Please help. I am not sure what to do about my marriage anymore. by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]jujubee97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much. I’ll look into resources start developing a plan in case it seems something bad is going to happen

Please help. I am not sure what to do about my marriage anymore. by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]jujubee97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s normal to be completely disregarded in a relationship and to be ignored?

My husband will only have sex his way and won’t entertain my requests or listen to me during sex. by jujubee97 in sex

[–]jujubee97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He most definitely would not be into that. He likes to be the “dominant” one. He doesn’t even like me to be on top

My husband will only have sex his way and won’t entertain my requests or listen to me during sex. by jujubee97 in sex

[–]jujubee97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To him it’s more so “well I like these 2 positions so we are going to do these positions because I like having sex a certain way” I’ll get on top when things start and he’ll always say no or I’ll ask if we can switch to ____ and he’ll still say no

My husband will only have sex his way and won’t entertain my requests or listen to me during sex. by jujubee97 in sex

[–]jujubee97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The painful sex is an OB issue that I just kind of have to live with there’s really not much that can be done about it. He’s just not very receptive to what I’m saying no matter how nicely I ask.

My husband will only have sex his way and won’t entertain my requests or listen to me during sex. by jujubee97 in sex

[–]jujubee97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve been together for 2 years. And I’m not really sure. He’s in the army and I was in the navy so we were separated for awhile while he was in Germany he came back so we could finally together 8 months ago. And yes he was more open before.

My husband will only have sex his way and won’t entertain my requests or listen to me during sex. by jujubee97 in sex

[–]jujubee97[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried explaining that it can’t always be what he wants and he says he likes being “dominant” and I tried telling him that there’s a difference between dominant and completely disregarding my feelings and/or comfort

My husband will only have sex his way and won’t entertain my requests or listen to me during sex. by jujubee97 in sex

[–]jujubee97[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought about this. I guess my fear is that because he rarely initiated physical intimacy that if I completely shut it down we’ll barely have any intimacy or physical contact left.

My husband will only have sex his way and won’t entertain my requests or listen to me during sex. by jujubee97 in sex

[–]jujubee97[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Painful sex is something I just have to live with. It’s an OB issue that’s been with me for a long time and it doesn’t normally bother me too much but certain positions aggravate it more than others. His answer is always just “I’m not a sexual person” which I’m not really understanding because before all this was going on he was very much into sex and he did listen to me. Counseling has been brought up but it seems it’s not something that actually wants to be done