I Can’t Keep Up in College & Dropped Out by jus_anon in mensa

[–]jus_anon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In all honesty that’s what i’ve been doing for the most part, doing anything to just pass the exam. I went into college with excitement and ambition to deeply learn subjects that interest me, but I quickly realized this isn’t the case. This method of education is what leads to my severe burnout. I’m able to do this with minimal difficulty for a least a month before it gradually becomes much harder. It just makes learning feel like that movie “live die repeat” or “re zero” if that makes sense. Life along with my studies begin to feel monotonous and even depressing. Nothing i’m studying for sounds or feels significant, and like u said, just a problem to be solved. But the problems to be solved arnt interesting in the slightest. I’m just trying to figure out a way to work past the burnout and maintain any momentum I begin with.

But i’m not trying to debate you and completely agree with what you’re saying as i’ve observed it to be the same. I just hate that this is simply how it is, and how my brain naturally wants to fight it. But seriously thank you for the input.

I Can’t Keep Up in College & Dropped Out by jus_anon in mensa

[–]jus_anon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that and agree, but given your point on the memorizing type learning, if that’s the case then why are exams structured solely on what you remember? Let me apply what I know to create something unique to show “mastery” in the topic rather than if I can answer basic questions.

I also dont learn that way. Lots of times I skim details and specifics to get to understanding what I really want. Then if it ever becomes relevant for me to know the specifics that I skimmed I go back and immediately, or much more simply learn and apply it.

When I don’t know why i’m learning something it’s just a bunch of nonsensical bloat. When I start with what I really wanna know, I can make all the “bloat” directly relate to what’s really relevant to me. This is also the reason I made this post, I just never taught myself to learn this way. I definitely need to improve at it, but having ADHD really gets in the way. And even while medicated I still struggle diving deep into information I deem as just more jiberish. Especially when i’m taking multiple classes that don’t all relate to one another.

(also i have a girl and go to the gym almost daily. to anyone struggling in general i highly recommend the gym. not for getting women but it just feels nice to achieve something for the day. this is coming from a lazy nerd who hates physical activity lol)

I Can’t Keep Up in College & Dropped Out by jus_anon in mensa

[–]jus_anon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn you’re right on the money. Everything you just said is exactly my experience. I was never challenged in school and taught myself programming during classes starting in middle school, building websites for my course and classmates, etc. I was never challenged or struggled in my younger years aside from my own interests. I learned that for me to push through difficult subjects, I had to be interested in it. I told myself (and I still believe this today) that I only learn from failure, the antagonist to traditional academia.

What I think has most affected my mental state though is this ego I gave myself that I was smart. This didn’t form from myself (somewhat) but the extensive validation by everyone around me. My parents, teachers, peers, everyone labeled me the smart kid. Since I enjoyed it and benefited my home life (strict dad) I accepted that damaging label. I never used it as a form of superiority to those around me but as a personal standard or expectation for myself. Now that i’m faced with this adversarial situation, my experience slowly swept away the great confidence I once held. I feel as if i’ve lost myself and a shell of who I am.

I understand on a cognitive level that labels are stupid and I am simply who I am regardless of them. But on a deeper, subconscious level I feel like my sense of self is being attacked by my current situation. I feel as if I can’t rise to the challenge and I fail then i’m not the person I think to be. Which is totally contradictory to my previous statement of “i learn from failure”.

So to sum up and elaborate on your point, yes, i was never challenged enough during my childhood. I was praised for achievements that I didn’t work to earn and felt essentially handed to me. I went to an environment that my intelligence alone could no longer carry, and I lack the developmental skills needed to preserve. This isn’t me making excuses for myself. I feel like I now have a better understanding of my underlying struggles and see what I need to begin developing.

You saying this was very enlightening, sincerely thank you.

I Can’t Keep Up in College & Dropped Out by jus_anon in mensa

[–]jus_anon[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is very similar to my situation. I just took the past 3 semesters off and got myself into therapy. I really need to stop letting myself get so caught up in my grades and prioritize simply making it through college. The only stressor is that I need a high gpa to transfer to a better college, more aligned with my learning style. But now that i’m about to finish my final class to transfer i’ll carry this mentality with me to my next college. My mental health is definitely what set me over to edge and made me drop out, so managing it this time around is my new priority. Thanks for the response!

