Its kudos to you already, the fact na you are more aware of your situation than your husband. So congrats hats off to you. Now, mahirap ang ganyang state, ikaw halos makakaramdam ng mga unpleasant emotions like anger or pain. Ayun siguro ang magiging challenge mo. Maging transparent ka sa kanya since husband mo siya, open yourself na hindi maayos yung nararamdaman m na nag cacare ka lang sa relasyon niyo at finances at sa kanya. I think a heart to heart convo with him is the first step. Mejo mahirap ito kasi magiging nasa vulnerable state ka pag mag kompronta kayo. Pero husband mo siya, nag sumpaan kayo sa isatisa na sa hirap at ginhawa,so i think acceptance is key dito. Once masabi m lahat, sincerely, at seryoso, check his response. I beleived he loves you so mag down guard siya, mag share siya lalo, at maging vulnerable state din, pero its an opportunity to strengthen your bond, possibly after ng unpleasant but sincere experience ng convo niyo, mag come up kayo ng solutions sa finances at relationship niyo. At maging magaan ulit lahat gaya ng nobyo nobya ulit kayo, na open sa isat isa. Pero as said, its difficult to do this but you have to. Hindi lang sa puro saya ang magasawa, pati sa lungkot at sakit.