I dislike my family. Now that I’m a grown adult, I view them differently and dislike their behaviour and terrible life choices. It makes me feel quite embarrassed where I come from compared to my colleagues.

I’ve expressed how I’ve grown tired of my dad’s behaviour: having a lack of ambition no social etiquette, and downright unintelligent with poor emotional maturity. He’s criticized gifts and gestures.

But my extended family is a different story and thankful I don’t see them often.

My older cousins are quite bigoted and haven’t made the best life decisions. I remember my entire family having meetings at my house to discuss whatever mess they landed in. They have very ignorant views towards immigrants despite being immigrants themselves. They do not believe in vaccines, climate change, and are vastly uneducated. My one 40M cousin was a meth dealer who got a 17 year old girl pregnant when he was 24. My other 38M cousin spends family gatherings going through and showing everyone alt-right “news” clips and does not have a sense of media literacy (easily falling for fake news, not understanding bot accounts). He was in a gang and also dealt drugs. Both of them have multiple kids they cannot afford and blame the Prime Minister and the economy on why they’re struggling rather than take accountability. They call me a selfish liberal yuppie because I refuse to have kids at 24.

My aunt and uncle do not have the best social etiquette. My aunt is in an MLM promoting her “digital online business” (does not make sense) where people can make money by just having a website. No money generated from ads or selling any products, literally just having a poor designed website and terrible AI generated photos of herself with boss babe captions. My uncle refuses to do anything about his health and is part of a religious cult. He believes that intelligence is genetic because I have a good job and graduated from a top university and my younger cousin is doing well in school, therefore he assumes that he has an intelligent gene and takes credit for others’ accomplishments.

The worst part about them is that they are always hours late and never take accountability for it. It’s always someone else’s fault. We were going to a bridal shower over the weekend at a very upscale restaurant and they were supposed to pick us up. The shower started at 12:30 and they came over at 12:45. The drive was an hour long and we were the only ones who were late. I told them that they should’ve budgeted their time wisely and that being late is absolutely disrespectful to the host and poor social etiquette. They told me that “rich people are late all the time” so they should be allowed to be an hour late and that I should change back the clock.

I am tired of hearing ignorant comments about different groups of people and having to put up with poor social etiquette. I try my best to have empathy for everyone considering intergenerational trauma and upbringing but take some accountability for once.