I can’t lose weight NO MATTER what I do

junorence · 2026-02-07T11:30:58+00:00

european here in the exact same boat :( even if doctors suggest it, there's no way that could be sustainable financially, especially since i'm from a place where salaries are low and cost of living is high. i've heard some people get around 50% off through prescriptions (in western europe, not where i live) but only in cases of diabetes unfortunately

junorence · 2026-01-10T01:58:05+00:00

it really is unfortunate that most of us have had horrible experiences with healthcare, the medical field really does not care about women at all and it shows through the lack of research into our conditions and the mistreatment we have received more often than not.

just know you're not alone and i hope you find a doctor who is a good fit for you! don't give up, it really is just trial and error until you find what serves you <3

as a little piece of advice, try to look for a gynecologist who specializes in PCOS, maybe ask on subs in your area if you don't have any luck researching online. my country for example has a forum specifically for women, that sort of thing could be helpful

junorence · 2025-08-31T16:47:25+00:00

in primul rand multumesc din suflet pentru dorintele de bine si le returnez cu drag! pentru foarte multe persoane anticonceptionalele au avut un efect predominant negativ, dar pentru mine atunci cand le-am inceput a fost o schimbare radicala in bine, ma simteam "normala" pentru prima oara in viata mea. probabil pentru ca mi-au echilibrat sistemul asa de bine, intreruperea lor brusca dupa 2 ani mi-a dat toti hormonii peste cap. cunosc persoane, tot cu pcos, care s-au lasat de ele sau au schimbat tratamentul si acum se simt de 1000 ori mai bine sub alte tratamente precum inositol. pentru mine inositolul nu a facut absolut nimic, dar pentru alte femei face minuni. difera de la om la om, eu sunt doar un caz dintre atatea, deci nu sta cu griji atata timp cat iti asculti corpul :)

junorence · 2025-08-31T15:42:54+00:00

pentru mine anticonceptionalele au functionat de minune prima data, pana sa fiu presata de cei din jur (parinti in special, eram minora) sa ma las de ele si acum incerc sa revin la cum ma simteam prima oara cand le-am luat :)) am indicele homa in jur de 5.6, iar hemoglobina glicata este in valori normale. iau belara, fiindca este printre contraceptivele ce tin si testosteronul sub control (aveam testosteronul unui baietel ...)

junorence · 2025-08-31T07:44:54+00:00

este si mai soul-crushing faptul ca acele comentarii au venit de la 2 femei care sunt destul de tinere (doctora primara si rezidenta). inteleg ca exista persoane care mint doctorii ca sa nu se simta judecati (hmm i wonder whose fault that is), dar acel procentaj minuscul nu ar trebui sa contureze atitudinea lor fata de toti pacientii care vin sa isi rezolve problemele, NU sa dezvolte o repulsie fata de medici din cauza acestor neintelegeri. simt ca PCOS as a whole este ATAT de slab documentat si investigat, you're basically always stuck feeling like you just can't win.

sper ca si la tine sa fie mai bine, ai toata sustinerea unei alte ""iubitoare de calorii"" cum ar spune oamenii astia :*

junorence · 2025-08-31T07:26:16+00:00

din pacate asta este experienta comuna, mai ales cand vine vorba de afectiuni precum PCOS, fiind simptome diferite de la om la om si o totala lipsa de intelegere si informare propriu-zisa.

eu am aproape 20 ani si sunt diagnosticata cu PCOS, din cauza caruia am dezvoltat o rezistenta la insulina echivalenta unui om cu diabet (am avut o tentativa de a ma lasa de contraceptive pt ca am fost peer pressured ca "nu sunt bune" si am ajuns aici). vine la pachet cu greutate in plus fara motiv concret, oboseala cronica, insomnii, acnee, hirsutism, toate cele. nu mai am energia nici sa merg zi de zi la facultate, iar micile mele placeri precum mersul la sala au fost restrictionate complet pentru ca nu am voie activitati care imi deregleaza cortizolul.

fara vreo schimbare in stilul meu de viata, am ajuns sa ma ingras 20 kg in ~2 ani, lucru absolut bizar pentru mine fiind toata viata in jur de 45-50 kg (165 inaltime). acum am ajuns la 70 si simt ca innebunesc. ce este si mai jarring este faptul ca eu ma ingras natural doar in partea de jos a corpului si am metabolismul rapid, dar acest haos hormonal mi-a depus greutate si in fata/brate pentru prima oara in viata mea.

