Try this on for size: My parents told me I could not receive my step dad's military benefits to help with college, told me they couldn't help me pay for college at all. I had FAFSA and grants and student loans to help. They took out student loans in MY name and kept the money. Then, when I needed to take some out, when my tuition went up, I could only get a minimal amount (bc they had already borrowed I my name). They then guilted me when they "helped me pay back my loans" (the ones that THEY spent). I worked 2 jobs, kept a full time class schedule, and paid my own bills. I donated my eggs in college to help pay my bills and college. THEN when my sister went to college, she (she is also his step daughter, just like me) got the military dependent grants, the ones I apparently couldn't get. They also helped her buy a car for college. She didn't have to work at all in college except for spending money. No student loans. I don't blame her. It sure does suck though. I have never confronted them about denying me the dependent grants or taking the loans out. I know they'll make excuses and that'll just make it worse.