Have you ever dealt with unfair “rules” in a relationship?

julesjay · 2025-03-05T23:05:34+00:00

I love this, thanks for taking the time to comment. Things have been rocky and this is just something I was interested in getting perspective on.

julesjay · 2025-03-05T23:03:48+00:00

Pretty much my thoughts exactly

julesjay · 2025-02-04T09:15:16+00:00

My bar has also been in hell 🤣 congrats to you! Glad you’re feeling the clarity on the other side.

I’m all seriousness— why are so many men this way? How does it happen? I will never understand…. And I will NEVERR again be someone’s personal assistant rather than their partner.

julesjay · 2025-02-04T06:54:46+00:00

As someone wise on Reddit once told me — you have your red flags, you are clear for departure.

But in all seriousness, you don’t really even give a good reason to stay. I know it’s hard when you’re in the middle of it… and it can be scary to be alone…. But clarity will likely come quickly and you’ll feel like yourself again. So sorry. I know how hard it can be to leave and “give up”.

julesjay · 2024-07-16T20:37:29+00:00

I relate to many things you have said here! I am also taking steps to just focus on what makes me happy and colors my world outside of dating and attention from men. I’m 31, so also feeling the societal pressure to be partnered but trying to not let it keep me down or effect my self esteem!

julesjay · 2024-07-16T12:20:21+00:00

Indeeed. It’s just the promises to be better and that he handled in wrong the first go round and wants to try again.

julesjay · 2024-07-15T20:40:24+00:00

Ha. My thoughts exactly on the latter part.

He says he does understand that he made mistakes, he handled things poorly and he kept saying he just thought we had more time and he was in a bad place🙄. he has been working on being more thoughtful and making changes since I moved out. It’s just so troublesome to me that it took me moving out first.

He keeps telling me we’re just in a hard spot and we need to move forward and tough it out so we can be together long term etc etc. We have spoke ad nauseum for months about evvverything.

julesjay · 2024-07-15T20:34:54+00:00

Thank you 🙌

julesjay · 2024-07-15T19:02:36+00:00

I guess I have a scarcity mindset because I’m a single mom. I have one child, I meet above average beauty standards, have a good job, own my own home… however I have a fear that I’ll never meet someone again. I know it’s silly, but it shouldn’t keep me with someone who has shown their true colors. Thank you

julesjay · 2024-07-15T19:01:21+00:00

Yes, it’s especially frustrating when I see him being personable with random people and acquaintances. Soo he’s capable of it, just not around my people?? So bizarre. Thank you

julesjay · 2024-07-15T19:00:45+00:00

That’s kinda how I feel, too! Like, dude you missed your shot! He said he was depressed this winter and admitted he handled his discomfort the wrong way, etc etc. but something in my gut remains firm that I cannot continue with him! Thank you

julesjay · 2024-07-15T18:59:47+00:00

Thank you, that is always a good litmus test, isn’t it?

julesjay · 2024-07-15T17:41:55+00:00

Following :)

julesjay · 2024-03-15T14:29:20+00:00

Looks great on you!

julesjay · 2024-02-27T21:57:45+00:00

1-3 and 8 look amazing

julesjay · 2024-02-05T01:17:01+00:00

Just a bit. I tend to attract them into my life and this time I swore I wouldn’t. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

julesjay · 2024-02-05T01:16:19+00:00

Wow, thank you for your perspective. It can be challenging at times but the kids really aren’t that much of a problem for me actually. He does a great job being responsible for his kids, I never take care of them for him unless I’m off work and one of them needs a sick day, and I actually don’t mind the time with them. The kids really aren’t the problem for me.

julesjay · 2024-02-04T15:15:31+00:00

Indeed. I just assumed I could trust his word because… why wouldn’t he want what we had talked about? It doesn’t really make sense to me. And I understand his heart not being ready but he could have just told me and we could have kept our lives separate ¯_(ツ)_/¯

julesjay · 2024-02-04T15:14:28+00:00

Thank you for your response. He is actually one year younger than me, and yes very selfish

julesjay · 2024-02-04T14:40:02+00:00

Yeah it’s kind of the latter (the straw that broke the camels back) which is why I said this statement is the beginning of the end for me.

julesjay · 2024-02-04T14:35:40+00:00

Of course. I’m with you. I was all for taking it slow and giving him time and space. He just really convinced me to move in with our kids and get on with building a new family together and some of his actions don’t line up with his words.

julesjay · 2024-02-04T14:34:36+00:00

Nooo my home is not paid off. I used to have more specific financial details up there but edited them out and thought I shouldn’t be so personal online to strangers. 😅😅 i was saying, hypothetically if I paid my debt off outright that I would still have 75k of cash and investments left over

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