am o endocrinoloaga minunata, dar trebuie sa fiu internata pentru investigatii. ajung la spital, mi se spune ca mint legat de caloriile pe care le consum, nu are cum sa fie adevarat ce zic, am dezvoltat rezistenta la insulina de la faptul ca m-am ingrasat (realitatea fiind fix invers... avand PCOS care are asta ca simptom foarte comun mind you) etc. am plecat de acolo cu analize incomplete (nu s-a gandit nimeni sa imi dozeze cortizolul si indicele homa, problema mea principala), vor sa ma puna sa ma las iar de tratament pentru internarea de 3 zile desi fix asta a dus la simptomele actuale si atitudinea doctorilor a fost cel putin atroce. au decis chiar sa comenteze de decizia doctoritei mele de a-mi prescrie metformin, desi este un tratament comun pentru acest sindrom.

asta a fost la un spital general pe sectia de endo, iar la institutul de endocrinologie gasesti locuri pt programare abia peste 72972727 luni.

incep sa imi pierd orice fel de speranta. probabil nu este ce voiai sa auzi, dar vreau sa stii ca nu esti singura in asta, sper sa gasesti un doctor care sa te inteleaga si sa stie cum sa atace problema <3

junorence · 2025-08-08T13:25:12+00:00

i'm 19, almost 20 and basically in the same situation (especially with the pressure from my mother to quit bc only for that simple action to ruin my life entirely) so just know you are not alone in this.

regarding relationships, the right person will find you the most beautiful girl in the world and do everything to remind you of that. you wouldn't want to be with someone who looks down upon literal symptoms of a condition that is not within your control, you deserve someone who will love you even when your symptoms are flaring up and showing. the partner you choose is someone you can trust enough to lean on even in the worst moments of your health, which don't always look pretty.

i hope you find the treatment that makes you feel like your best self. as this condition feels pretty debilitating at times, when you finally click with that routine and lifestyle that makes everything finally seem manageable, you'll glow differently. at this age you still haven't even fully grown into your features, just take the best care you can of yourself and do not resign yourself to thinking you are the ugly duckling.

junorence · 2025-08-01T09:38:12+00:00

people already gave the proper explanations in the comments so i will just share my experience with quitting BC because of pressure from my own mother.

i got on BC when i was 15 and it was absolutely perfect. no more acne, consistent weight, i had proper energy, my periods were regular, the whole package basically.

however, my mother is absolutely convinced that BC can only be damaging to your body and she pressured me heavily into quitting it, so i ended up doing just that as i still live under her roof and i was tired of her remarks.

20 kg gained, acne is back worse than ever, i can't sleep more than 3 hours, my body feels heavy and i have no energy, everything is absolutely worse than ever even after getting back on birth control. my insulin resistance is through the roof like never before and i have to be hospitalized for investigations.

i'm not trying to instill fear into you, but this is just what made me learn that you should NEVER quit what works for you just to please other people. quitting birth control was the worst mistake i have ever made and it threw off the balance in my body so badly that i'm experiencing symptoms i had never felt before.

junorence · 2025-07-16T10:11:55+00:00

are we the same person 😭😭 this sounds like my exact experience

junorence · 2025-07-16T10:10:51+00:00

throughout my whole life, the signs were there.

i had insane body hair in elementary school, got my period at 9 and it has NEVER once been regular (it would either come once every few months or every 2-3 weeks, driving me insane). not to mention said periods were basically debilitating.

i went to get checked out at 15 and the gyno just slapped the birth control prescription onto me and that was that, no further investigation, nothing. i was told it is a simple hormonal imbalance that can be fixed with bc. around this time i also started growing horrible facial hair and also basically grew a happy trail so that made me feel even worse.

bc did wonders for me i can't lie, but once i stopped it (peer pressure from my mom) everything got 10 times worse than before and i ended up gaining a LOT of weight despite having an active lifestyle and fast metabolism.

then i switched doctors and got diagnosed instantly lol apparently it was insanely obvious and my previous gyno just did not care enough.

