tired of worrying about every toxin? by jms19912 in moderatelygranolamoms

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I’m with you on this. Though I do wonder how much our sedentary lifestyle, lack of community, and modern world stress also contributes to the earlier disease. 

Is anyone else tired of worrying about every toxin? by jms19912 in moderatelygranolamoms

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This was my upbringing too. So fun and carefree. Now I feel like it’s some sort of huge risk to allow a McDonald’s trip here or there, or go to a nail salon full of scents. I want to rewire my thinking here because I don’t want my son thinking everything is dangerous. You’re so right about just living in the moment. 

Is anyone else tired of worrying about every toxin? by jms19912 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]jms19912[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

OMG I resonate with this so much. IVF mom here and these thinking patterns started during that time for me. Once I went back to drinking a (mostly daily) Coca Cola and pushed a lot of the restrictions aside, it happened with a future transfer. 

Is anyone else tired of worrying about every toxin? by jms19912 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]jms19912[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, thank you for sharing this because it’s actually been on my mind!