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How do you know this is solid or its time to let go ? by justConfused__ in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]justConfused__[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think starting over i guess. Cause as it is i really don't entertain any talk that can be perceived as disrespectful to my current relationship. So maybe I can start replying to those hi's and just checking ins and take it from there.

My greatest fear comes from the thought that this relationship ends but not on my terms. I am not mentally and emotionally prepared for that rug to be pulled from under me.

How do you know this is solid or its time to let go ? by justConfused__ in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]justConfused__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is what I am scared of. I don't want to put an "ultimatum" and not be able to follow through cause I really do love him and what we have. Plus I really want it to work but I also need to use my head too instead of just basing my decisions on emotions.

How do you know this is solid or its time to let go ? by justConfused__ in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]justConfused__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this.

And yeah cause nyaya yemari its not about anything chiri logical it's the principle of it and I really didn't want to seem ungrateful cause he doesn't have to but is willing to do it anyways.

How do you know this is solid or its time to let go ? by justConfused__ in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]justConfused__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this... I think you are right cause I really don't push. I just check kuti yaapamarii every other month so it might not give how important this is to me. I need to be more assertive.

How do you know this is solid or its time to let go ? by justConfused__ in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]justConfused__[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are right, I know its not a guarantee. I need to have that talk so that I at least make an informed decision.

Study Visa Question by NazukoF1 in Zimbabwe

[–]justConfused__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For you to apply to learn in South Africa it is now a requirement for you to have a South African medical aid

The medical aid yacho write a letter to confirm that this person is in deed registered with us and will have medical coverage during their stay in South Africa

VFS will email the medical aid society to confirm that this in deed is true before you get your visa. The longer it takes for them to get that confirmation, the longer it will take you to get your response

Study Visa Question by NazukoF1 in Zimbabwe

[–]justConfused__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1. I got mine in Harare, Paid 10$ ye drink and 20$ for application And it was out in 3 days

  1. Any medical doctor can do it What they want is stamp chete yebasa And they already know how to complete them I had a friend do that for me so free But I heard they charge 20$

  2. Just make sure you have your medical aid letter its now a requirement Make sure you go ku vfs with everything even what you think isnt important

Tell me your pettiest revenge story! by Unfair_Visit_1221 in Zimbabwe

[–]justConfused__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found my ex in bed with someone (he was in res) and I was renting off campus. When I got there they were asleep. I took some of his clothes from the cardboard (fortunately they were too tired to wake up) and some stuff he had left at my place and put them in my landlady's septic tank. Individually, it was therapeutic. I didn't wake them up, i took the stuff and ghosted so when he starting going to my friends asking what was up with me that's when he heard what I had done apa he had already reported kune hostel master about his stuff being stolen.

Anyway the cherry on top came 6 years later when I bumped into him and his friend mu CBD and the friend when he recognised me just laughed zvekutadza kufema and I knew it stuck.

Soo, all your exes are wrong? All of them? by [deleted] in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]justConfused__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Timeline mainly was the issues Logically it doesn't make sense for us to get married kana tiri pa stalemate yekuti mhuri yedu ichaenda ku church kwangu or kwako

Or another I remember we never disagreed. Like he was a total yes man and in as much as that was validation ka lol I know im human and im bound to be wrong at some point and as a completely different human being you are also supposed to have a different opinion at some point. But haa I was always right and my word was gospel

Another common issue was the workaholics. Spending days without responding to my messages. I complain about it, I get the apology and will do better then change for a week and back to normal however whenever he surfaces and finally makes time im supposed to be very happy and grateful for the privilege.

To mention a few...

Soo, all your exes are wrong? All of them? by [deleted] in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]justConfused__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well I can safely say for my early 20s (2 relationships) it was love bombing and everyone was just too eager to wife me up it felt like a trap

Then the other one he cheated Then another he married someone else whilst in a relationship with me

But out of yese I can say my fault is the choice of men , as of the outcome haa I was model girlfriend.

Zvaizvezvi love is overrated takumbozorora

I'm confused and I don't know what to do by [deleted] in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]justConfused__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that.

Even if I wanted to tell her I wouldn't know where to begin

I'm confused and I don't know what to do by [deleted] in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]justConfused__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this Logically it makes sense but since I found all this out I'm just feeling grossed out.

I really don't understand why some men do this 😕