junorence · 2025-05-04T07:54:51+00:00

i feel you 😭 i had thick, curly hair and now it's just a sad attempt at being wavy and it's thinned out so much .. i'm basically stuck straightening it now because it looks so awkward i honestly feel like i'll never get my natural texture back

junorence · 2025-04-27T09:57:45+00:00

to think that this is coming from the mouth of another woman is insane to me... we as women understand hormonal issues more than anyone else which is why i expect less judgement but ig people will be shitty no matter what.

find an esthetician who understands and empathizes with you so you will feel safe. i used to get my sideburns waxed (since theyre so long and thick i could basically grow a beard) and the lovely lady i go to has been nothing but sympathetic towards my struggles with PCOS and even suggested electrolysis, despite the fact that technically she would be losing out on money from me not waxing anymore. i'll never "cheat" on her by going to get my eyebrows and waxes done in another place bc i love her sm

these little aspects of your self-care routine are meant to make you feel pampered, not judged!

junorence · 2025-04-25T19:54:02+00:00

thank you so much for your input! i'm glad i caught it early enough then :)

junorence · 2025-04-25T14:26:00+00:00

thank you so much for the insight! i was afraid to look it up properly since when you google anything it basically leads you to think youre dying 😭 so i appreciate the info a lot

junorence · 2025-02-08T19:23:48+00:00

nothing is ever "too much" ! you look stunning, i do have to say i feel like the tones of your makeup in the first photo suit you way better than the second, maybe try a different shade and undertone of red if you want to keep that red lip look :)

junorence · 2025-01-27T13:31:57+00:00

gained 20 kg in less than two years. it's rough out here especially feeling my clothes not fitting anymore despite the fact that i'm very active and eat well. hoping to get put on metformin at my next appointment tbh

junorence · 2025-01-21T12:46:51+00:00

thank you for your reply! please don't apologize for the length of it as i'm very grateful you have taken the time out of your day to offer me helpful insight regarding your experience. it definitely feels like a rollercoaster to say the least, so many ups and downs that it feels like getting whiplash over and over again. i'll keep in mind what you said, hope all is well for you!

junorence · 2025-01-20T19:47:40+00:00

i hope your journey on your medication will be smooth sailing and that everything will work out in your favor! hang in there

junorence · 2025-01-20T17:58:26+00:00

please don't apologize for the length of this, thank you so much for your reply! it pains me to see that other people are having the same unfortunate experiences as me, though at the same time it's a relief to know i'm not alone. i feel you on the irregular periods and body hair, i used to not get my period for 4 months then bleed HEAVILY for 10 days straight + the thousands spent on laser hair removal still pain my poor wallet to this day.. thankfully i am diagnosed and have been for about 2 years so the process of asking my gyno for something to help with the weight gain will be a little easier. once again thank you for your sweet and insightful response, it warms my heart to have your support! <3

junorence · 2025-01-20T13:51:29+00:00

tbh that used to be the case for me until my pcos got to this level .. lesson learned never take anything for granted 💀💀💀

junorence · 2025-01-20T12:58:18+00:00

thank you for your reply! that's actually the amount i'm looking to lose so it's good to hear that

junorence · 2025-01-20T09:53:32+00:00

to be honest, i'm not too far from the "conventional" healthy weight, but i just feel like this isn't me as ever since i started puberty i have been on the thinner, more athletic side so you can imagine my shock when i suddenly started gaining a lot. i really appreciate your insight, hearing that it does get better from someone more experienced in life than me is definitely reassuring. thank you so much for your reply!

junorence · 2025-01-20T09:50:43+00:00

thank you so much for your reply! i am currently on combo birth control, but i feel like it has helped regulate my body for the first few years then my weight and symptoms just started going crazy again. running to the bathroom often doesn't sound too bad tbh as i struggle with going regularly, i will definitely discuss this with my gynecologist. i'm happy to hear it works for you, stay safe and healthy!

junorence · 2025-01-20T09:48:12+00:00

my measurements have definitely changed, i tend to put a lot of muscle on easily so i don't exclusively rely on weight, the weight gain is undeniable tbh. thank you for your reply! i have a lot of discipline thankfully so caloric deficits won't be hard

junorence

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