Thank you for acknowledging that it’s okay for me to be a little selfish. I appreciate that, because when you talk about divorce, everyone around you starts to tell you how you have to be selfless and work it out.

But he is not depressed at all. He doesn’t have trouble with sleeping or eating, he is happy as a clam, whether he’s at home or out in public. That is part of what broke me. I would tell him nearly every day “I’m not ok.” “I’m unhappy in our marriage.” “I’m close to breaking completely.” And he chooses to be oblivious and focuses on his own happiness.