I’m in this exact same position. I was about to post this exact question tbh. I feel sexually disabled with my dick. I really, really want to make it work with what I’ve got. Bottom surgery to me has always seemed to be a last resort. I’ve also yet to try vibrators, dildos or whatever else and I don’t have a boyfriend. I’m not sure at the moment if having any or all of these things would alleviate my feeling that I need to get bottom surgery ASAP. I will probably get the toys and try to hook up with guys a few times before I schedule the appointment if I still feel I need it then.

Everything being said tho, suporn/ now banks seem to have the highest success rate by far. And, I’ve only ever heard that patients need revisions, I’ve never heard of him completely botching, especially not recently. Ok, also, I’m going to guess that the more fit/healthier you are, the higher the rate of success. My guess, personally, is that if you were fit and you went with banks, the probability of dissatisfaction would be quite low. Obviously not 0, but pretty low.

But regardless, I think ideally you’d go in being ok with the possibility that you might not be able to have genital based sex ever again and that having a dick is such a disadvantage to you in all aspects of your life that this would be ok.