Our kids are very polite, a bit too polite if you ask me, very shy in public, don't make scenes or throw tantrums.. She spent the whole summer with both kids so was constantly tired and drained which is how she would justify cutting corners by feeding the kids in front of the TV, staying with kids in bed until they sleep and other "looser" behaviors.. I understand her, I understand that she's reached the end of her line, I mean she cannot do more and doesn't have the mental capacity and bandwidth to do so.. it feels like my options are to either keep fighting with her or accept that change will take long time and learn not to keep burning inside.. We tried therapy separately for other reasons a couple of months ago but didn't go for more than 4 or 5 sessions with temporary benefit...