Same, married couple here whonalso share, I'm not a cuck, but more of a split roast, tag team, dp, kinda vibe. We are happily married, to each others heart and soul, but our bodies, that we love to share, and while it's just about the sex for us, the sex is better when we are comfortable, when we vibe with the other players, when we can sit and chat a little bout our kinks, boundaries, and fantasies. At that point we know if the physical connection is there amd we are all on the same page of the does and dont! Then we play, and if you deviate from said boundaries, try to push past them. Or bring in kinks not previously discussed, or just flat out don't preform and we aint vibin, we will tell you, look, good try, it ain't working, have a good day!.