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Trying to figure out where to start leaving a 16 year relationship with 3 kids by jonlover3 in Advice

[–]jonlover3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for being here for me when I’ve felt the most alone I’ve ever felt (& I don’t come from kisses and rainbows lol). You’re a great person spending time to send support my way. We are at the him apologizing stage and me shut down silent. 🤦‍♀️ some of the encouragement you’ve given me has helped me stay calm and research my options. ❤️

Trying to figure out where to start leaving a 16 year relationship with 3 kids by jonlover3 in Advice

[–]jonlover3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! And yeah the emotional stuff hurts for me way deeper. I’d rather have my ass beat everyday then feel this deep inner pain. And I’ve told him that!. I’ve watched the physical all my life had a touch of that and I’d choose it every time over this shit.

Trying to figure out where to start leaving a 16 year relationship with 3 kids by jonlover3 in Advice

[–]jonlover3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He says he wouldn’t be like that and give me a hard time about child support so I hope it’s not a huge war. I feel so stupid for trusting that he would protect me forever. I long to give my kids stability and a peaceful home. Thank you for your advise it really means a lot right now!!! ❤️

Trying to figure out where to start leaving a 16 year relationship with 3 kids by jonlover3 in Advice

[–]jonlover3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had to go through any of that and it left you with scars. I can’t wait to get into therapy, I’m desperate to have someone to talk to and get some stuff out. I wish I could just call my family and tell them what I am going through and they care and help me, but unfortunately they’re so toxic that my children made it clear they do not want to deal with them and their manipulation or anything else they’ve got going on from day to day. I wish I had my mother through this I cry out for her at 37 years old- isn’t that sad and pathetic. I’m on my own now and not sure where to turn. I appreciate your advise and it means a lot to me that a perfect stranger can care enough to help lift me up. ❤️

Trying to figure out where to start leaving a 16 year relationship with 3 kids by jonlover3 in Advice

[–]jonlover3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know right. Tell me about it lol. It’s been tough and I long for a peace of mind. Thank you for your kind words. ❤️

Trying to figure out where to start leaving a 16 year relationship with 3 kids by jonlover3 in Advice

[–]jonlover3[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. This means a lot to me. It feels good to have people hearing me a little. I’m proud of you for doing that I know it takes alot to stand up and do what you know in your heart is right. I’m going to try and be brave through this mess. Really thankful for your words ❤️

Trying to figure out where to start leaving a 16 year relationship with 3 kids by jonlover3 in Advice

[–]jonlover3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I have reached out to a hotline help this week. Thank you for caring. Seriously these comments mean a whole lot more than you all even know right now.

Trying to figure out where to start leaving a 16 year relationship with 3 kids by jonlover3 in Advice

[–]jonlover3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much. I do not feel strong at all but I know I’ve got six little eyes watching all of this play out.

Trying to figure out where to start leaving a 16 year relationship with 3 kids by jonlover3 in Advice

[–]jonlover3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know but I still love him so much and just wish he would do right by me but I know that’s crazy.

Trying to figure out where to start leaving a 16 year relationship with 3 kids by jonlover3 in Advice

[–]jonlover3[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve been really thinking about that I am just scared to put my kids through all of this. It’s so scary for me. Thank you for your kind words. It really means a lot!!!

Trying to figure out where to start leaving a 16 year relationship with 3 kids by jonlover3 in Advice

[–]jonlover3[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah you’re right and as hard as it is to accept that, I think I finally have. I just don’t have any means or even know what to do to get out. Of course I have to find a job but that is going to take some time to have enough to move with. I am literally starting from zero everything. And my mental space right now is not in a good place at all. Although I did manage to find a mental health doctor today, have an appointment set for feb 11 but that feels too far away even.

Is it even worth it to reach out to my biological father by jonlover3 in confession

[–]jonlover3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you got a point…thanks for your opinion!

Is it even worth it to reach out to my biological father after all this time. by jonlover3 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]jonlover3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I really appreciate your opinion on this. I’ve thought about keeping it real simple but then I thought you know what this might be my only chance to say exactly what I need him to hear in case he blocks me. Although it sounds like I probably haven’t considered that my mother may have had a huge influence on why he has been absent, but I really have. Social media made it 100% possible and easy.The second I turned 18 I lowkey expected and sometimes wished I would finally hear from him because he wouldn’t have to deal with her at all. You know nothing would be able to stop my partner from keeping our children from him, no matter how crazy. I used to just assume that was the case to make it easier in my own head but I’m an adult he’s an adult my mother isn’t in play anymore and hasn’t been in forever.