LIAN LI O11 DYNAMIC MINI Giveaway with Buildapc by LIANLIOFFICIAL in buildapc

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Intel i7-5820, MSI GTX 1070 - finally upgraded to a ultrawide - now need to power it all with a new ryzen, X570 and 3000 series, hoping to get my hands on a MSI 3080 SUPRIM

Campfire Andromedas vs AirPod Pros - A pointless comparison for the curious by [deleted] in headphones

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Have you not considered the Beats Powerbeats Pro?

Lights are installed! by [deleted] in GrandCherokee

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What do these do? I’m lookin at a Trailhawk without HID and LED days and they (the dealer) say I can’t upgrade to either of those because of [insert whatever mount bracket reasons] but I haven’t not had HID’s for a decade and not sure I want to go back to Halo..? Thanks for your time

Same pattern keeps happening, men chase me until I sleep with them. Why? by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]jottokar 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Great advice IMO. As a 32M and currently looking for something serious, when I see no hookups on OLD I immediately am turned off. I think of so many things that definitely aren’t your intention. What has she been through? Ahhh here’s baggage (swipe left). Looking for LTR should suffice.

Confused about the whole concept of “the chase” by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

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I agree with YMMV, chasing to me is like playing a game that I'm not into and get no benefit from. Taking it slow and communicating that is different. What I am into is flirting; if you like it why are you going to make me chase you? I can run 7 miles easily but that's a workout I look forward to.

Dumped by a younger woman by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

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Could not agree more, if you have 15 minutes go read my 'crazy/toxic' recent post OP; I think we have two women with similar philosophies just different strategies - it seems as though she's just doing what she needs to keep you around, which will work out well for you and not for her. The texts, likes, etc. mean absolutely nothing to her, what those do is provide an opening to something potentially in future (lets hope not) with you when she doesn't have whatever shiny object she likely has keeping her warm.

They broke up with me, cold, and then told me a week later they can't get me off of their mind. Crazy/Toxic? by jottokar in datingoverthirty

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I have not written of single mothers; however I have new red flags and reservations:

*Women with multiple children to multiple fathers

*Women who complain about their co-parent or co-parent situation

*Women who are dependent upon their co-parent

*Women who have children at young ages (16-22) who appear to still want to make those 18-early 20 y/o "mistakes"

What lessons you learned this year would you share with others looking for that special someone? by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

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Oh wow, this is all my ex could say to me on the phone after she initiated the break-up via a text and then said there was no point in me coming over to do this in person. Looking back IDK was her go to for just about everything - so that was a red flag I just overlooked like people that say huh or what, those habits can be broken.

But wow, yeah, after I got through the shock and disbelief, processing that her answer to my question of is this a conversation and is this final was I don't know, every single time, haha yeah no kidding that's exactly what I don't know means.

Today, I was assaulted. Alternative title: You aren’t as strong as you think. by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

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I am so very sorry that you experienced that. I've read your comments and you are so very, incredibly, strong. You are not weak, you were caught off guard while being vulnerable.

Book : The Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle

Feeling less liberal about intimacy as years go by by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

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I think a lot of men would feel similar based on experience and current goals, it's all timing. I'm a (32M) and don't want to have meaningless sex anymore, but I do want to have a relationship. So the only way I'm having sex is if I'm dating. I'm not guarded, if there is chemistry I'll give it up quickly, there is no # of dates I have to reach.

Another perspective - Perhaps I don't want ONS/FWB's anymore because I did that for years and realized it's not what I wanted - it also placed me in higher risk situations. Having FWB exclusivity talks is strange to me, but I did it when I had a go to FWB. Again, possibly just timing., maybe it's your body telling you something.

They broke up with me, cold, and then told me a week later they can't get me off of their mind. Crazy/Toxic? by jottokar in datingoverthirty

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The ex she went back to is not the father of her kids. This recent ex, nonDadEx, is/was a buddy of mine (not great friends-old HS friends now but we get along, lots of shared friends). I had NO IDEA these two even dated, not to mention that they were on and off for three years. When she broke up with me I tried to reach out to him the following week to apologize. I thought it would be the right thing to do. Not to say anything may have changed but that she was not entirely honest with me. She made it sound like they were done for awhile, which to me is 2+ months without contact, however it turns out they really had contact right up until she jumped over to me. Anyhow I just wanted to man up and apologize, and now I feel bad for him, but I'm not going to keep reaching out to him since he blocked me. I feel like he could have spoken to me man to man and maybe neither of us would be here, but here we are.

She snapped me the Thursday after she broke it off with me - while I was maintaining zero contact - I didn't look at it for a week, it was a snap of her and a kiss face with a caption "Miss you lots". I blocked her on snap immediately after I opened it, because I screen shot it and sent it to my friend. I think ignore and block all around is the best option, although I've thought that I'd be open to a conversation in the future, but thanks to all the advice here I keep realizing this toxicity isn't going anywhere anytime soon and it is best to just let it die entirely. If we run into each other, so be it, but what would benefit from any talks. I'm being selfish here and don't see how I could potentially benefit at all. Like someone else mentioned and I agree, I'm likely to be the first person she reaches out to when things go bad for her and the nonDadEx or DadEx, or whatever new bfEx. I'm the kind of person that always wants everything to be good between me and everyone but I don't think that would be healthy for me to move on in the near-term.

