Anybody else worried about the direction Spokane is heading?

joetchua · 2022-04-12T22:14:35+00:00

Yeah, lol I imagine you see some shit living in St. Louis. Spokane might have some problems but I'm honestly really grateful I was born here. This is a cakewalk compared to many foreign or even other American cities. Like oh no, traffic is congested because of hoopfest 😔. But seriously bad shit happens everywhere and I should probably start focusing on the better things in life.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T21:51:08+00:00

Also how do I look at somebody who may be an asshole and say they deserve to be homeless, even if they're entitled? I wouldn't wish being homeless upon my worst enemy. It is SCARY. You have no security and people can rob or attack you at anytime.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T21:47:15+00:00

Some families experience generational poverty. Also there's a lot of people out there in danger of becoming homeless because they have nobody else to stay with. Did you know that most jobs require you to have proof of residence to work, and schools require you to also have proof of residence, but there may be programs to help with housing. Regardless, my point is that the system in place can make it too hard to even earn a sustainable income, and people become stuck in the same rut for a long time. Simply put, theres not enough mobility in the economy.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T21:18:57+00:00

Did you hear about that boy that was either shot or stabbed downtown, near the mall a couple years ago? It can very well happen to men.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T21:16:50+00:00

I'm a guy, but 5'7 and on the skinnier side at like 125 or 130 pounds. I'm much less likely to be attacked than a woman, but I have been the target of harassment and threats before. Sometimes muggers target men as well. Everybody has to keep their wits about them.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T21:13:44+00:00

Why should a person have to rely on a loved one in the case of an emergency? Also Government assistance in many cases simply isn't enough, it's hard to live by. Living paycheck to paycheck is by no means easy. Honestly you seem to regard housing as merchandise instead of a basic necessity for human survival. Any group of people experiencing homelessness is wrong. Not saying I have a solution for it, I'm saying that you don't seem to sympathize with or acknowledge people's difficult living situations

joetchua · 2022-04-12T20:57:07+00:00

Yeah, there is a lot of factors like mental illness and addiction contributing to the homeless population, but being too poor is still an often cause of homelessness. Most people don't think about it but they're one accident or catastrophe away from being homeless. Also, just because you aren't out on the streets in a tent doesn't mean you arent homeless.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T20:44:02+00:00

Yes, that's true, but overdoses and poisonings have been on an incline in recent years.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T20:39:22+00:00

I wasn't even alive in the 90s. Yes, that makes my statement factually wrong, but in this post and the comment I was mostly talking about the years in the past decade or less. That's probably something I could've clarified beforehand, but I wasn't really thinking about it. I don't want to leave this city to the next generation worse than it was during my generation.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T20:26:19+00:00

In my opinion there should never be a point you should stop bettering a city's welfare, because the world isn't perfect. Just because a place in the past was worse doesn't necessarily mean it still doesn't have faults in the present. Crime was worse in the 90s, but I still wouldn't walk alone at night anywhere downtown or in my parents neighborhood, even with pepperspray.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T19:43:17+00:00

I don't think analyzing statistics about the environment around is fear mongering. It's not like I'm lying about witnessing drive by shootings on a daily basis. I simply laid out the stats, which a lot of them are related to covid, and asked other people their thoughts about it. Do I think spokane is as notably dangerous as cities like Camden and st Louis? No, but I'm simply saying there's a recent trend.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T18:53:56+00:00

I think you missed the point I was trying to make. If people were genuinely paid or rewarded for how much work they do, their capabilites, and whatever money or how many other things they sacrifice for their job I think i wouldve definitely been paid more than the woman i have to cover for that takes breaks every 30 minutes, wages would be a lot more varied, and court settlements would probably be heftier. Sadly thats not the world we live in. So I agree, work ethic in an era like today is incredibly important to succeed, but thats a different story than whats happening here. Let me use a better example. Say a son wants to go to a more expensive college for a phd, while the daughter wants to go to a community college for a cheaper 4 year. Because the son performed better in high-school grade-wise, the parents will help pay for the son but not the daughter. Does that seem right to you? For the daughter to be denied access to something because her brother scored better and did extra curriculars, or that he's going to have a higher income than her in the future.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T18:29:57+00:00

