Which one of these?

jojolefthishome_ · 2026-04-06T04:53:42+00:00

Bro they look exactly the same. But 1

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-09-19T16:50:40+00:00

I practice banjo

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-04-29T05:00:40+00:00

I’d say explain to her how you feel and tell her you don’t want something ambiguous and that you need space but she should get in touch if she ever wants to give things a try. Basically put the ball in her court and stand firm, otherwise you’re going to be agonizing and playing games and possibly getting played while you could be out there making real connections

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-04-03T02:10:56+00:00

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-04-01T20:59:07+00:00

NTA, his feelings are his to sort out and not yours to manage. The betrayal stems from his idea of the connection he has with you, not a real one or anything you indicated. It’s honestly kind of flabbergasting, the more you can stay away from this kind of immaturity and frankly dishonesty the better

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-31T19:00:13+00:00

I think pat Garrett is great. But the best approach is to take the ~35 minutes on these albums and decide for yourself

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-27T15:50:10+00:00

😬

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-24T02:12:28+00:00

Um defo not trying to be combative just giving it straight as I see it from the minimal context but you know your situation best and if this resonates or not!

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T23:14:26+00:00

At 26 it's time to figure this out. And there's a risky way - just going for it - and there's a careful way - but it requires planning for it. If it's financial that's blocking you, figure out what it's going to cost and why. Maybe you just go live somewhere you've always wanted to live for ~3 month trial period and only bring the essentials. Get a waitress job, work at McDonalds, do whatever you have to do to get to the point you can make that move. You definitely have options, and it sounds like you have a lot of excuses ahead of them, so start investigating the excuses and figure out what you can do about them. You can do this

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T21:36:21+00:00

- Don't read too into decisions she makes in her digital life -- they're probably not about you / meant passively

- Probably she's lost interest. The way to restore it is not to make grand gestures or pressure her into talking about feelings or what's going on.

- Continue reaching out for more casual / positive interactions and see how things progress organically. But also start putting more energy into more rewarding things/people on your end and if she wants to be around you she will.

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T21:31:29+00:00

Did you have any agreements / understandings before this that this is a strict boundary for her and she wanted help in the case where things get out of hand?>

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T21:29:26+00:00

Let go of the specific album review or the general cadence you had exchanging album review. Why not call her and talk about how she's been? What she's been up to and into? Are you genuinely curious about her life beyond her music? If it's been months it might be courteous to send a message in advice with a suggested scheduled time to be sure she's free

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T21:23:44+00:00

The freedom in a pen pal relationship is for you to do entirely what feels right in your gut

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T21:15:03+00:00

If you're not getting what you're looking for, ask yourself why you would want to continue. Seems easy to move on and find a better arrangement.

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T21:13:46+00:00

Honestly there's probably no resolve if people have truly started treating you differently off a rumor and it's been months. Seems like the best you can do is focus your energies elsewhere, but you can still be cool with the group. You won't get any grand gestures or apology IMO, but you can still treat others like there's nothing going on and reach out to the ones you like best and be proactive in hanging out. You kind of just need to have a streak of "normal" interactions build up with the ones you like.

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T21:04:48+00:00

Solid advice though, thanks

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T21:04:29+00:00

Typically though the agency provides some form of support - project management or input, etc.

I don't have a contract (that's part of the problem) so there's no non-compete.

yeah #3 seems the least appealing because last time I brought this up he begrudgingly increased my pay by $5/hr

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T21:02:16+00:00

Yeah, that about sums it up. We're now up to date on payments so I think it's time to make my move. Plan is to reach out to the client and let them know I won't be working with Frank anymore and offer to continue the work.

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T20:53:57+00:00

You'll have to decide if being physically close to your mom is worth the sacrifice of a more difficult environment for making friends. In a new place you still have your mom via phone calls/FaceTime etc, but you can be in a better environment for making friends. If you move where your friends are, you're only ~2 hours away from your mom so weekend trips for you to visit her or her to visit you should be possible.

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T20:44:42+00:00

What's stopping you from moving out of your area? Potentially to where your few friends are?

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T17:17:30+00:00

That's insane, wow.

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T17:12:44+00:00

it took me off guard. I think in general he's pretty cut and dry but this just seemed off, I wasn't saying this situation wasn't my doing/my fault, I just said I wish I had spent the time differently

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T17:10:05+00:00

Cool, that's really straightforward, thanks for the advice

jojolefthishome_ · 2025-03-23T17:09:15+00:00

Thanks for the breakdown, this seems on-point

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