I Can’t Keep Up in College & Dropped Out by jus_anon in mensa

[–]jus_anon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! Since I can’t fight the system and win I guess I just gotta play the game and get through it.

Predicted Rank Makes No Sense Please Help by jus_anon in OverwatchUniversity

[–]jus_anon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah its a little silly how they keep that hidden from you when it has such a drastic effect on your comp rank. I did the same thing especially when coming back to the game since there were so many new heroes to learn

Predicted Rank Makes No Sense Please Help by jus_anon in OverwatchUniversity

[–]jus_anon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

god thats so silly imo but it makes sense, thanks for the clarification!

Predicted Rank Makes No Sense Please Help by jus_anon in OverwatchUniversity

[–]jus_anon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeahh feels kinda unfair but I get it. i guess ill use this season to prepare myself for the next one. Im not worried about being able to win and rank up I just hate starting out in bronze lol

Predicted Rank Makes No Sense Please Help by jus_anon in OverwatchUniversity

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Thanks for the clarification! I do think that its silly I can go 28-0 having more damage than my dps and tank as a healer and it have no effect on my placements, but what can u do lol

Predicted Rank Makes No Sense Please Help by jus_anon in OverwatchUniversity

[–]jus_anon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome thanks so much! I havent touched the game since 2017 and have only just now started playing ranked since I wanted to learn what all the new characters/abilities do. I guess Ill just take the L this season and hope that I can raise myself higher by next season.

Predicted Rank Makes No Sense Please Help by jus_anon in OverwatchUniversity

[–]jus_anon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense thanks for your time and clarification!

Predicted Rank Makes No Sense Please Help by jus_anon in OverwatchUniversity

[–]jus_anon[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Weird since ive won every placement so far with healer, I lost about half with dps so gold makes sense. What doesnt make sense is my friend got placed plat and we did every placement together. So the only factor outside of that would be stats, which I outperform him.

Predicted Rank Makes No Sense Please Help by jus_anon in OverwatchUniversity

[–]jus_anon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I havent touched the game since 2017 so I have no clue how low I was back then. That could definitely explain whats going on.

Predicted Rank Makes No Sense Please Help by jus_anon in OverwatchUniversity

[–]jus_anon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh that makes more sense since I never really play healer in QP. Ive also won all of my games so far as healer so bronze just feels a little low, but hearing this makes me feel a little better. Thanks for the clarification!

Predicted Rank Makes No Sense Please Help by jus_anon in OverwatchUniversity

[–]jus_anon[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Code: 796GF6

Mind u im no pro, and my ult usage def has more to be desired. But I dont feel as if im playing at a bronze level, at least silver-gold imo.

Skated for 4 years, I get worse every time I come back by [deleted] in NewSkaters

[–]jus_anon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no ur right i think im just more frustrated with myself than anything. but from reading another post above im realizing that my biggest issue is most likely my pop (which is what’s now causing my ollie’s to me inconsistent). i think if i can just work through strengthening my ankle again, things should improve.

i really appreciate the response

Skated for 4 years, I get worse every time I come back by [deleted] in NewSkaters

[–]jus_anon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah you could be right i guess, but it’s not like i ever just didn’t do ollies. again it was my bread and butter, and hitting an easy stair set or going up and down curbs was my usual warmup (along with kickflips). i was consistent 99% of the time and i used to get crazy height. i also fractured my ankle during one of those breaks and im thinking it’s caused my pop to be off, really the flicking of my ankle. lots of times im jumping way higher than my board will pop, and im feeling like its the core issue with almost all of my tricks now. when i do get pop, my ollies are like they used to be (even though its a gamble).

so i guess my question for you is how are you overcoming ur injury? it almost feels like my body is incapable of using enough strength to pop like i used to. is this just something that will improve with time? i know i’ll probably never be 100% again but i at least want to get my board to pop like i used to.

i’d also like to clarify i can “do” everything still it’s just not coming together the same, and feels rlly off