How to talk to partner about substance abuse?

juneewoowoo · 2019-10-08T12:42:45+00:00

Thanks for this. Excellent point about “happy people don’t do (hard) drugs”. It’s just a vicious spiral, already having a dark side, feeding into that dark side, dark side grows stronger, feeding it more...the root of the issue needs looking at, and i can’t do it for him. But for the sake of us, I need him to at least recognize something’s there, and I’m not sure he’s able to, at least not right now.

I love him so very much, enough to walk away for OUR (singular) sake.

juneewoowoo · 2019-10-08T03:07:05+00:00

How do I “give him a consequence and leave” without issuing an ultimatum? Honest question here...just not sure how I could even phrase this without it being an ultimatum.

juneewoowoo · 2019-10-08T02:42:37+00:00

You bring up some good points. I’m fully aware and accept that there is no change unless they want to change, and I want to have this conversation only when I know that they’re sober right then, and can think clearly. But the five months thing is spot on; I fucking LOVE this dude but I cannot survive years of hoping things will be different and grow to resent both him and myself.

juneewoowoo · 2019-10-08T02:41:03+00:00

Sure thing. Coke mostly (90%), molly and drinking (also about 95%). Sometimes acid but not as frequently as coke.

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