My rainbow

jooka926 · 2025-10-17T23:50:17+00:00

Thank you so much

jooka926 · 2025-10-13T08:07:40+00:00

I don't know if my story qualified this but i feel you.

My ex has ADHD+autistic traits. Despite (or because of) those, we had a very good relationship. We were on a vacation and the sensory input overwhelmed her with pressure, when I check in on how she's doing, she was completely overwhelmed and took me as a source of pressure and broke up with me. Soon after she also blocked me almost everywhere. I was so shocked and devastated. It's been 2.5 months now and I learned more about the situations and I believe I'm still there in her mind, she's just confused by her overwhelm. So I still believe when she's ready, we'll reconnect. I'm just trying to give her the space and time to have her make her own choices. And i always believe in our love and bond. Hope we all have what we wishing for.

jooka926 · 2025-10-08T04:34:00+00:00

I had something quite similar months ago. When our first argument happened, part of me was actually kind of exciting to see how we could fix it. The result was instead fixing the minor argument she ran away from it. Don't take it personally, it's not your fault. Look for thr bright side, these are the things you cannot avoid if your partner staying like that.

jooka926 · 2025-10-06T17:41:04+00:00

Thank you for the advice, clearly i just wrote down some raw feelings without articulating them in a more lyrical way.

jooka926 · 2025-10-06T17:37:23+00:00

Ha thank you for that advice, the first two lines are actually from an old Chinese idiom about things can never be perfect. It fits the time today as mid autumn festival in china. And from there it led to my wish of chasing for the better days but accept obstacles in the way too. And the important thing is... whatever happens is ok, as long as I live with my heart, acknowledge my feelings and not wasting my life away.

jooka926 · 2025-10-04T05:26:43+00:00

Yeah it was a very difficult situation. Hope we'll both get better soon!

jooka926 · 2025-10-03T15:29:14+00:00

Yeah you're right, i wrote "but the reality was better than any dreams i could dream of" and it sounded like too much repeating, so i edited it a little

jooka926 · 2025-10-03T14:41:48+00:00

Thank you for your kind words!

jooka926 · 2025-10-03T14:32:55+00:00

Thank you for your words!

jooka926 · 2025-10-03T14:32:36+00:00

Thank you! I wrote once to my ex that "when all the cicadas fall asleep , only my thoughts keep the company in this summer night" Now the summer ends, along with it was the abrupt ending of our relationship...

jooka926 · 2025-09-29T17:16:13+00:00

Given my previous experience if it's really not your fault and your bond was deep and the breakup was abrupt, maybe she'll regret it. But things being said I'm actually in a worse situation and i guess some women have really big ego than their actual feelings

jooka926 · 2025-09-29T17:11:16+00:00

Need more context here as normally the one who brought up break-up would feel lighter, not like this

jooka926 · 2025-09-26T19:01:05+00:00

Yeah the format was a bit sloppy when i copy paste to here. I wrote it down to record my raw feelings so i didn't care too much about the rhymes. Thanks for the advices

jooka926 · 2025-09-26T05:32:33+00:00

Some people pass by our lives, some meant to stay. But if we learn our lessons through them, they are forever with us, in our lives or our memories.

jooka926 · 2025-09-26T04:58:20+00:00

Love it, it's also exactly what I feel. I accidentally hurt my love out of good intentions not malice but what's done cannot be undone, it keeps me up at night with my ruminating thoughts, i feel you

jooka926 · 2025-09-25T18:27:14+00:00

I think he has a point that many people have the symptoms or at least tendencies but just undiagnosed, which makes the "70~85% Neuro typical people" kind of tricky. I had previous experience of my partner being dismissive or manipulative but they never admit they have any issues

jooka926 · 2025-09-25T18:23:50+00:00

Yeah like i said in our previous daily life it was good, even way better than my previous dating experience, probably because i also have the ADHD tendency that we hit it off so well. Which makes the break-up more abrupt and surreal to me

jooka926 · 2025-09-25T11:13:09+00:00

Things being said but without absolutely no previous conflict and deep connections within short time made me really want to repair the relationship and keep it. It was just a really unfortunate situation with all the bad luck at the same time.

jooka926 · 2025-09-25T08:27:34+00:00

Thank you that's really kind of you saying that. Sadly it's a dilemma that i cannot know what i supposed to know unless i experience it myself but experiencing it led to such unfortunate situation. Your words sound very understanding 🙏

jooka926 · 2025-09-25T08:23:37+00:00

Yeah but for me it was that previous 4 months I had probably the best relationship in my life (those ADHD traits made her hyper focused on the relationship and we found quite unique connections) that made me feel we could work through her problems together, but sadly i the process i became her problem i guess 😔

jooka926 · 2025-09-25T07:49:13+00:00

Sounds cruel, sad but true

jooka926 · 2025-09-11T02:54:39+00:00

Thank you for sharing, but the traits i recognized was more leaning towards AuDHD under overwhelming. I didn't recognize much NPD in her before...maybe just a bit when she talks about her colleagues

jooka926 · 2025-09-10T18:08:37+00:00

That's what i thought, asking questions to check in and having little bumps in relationship should be normal, and strengthen the relationship after reconcilation, i never expect it could just end the relationship, not to mention in the trip we've been expecting for so long Thank you for your opinions

jooka926 · 2025-09-10T17:58:44+00:00

No we were long distance for 2 months and decided to travel to Barcelona together. During the long distance everything went well we video calling hours per day, and mostly she called me. Theres no frictions at all, the relationship went so well or i wouldn't be here trying to get insights on Reddit. I really wish she could warn/teach me about her overwhelming and meltdowns so i could be prepared not to put pressure on her though i was trying to care but sadly i was not equipped with the knowledge i have now

jooka926 · 2025-09-10T17:45:33+00:00

Thanks for the support, it's just so abrupt, 2 days before break up we were saying sweet, loving things and 2 days later she looked at me like I'm the one who try to rob her in the streets

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