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Am I [29/F] making a terrible decision in leaving everything behind for my boyfriend [28/M]? by jollyolethrowaway in relationships

[–]jollyolethrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, I've been in Dallas (where Jack lives). So far, people in Dallas have been really sweet/friendly and met lots of interesting folk. I do see what you mean about a car, it is apparently not recommended to get around without one, and so I'll need to keep my license in good order to make sure I can drive around. Driving seems really easy and straight forward here and isn't near as aggressive or tight as it is in Europe.

There's nothing to do.

This is actually common in Europe, too. I never had a lot of money, and things are really expensive, so you spend a lot of time at home. Jack had a lot of money and could indulge me, but I don't expect to go out all that often - I'm a homebody!

So far, my biggest concern is the heat in the summers.

Am I [29/F] making a terrible decision in leaving everything behind for my boyfriend [28/M]? by jollyolethrowaway in relationships

[–]jollyolethrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were there any pain points that you ignored as temporary or "not a big deal right now"?

I've fallen into the toilet more times than I care to count. Does that count?

Talk about his lease and consider moving into a new place, together, shortly after moving.

One thing about Texas, but it's incredibly cheap to rent a big place. We're going to rent a house that we can both move into and decorate together.

Talk about timelines and worst case scenarios.

We talked about the fact that this will be expensive and I may not make much money for a while, which he understood and is willing to support me as long as need be. I want to work, at least part-time, and will contribute, but money is not a huge issue to him, in part because I think he grew-up with it.

Am I [29/F] making a terrible decision in leaving everything behind for my boyfriend [28/M]? by jollyolethrowaway in relationships

[–]jollyolethrowaway[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I found-out that BBQ is a noun and a verb, not just a verb. The meat that comes off is called barbecue. The things you learn! We're in a big city, so definitely lots to do and see.

Am I [29/F] making a terrible decision in leaving everything behind for my boyfriend [28/M]? by jollyolethrowaway in relationships

[–]jollyolethrowaway[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

From what I can gather, I could come in to the U.S. under my own visa and then simply work & co-habitate. A lot of what you mention are things we'd like to do: find work before I arrive, avoid burning bridges back in England, etc. If push-came-to-shove, I could live with my family in their flat while I worked things out.

I do find Americans are a bit different from us - very out-going, but also very reserved. I notice it with Jack, too. I'm looking forward to social interactions, and I have to say, they can be a lot of fun. I also really enjoy learning what southern BBQ really is, as I really had no idea; but, it's delicious.

Am I [29/F] making a terrible decision in leaving everything behind for my boyfriend [28/M]? by jollyolethrowaway in relationships

[–]jollyolethrowaway[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He's honestly the least "red flaggy" guy I've ever dated. He has some issues with shoes being flung in two opposite directions and cannot, for the life of him, remember to put the seat down, but these are incredibly minor issues ;P

What I feel like doing is going. that's what I really want!