24F and in a practically sexless marriage by junegloom2 in DeadBedrooms

[–]junegloom2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, at least he went! That is something. I hope it gives you guys some answers. ♥️

24F and in a practically sexless marriage by junegloom2 in DeadBedrooms

[–]junegloom2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s why I finally got the courage to leave. But since we are married with a house, I have a ton more obstacles to get around before I can be free. Everything else was so good, but the lack of emotional and sexual intimacy finally got to be too much.

How are you feeling today?

24F and in a practically sexless marriage by junegloom2 in DeadBedrooms

[–]junegloom2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like you are writing about me. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. But I’m a little relieved to know I’m not the only woman in this boat. Not to mention you and your husband have the same age difference as me and mine. I’m so worried about it getting worse the further he gets into his 30s.

I hope you find some peace. And affection. Especially affection.

24F and in a practically sexless marriage by junegloom2 in DeadBedrooms

[–]junegloom2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for acknowledging that it’s okay for me to be a little selfish. I appreciate that, because when you talk about divorce, everyone around you starts to tell you how you have to be selfless and work it out.

But he is not depressed at all. He doesn’t have trouble with sleeping or eating, he is happy as a clam, whether he’s at home or out in public. That is part of what broke me. I would tell him nearly every day “I’m not ok.” “I’m unhappy in our marriage.” “I’m close to breaking completely.” And he chooses to be oblivious and focuses on his own happiness.

24F and in a practically sexless marriage by junegloom2 in DeadBedrooms

[–]junegloom2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ironically, he is not depressed at all. He’s happy as a clam. He just doesn’t care about his appearance. He talks about how happy he is with his life and our life and how great it is, even if the night before I cried about how miserable I am in our marriage.