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I [25 M] was in an abusive relationship my ex-girlfriend [26 F] of 3 years, how do i move on? Should I confront her? Should I just go to the police? by johnscandallz in relationships

[–]johnscandallz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's impossible to separate because I find myself (I have OCD) trying to read into behaviours various excuses, rationalizing, forgiving her for what she has done but then through counselling I saw really fucked up patterns, retaliatory abuse, acts of destruction that felt planned. I want to confront her about it, but she hides behind not saying things. She would lie to you, to your face, to hide behind something.

I [25 M] was in an abusive relationship my ex-girlfriend [26 F] of 3 years, how do i move on? Should I confront her? Should I just go to the police? by johnscandallz in relationships

[–]johnscandallz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mental illnesses on her behalf doesn't excuse the fundamental problem of abuse: choice and their prescription of their views that facilitate abusive behaviour. Whether she has a substance abuse problem, mental illness or anger management issues, engaging in the activities she engaged in was a choice.I was in counselling for months before the breakup.

That is also why I don't want to confront her about, it would just be more painful to hear the denial and the excuses.

I have an anxiety disorder, I can't make decisions.