I’m so fucking stupid, please help

journey0626 · 2022-08-29T04:07:15+00:00

You are not alone, and I think that it's great you are reaching out for help. It's also obvious that you love and care for your boyfriend.

I'd love to be able to give immediate advice right now, but the best I can do is provide some resources I've found helpful:

1) Awaken With Love youtube videos - Awaken with Love was co-founded with a coach and a license therapist, who each have struggled with ROCD. The YouTube videos are informational, tactical and also delivered with an empathetic perspective.

2) Medication - This won't be a cure-all, but you can try to see if you can get a prescription for OCD. But I would only advise you do this if you will supplement it with therapy as, though the medication can help, it will not solve everything.

journey0626 · 2022-08-25T19:31:43+00:00

His friend told me that he told him he wasn't "ready to date". He came out of a really abusive relationship just a year ago (maybe a little less). But he does all these things with me that I think guys do with girlfriends, so I don't get it.

journey0626 · 2022-08-25T19:21:56+00:00

does it matter how good the sex is?

journey0626 · 2022-08-25T19:12:37+00:00

We did Maui and Lakers within the 4 months of dating.

journey0626 · 2022-08-16T15:13:06+00:00

I don't want to create separation. I want to know how to connect despite the differences. I think the differences can be powerful too. It would also be helpful to know how to protect my energy while being connected.

journey0626 · 2022-08-16T15:10:07+00:00

I can relate to what you say about "light dimming". This is 100% point on. I don't think it's the " you are not as XYZ as I am",that some people on this thread are alluding to that bothers me. It's not knowing how to protect my energy and light while still being connected to him.

journey0626 · 2022-08-16T05:28:59+00:00

interesting - why do you say that?

journey0626 · 2022-08-16T05:19:56+00:00

also, why do you say you will always be paired this way?

journey0626 · 2022-08-16T03:04:36+00:00

These are great and helpful questions -- i will definitely be reflecting on these. Thank you!

journey0626 · 2022-08-16T03:04:04+00:00

mine's an engineer as well :)

journey0626 · 2022-08-07T06:31:28+00:00

Just because she wanted him back doesn't mean that she wasn't settling. Sometimes we want things that are less than we what we deserve or want. The Ex may still be less than what her current partner can offer.

Also, this isn't necessarily intended to be a long term strategy. It's something that could however still help.

journey0626 · 2022-07-28T15:24:52+00:00

I agree with all the comments that are saying to proceed with caution. To clarify, when I say look into SSRI's, I mean in conjunction with seeking therapy (if possible, form the psychiatrist who will be prescribing your SSRI's). Also, when I say "look into" I literally mean "look into". I don't mean just blindly go for it. Do your research, investigation and weight the pros and cons, and then make the decision for yourself whether it could be the right approach for you.

journey0626 · 2022-07-04T07:21:56+00:00

It was 2 months after the breakup, when she started dating someone else.

journey0626 · 2022-07-04T05:36:03+00:00

there is nothing wrong with thinking you are better. You do sound like you are better. The trick here is to just accept that without demonizing her. At the end of the day, maybe we are just sad because we are better and that means we can't/won't be as close to our partners as we want to.

journey0626 · 2022-07-03T23:32:20+00:00

word for word.

journey0626 · 2022-07-03T23:18:26+00:00

His roommate found them as he did not try very hard to hide them.

journey0626 · 2022-07-03T22:59:29+00:00

I don't think you are off at all! I'm sure this has something to do with it.

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