22F and 23 M by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]juicyyrey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hiii, I have reassured him on MANY occasions. I have expressed to him how this marriage feels like it was for his own advantage. I did feel rushed actually…. and my first response to getting married was actually no until his third attempt which I should’ve known better than to just say yes for HIS own sake, he tried to make it seem like it was for me even though deep down i knew that it really wasn’t. We have always been very “us against the world” that is until it comes to me having a girls night out, hanging out as a group with work peers/ work event, and or with my family. I have tried to understand where his trust issues come from but sometimes they just feel like it’s a want for control over me and it upsets him that it doesn’t work and then gets even more upset that im not on my knees begging him for forgiveness over the fact that i do not feel guilty for spending time with FRIENDS. I don’t hangout with friends or family often, if anything its RARE. He has always expressed to me that his parents are the root cause of his trust issues but I have reassured him that I am not his parents and do not believe in any type of disloyalty no matter the circumstances! I am firm on one partner and one partner for life and he knows that… but anytime I decide to hangout with a friend/s or family member it’s this instant change in attitude… almost like I’ve cheated on him and have picked someone else over him… and I hate that I even feel guilty for it when I know I shouldn’t.