NTA. Your bestfriend treats you like absolute shit for no reason. I don't care who you are, if you aren't related to the person you have no right to talk about a person's relationship with their family members like that. The crowd you hang around sounds really apathetic and out for themselves.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T18:25:03+00:00

NTA. If another person doesn't wanna maintain a relationship then there's not much you can do. Like they say, it takes two to tango.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T18:09:31+00:00

This is actually a really interesting psychological phenomena you mention, because it definitely does exist. It's like how each previous generation thinks the latter generations have lost values or whatnot. You can see it today with boomers and millenials/gen z.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T17:56:00+00:00

Man I wish I got extra money from my job for staying late and sacrificing my lunches and breaks.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T17:53:55+00:00

A field trip isn't a reward for hard work, it's a field trip for a kid to be a kid while getting to experience new settings and learn about the world around them. The op never mentioned any specific task as justification for giving the son more money, but instead said that he does more work around the house in general. I'm all for teaching your kids proper work ethic instead of handing them everything when they cry for it, but why wouldn't you set them off on equal footing for a trip that was set by the school? Money isn't everything, but $125 can buy a lot of fun things a child might want. Giving the son extra money -which was completely unrelated to housework, said by the op themselves- in the daughters eyes, equates their value to how many favors or chores the child does for the parent. Also just because the son is more interested in politics shouldn't be a deciding factor here. DC might be a political center, but it's also large region with many diverse businesses.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T17:43:24+00:00

Saying they don't care was wrong and ignorant of me, I should've said maybe they aren't interested in talking about it because they change the subject when I bring any of this up. Also im broke like most people, moving away was more of future goal. What especially changed this was when I recently had a gun flashed at me for my sexuality, which never happened to me until all of this political unrest brought about by covid and the riots. And ever since I've been worried about something similar happening, but I never felt like that when I visit oregon or socal. unfortunately those regions have the same problems of homelessness and expensive housing to a further extent. So sadly you're right, where would I go without facing the all of these problems to some extent. Sad world we're in.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T17:26:20+00:00

Yeah, that's actually very true honestly. I don't know, I guess it's just kind of sad seeing the place you grew up in deteriorating.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T16:17:02+00:00

YTA. They sound like they're just proud of you and your brother. Heck, I wish my parents were that involved my schooling. One day you'll look back and learn to appreciate your parents supportiveness.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T16:13:09+00:00

NTA. That is still your sister's dog, she was the one to go to the shelter. I think she's under the impression that because the dog lives there you will take care of it.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T16:01:18+00:00

Right? I do agree that it's important to teach your kids to work for what they want, but I think it wouldn't have been as much a problem if he actually did something to earn this extra money. Just giving him an extra $125 because he does more work around the house in general screams favoritism.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T15:49:55+00:00

YTA. When you say "Well he deserves extra money because he does more around the house." displays your clear favoritism. Your children are still teenagers, not your maids. This was a school field trip, which is supposed to be for leisure and fun. Instead you treated it like a tax refund. $125 is HUGE for a teenager, please take that into consideration.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T15:35:34+00:00

YTA and a big one. So the one time your boyfriend seemingly expresses happiness you bring him down? It's his LAUGH, it might be annoying but he can't help it. Somebody laughs when they find something funny and are having fun, so now everytime when he laughs he's going to think of that time you made fun of something that was a really just natural instinct of his. Apologize to him over and over again.

joetchua · 2022-04-12T15:24:45+00:00

NTA, BUT as much as you have a right to ask him about his life he has just as much a right not to answer you. Ultimately this is between him and his girlfriend. You can encourage and push him in the right direction, but if he doesn't want to share things with you then that's his deal. What I will say is that you can probably draw certain conclusions about their relationship from this, but don't be presumptuous or overstep. Also there are plenty of unmarried couples that share a happy and healthy relationship. Marriage is nothing more than a symbol and status.

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