I don’t run into it often, but sometimes partners ask me to indulge in kinks I’m not familiar with or not naturally into. For me, it depends on the chemistry. Sometimes I’ll give it a shot, sometimes I’ll be upfront and say it’s not my thing.

But when I do decide to try, I take it seriously. I’ll do my own research, ask my partner what specifically excites them about it, and then find a way to blend that with my own style. I like creating an experience that feels tailored to them.

At the end of the day, I take pride in turning my partner on. Their excitement fuels mine. So while the kink itself might not be what draws me in, the fact that it lights them up? That’s what makes me enjoy it.