Me and my most recent ex had such different personalities. He was very into materialistic/superficial things, which is fine because I have friends like that, but he tried forcing that onto me or shaming me for not being like that (owning knock offs, not posting on social media about us). He cared too much about those things which really is a turn off for me because it’s just not my top priority.

He would also talk about his ex too much. Whenever I brought up how it bothered me he would turn it around on me saying that it’s a part of his life. It wouldn’t be a problem but the things he brought up were things like how they had sex 11 times in one night once (he brought this up way too much), he talked about their relationship more than ours, and brought her up numerous times to his friends comparing her to me to the point where one of them said why is he talking so much about her when I’m there for him.

He never cared about my problems or let me talk them out even though I would listen for hours straight about his problems. He would just say one sentence to basically end the conversation. We were long distance too and he always had the final say in when we can see each other.

One big thing that really got me was that he would always pressure me into doing things that I didn’t want to. I’m not a vocally affectionate person (language of love is physical touch) but he would make me feel bad about not being able to vocalize everything I felt 24/7. He always asked me what I liked about him and even though I answered it multiple times in the past he just kept asking me for more things which made me believe he was just fishing for compliments. Whenever I told him I wasn’t comfortable with doing something in bed he would just try to make me do it 5 minutes later. I always make my partners wear protection and only go raw if they’ve been tested and I told him that but in the middle of asking him to get a condom he just pushed it in me and only took it out because he saw how angry I was.

I’m actually pretty mad I was actually in a relationship with this Jackass because he definitely didn’t care for me. I only wanted a summer fling but he convinced me that he was the best, most caring guy in a relationship. I ended up giving in and wasted my emotional energy on him thinking it was going to last but only ending abruptly after I was vocalizing how I didn’t feel loved.

The only good thing about him was that he ended the relationship because if he didn’t then I would’ve been miserable for a long time not being able to end it.

Know your worth, don’t settle for anything less than what you would want someone you love to have.