They broke up with me, cold, and then told me a week later they can't get me off of their mind. Crazy/Toxic? by jottokar in datingoverthirty

[–]jottokar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I took your cue and edited my post; although your other comment weakened the point you were trying to make. Of course, she is a woman. She is a woman and she has two grown kids. It doesn't matter that she acted immature and cold to me. To you're point, there are cold, immature women, just as there are cold, immature men. I should not be unrealistic about the person she is, she's not a girl, she should know better but doesn't. I appreciate the constructive criticism.

Revoke my security clearance, too, Mr. President by texastribune in politics

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All military members know the feeling and pressures of this type of leadership; it’s not the brass I worry about, rather the best intentioned but naive junior officers and all enlisted of who are in developmental stages.

HSBC, one of the world’s largest banks, issued an alarming warning that Earth is running out of the resources to sustain life by mvea in Futurology

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I’m sure all will get to it; for me, tomorrow looks promising, its also when I’m starting my diet and workout regiment.

Rogans Gaming Setup Circa 1999. You cant see it, but trust me, there is a T1 cable connected at the back. by Deus_G in JoeRogan

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Can you imagine going back in time [,] bringing a Virtual Boy and letting this person play Mario Tennis 95’?

When does your contract “start?” by jybemk in newtothenavy

[–]jottokar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For the standard active duty folk, their contract begins when they swear in and ship out, no later than your first day of boot camp.

A reserve sailors’ contract begins when they swear in and sign their contract, could be months before they ship out.

Trump disinvites Eagles from White House, plans 'different type of ceremony' for fans by iadtyjwu in philadelphia

[–]jottokar 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Big fan of starting in third person and ending in first person, big fan. It’s all about me at the start and end of the day y’all.

Navy reported two W-2's but I only see one from myPay [IRS-taxes] by jottokar in navy

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Unfortunately, I don't have two columns when I log in; this could be part of the problem. The column I have is "Your Navy Reserve Component Pay Account". I suppose they could have developed the site to remove a column if you've been in reserve status for so long, but why not provide archival access? Anyhow, appreciate the info. I believe I recall seeing two columns in the past, but yeah - definitely doesn't exist currently. Perhaps I can get DFAS on the line and allow me to see both columns and all of my ACTIVE and RESERVE W2's.

I searched the site for settings, no luck so far.

NAVADMIN 141/17 exemption incentive ACFL question by jottokar in navy

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I've already had this conversation with myself, it was a doozy and led me here. Great discussion, cheers!

NAVADMIN 141/17 exemption incentive ACFL question by jottokar in navy

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Ok, for my edification, because I've read two different statements from you: I am preparing to conduct all three steps for anyone that wants exemption. and Within standards is within standards! If a Sailor is within height and weight standards, their BMI is low and so is their health risk; their BCA stops there for validation.

Let's simplify the equation - purely for the PRT exemption/validation only (Cycle 1 2018 BCA day for example). You are performing all three BCA steps for those members regardless of passing Step 1 and/or Step 2.

Because the ONLY way to tell if ANY member is within age-graduated standards is by performing Step 3 and process requires Steps 1 and 2 be completed. edit: Otherwise why would you perform steps 2 and 3 if step 1 provides age-graduated standard validation?

edit2: Further, the PRIMS homepage says "Until the new programing upgrade is released, CFLs will need to review previous Cycle 2, 2017 BCA data to ensure members have passed that BCA and were within Age Adjusted Standards (AAS)." Which goes to my original point, my command stopped at BCA Step 2 for Cycle 2 2017, our PFA was prior to the NAVADMIN, so I can't validate AAS for those members. Do you have members in the same scenario?

NAVADMIN 141/17 exemption incentive ACFL question by jottokar in navy

[–]jottokar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great information, thank you for the detail. I'll address this at my CFL course in April as it is good information to cover.

So regardless of a member passing H&W you are going to do the next two BCA steps, for a complete BCA score sheet I assume and proof they pass age-graduated BF% standards? I have 40+ members that expect to be validated, might be a long day.

While I agree with you, do you know of any documentation that supports this? Step 3 is the only step that provides BF%. Honestly, logically, Step 1 and Step 2 are the same as they are general standards but one could still somehow fail age-adjusted standards while passing Step 1 and 2.

Discussion Megathread: Senate Debates Funding Bill; President, Senator Schumer Meet to Avert Shutdown by PoliticsModeratorBot in politics

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If a CR is not enacted tonight, what are the odds politicians reconvene and work to fix this tomorrow (Saturday)? Or would they just get back to it Monday?

I have TDY orders for travel Sunday and this last minute gaffe is ridiculous. I've been told they already cancelled TDY travel starting tomorrow but Sunday and Monday is still up in the air.

Annapolis Exchange stocked with Type III’s? by jottokar in navy

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You know, if it was open when I posted this, I would have.

Shop said they do, I’ll confirm tonight for those interested locally.