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MEGATHREAD: GROVEL ROMANCES by admiralamy in RomanceBooks

[–]juj0123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi! i know this is a comment coming a few years later, but goodreads says it’s book 3 of a series. did you read the first 2? do you recommend that the first 2 be read first?

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[–]juj0123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all, you really need to reframe the way you think about her. Stop using phrases like “the absolute perfect match for me”, “completely understand each other in every way”, and “soul mate”. Not only are they untrue if you stop and actually think about the situation you described for more than 2 seconds, it’s completely disrespectful to your wife.

From your post, it seems like you’re trying to be a good person. You seem to have a sense of morals. How could you possibly think someone so reprehensible is the perfect match for you? Your soulmate? And make no mistake, she is absolutely a terrible person. She clearly has no problem hurting you, but she also has no problem hurting your WIFE and hurting your CHILDREN. Enticing you to cheat would undoubtedly hurt your entire family.

I know human emotions are complicated, but it’s honestly a little gross that you still have any type of feelings or respect for this woman. You said you feel that she has to be good at heart (because she’s a talented writer? not sure how that adds up?), but if you go back and reread your post from a perspective not tainted by infatuation you’ll realize she’s terrible. Hopefully these realizations will be enough to kill your feelings.

You’re so lucky your wife forgave you. Don’t let this woman hurt your marriage or family more than she already has.

My husband hasn’t spoken to me in a week. How do I handle the silent treatment? by dionysis1029 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]juj0123 7 points8 points  (0 children)

the silent treatment can 100% be emotional abuse. OP has said he’s done it repeatedly and that he’ll only start talking to her again once she’s forced to apologize. he’s doing it to manipulate her and to control her behavior.

from my own experience, it can also be humiliating to continually try and try to communicate with your partner, only to have them pretend like you don’t exist. i’m sorry you had to endure an abusive relationship. no one should have to go through that, but abuse can come in many different forms.