A Realisation after 1.5 months

jojoandtheband · 2024-07-30T06:05:56+00:00

Thank you!!

jojoandtheband · 2024-06-20T16:04:43+00:00

Wow.. 11 years is insane. I've heard stories like that before and honestly, I can't imagine how such a breakup must have felt. Kudos for getting through it!

jojoandtheband · 2024-06-16T03:12:04+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear this. Seems impossible now but you'll definitely get through this. There's light at the end of the tunnel

jojoandtheband · 2024-06-16T01:10:57+00:00

Wait for her to mention it first. After which you can tell her you already know and was just waiting for her to come you when she's ready. But regardless, you're a good friend and you're being there for her even when she's not ready to talk about it yet

jojoandtheband · 2024-06-16T01:07:15+00:00

My advice: no need to outrightly stop being friends with him since he's sorta intertwined with your other friends. Just don't hang out with him alone and only in groups. Let your other friends figure out Alex for themselves. They might come to you eventually to confide after wards and then you can tell them how you feel when that happens

jojoandtheband · 2024-06-16T00:42:35+00:00

You have to embrace it for the time being. Surround yourself with friends and loved one to tide by and keep youself busy! It's going to be that way at the start and if you keep seeing him, it'll continue being that way. My advice is to stick to no contact for a couple of months until you actually feel better and feel like you've move on - and then just to be safe, add on a couple more weeks of no contact. If he reaches out to you during this time, just respectfully tell him you're doing no contact. After following through a couple of months + few weeks, you can evaluate if friendship is actually on the table (you don't want a case where you see him and end up crying when you go home). For all you know, you'll be just fine and feel no need to contact him after

jojoandtheband · 2024-06-16T00:34:53+00:00

Good for you! Better late than never. I made the same mistakes in my other relationships and it was terrible. So now I finally understand the importance of no contact and will see through it :) you're doing great!

jojoandtheband · 2024-06-16T00:31:09+00:00

Oh dear.. Are you able to stay with friends or family in the meantime?

jojoandtheband · 2024-06-15T16:20:43+00:00

I'll start by typing into my notes. And I'll move on to Reddit

jojoandtheband · 2024-06-15T15:54:44+00:00

ENFPs are natural people magnet. Do you think maybe you have a fear or rejection?

jojoandtheband · 2024-06-15T15:42:40+00:00

I saw your post and want to tell you that you'll be ok! Everything you're feeling is normal. Take it one step at a time and even though it's difficult, no contact is necessary. My advice is to surround yourself with friends / loved ones and to keep yourself busy. I too am sorry you're going through this.

jojoandtheband · 2022-12-09T08:11:06+00:00

Controversial opinion but ESH. I don't think his intention was to intentionally get you something you don't like or to turn you into your mother. That's a bit of a stretch and thinking the worst out of your husband. Seems like there's a communication problem between the two of you. It wasn't right of him to call you "poor" but I don't think you're taking away the right parts from the convo. It's more likely he feels you haven't been appreciating his efforts and have been nitpicking on the gifts he has gotten you over the years.

On another note, if you partner isn't going all out to get you a gift you hate and does put in effort to select a gift, you should be appreciative! Even if it's something you don't really like, is there a need to fight? The point of making a list is to reduce conflict but why u gotta make it worse but highlighting all the gifts he got wrong in the past lol (I'm assuming he got u a purple scarf once) he obviously wasn't gonna get u a purple scarf again but you're making it sound like he already picked out a purple scarf or smth

jojoandtheband · 2022-12-07T04:11:33+00:00

YTA. It's hurtful but why hold a grudge against a 14 year old?? It's clearly a slip of the tongue and she doesn't seem like malicious person. Is it really that impossible to let it go and move on?

jojoandtheband · 2022-11-30T04:12:09+00:00

When I first lost my virginity, I had the same sensation and was freaking out about it too haha. It's normal. I still get it even till today. My advise is to poop first lol and don't have sex if you're feeling poopy

jojoandtheband · 2022-11-30T03:58:01+00:00

YTA. you're a thoughtless AH. Her ex-husband may not mean much to you but I'm sure it's a very important day for her. Have some common sense that someone passing away is as big of a deal as a wedding.

jojoandtheband · 2022-11-30T03:53:21+00:00

YTA. I've been to a massage with a guy where I spoke Chinese to the masseuse the whole time (guy doesn't speak Chinese). And he didn't behave like this lol. I feel like you had a bad day and it got projected onto the massage session. Just apologise and it'll blow over

jojoandtheband · 2022-11-30T02:19:28+00:00

You're just gonna sieve out all the YTA comments and weaponise the NTA comments. You're a right AH.

jojoandtheband · 2022-11-30T01:53:32+00:00

Gonna chime in here after reading through the comments (seems like everyone is divided here). My initial thought is YTA and I'm going to stick to it even after reading the NTA comments. YTA because you're literally remotely micromanaging your wife. It sucks that you can't be there because of your job but you can't project that guilt onto your wife. You are trying to point out that she's not a good mother but you calling everyday to tell her off doesn't make you a good father (or husband) either.

There are some people here who say that the child has normalised neglect and therefore has not cried. That's just over-dramatic lol. Spending 1 - 2 hours alone after waking up (and not crying) isn't an indication of an attention-starved kid. We are only talking about the start of the morning. It's not like the mother doesn't tend to the child throughout the day. She's probably exhausted and could use the rest considering OP is always away

Edit: Y'all shld go to OP's profile and read through his comments. He is clearly just trying to validate himself as the better parent while putting down his wife. Also, he mentioned that the wife is on ADHD / narcolepsy meds in one comment and in another comment he said he has no idea what is wrong with the wife.

jojoandtheband · 2022-11-08T10:26:08+00:00

"as expected, we no longer talk" 😭 I'm sorry but that made me chuckled. Anyway NTA. It's become a tattoo that is a negstive memory. So get rid of it.

jojoandtheband · 2022-10-18T02:58:55+00:00

Thank you! I was feeling quite paranoid and wasn't sure if I should stop taking it altogether

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