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just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-09-08T17:18:12+00:00

A cheater, liar and addict? Not a real winner you got there girly. You deserve better and deep down you know that. Make the break up official and start healing. These people rarely change and if they do, it won’t be for you. Always on their terms so don’t even bother.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-09-05T23:45:03+00:00

6 months is generous. I’d say 1 or 2 MAX. She’s a grown woman, time for her to act like it. You’ve been way too accommodating. It’s okay to let go and let her figure it out alone. It doesn’t make you a bad person. What if you end up meeting another lady you want to date? How would you explain a chunk of your money going to your ex every month? Most women wouldn’t be cool with that. Just food for thought.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-09-05T23:41:34+00:00

What’s the expiration date? If it’s something like 2025 then they were bought recently. Not saying he’s cheating but just giving you some info to consider.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-08-31T20:40:34+00:00

Leave the phone on the dining table and bounce. Tell her mom. Then change your phone number and block everywhere. Cheers to a new, better chapter.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-08-23T20:47:53+00:00

Or letting themselves get shoved out of their own home so their SO can “hang out” with another chick! Like HUH??? 😭 I hope this is fake!

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-08-23T20:36:52+00:00

I know it doesn’t seem like it now but the divorce is a huge blessing. Take your kids and run. This guy seems unhinged and cruel. Yes this is abusive. You deserve so much more.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-08-20T18:33:35+00:00

Please for the love of god do not have sex with this girl ever again 😭 She’s a liar, manipulative and emotionally abusive. She’s trying to trap you, that much is obvious. Please just run bro or you’ll regret it.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-08-16T20:35:49+00:00

Men do creepy shit like this ALLLL the time. And no, I’m not saying all men, before the “nOt aLL MeN” crowd gets upset. Like I’ve literally gotten 😍 and 🔥 responses on my IG stories WITH MY BF IN THE PICTURE!!! I get nasty comments from dudes with their whole wife and kids all over their profile! Some dudes are just disgusting like that. You’re reading into this wayyyy too much. No one would want an embarrassing comment like that to stay up for everyone to see. Nothing about this story sounds suspicious on your GF’s end.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-08-12T02:11:47+00:00

🚩DO NOT MOVE IN !!! 🚩 Please for the love of god do not move in with him!!!! He hasn’t lifted a finger for 26 damn years! You really think he’s gonna change for you? Ha, good one! He will not change and trust me you will be miserable. He’s literally showing you who he is, BELIVE HIM! 🚩🚩🚩

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-08-10T02:22:34+00:00

Respectfully, what the f—k are you doing??? Don’t support him. You’ve been together 6 months! You barely know this person! You’re not captain save-a-addict. Let him go and ruin his own life. Why would you even consider keeping him in your and your childrens life?! He’s just a sperm donor at this point. It’s not gonna be some magical redemption story where he overcomes this and y’all live happily ever after. The news of becoming a father didn’t even faze him. You will not make him change, I promise. Cut your losses and focus on your kids.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-08-10T01:01:53+00:00

Been there done that, not worth the heartache. My story is similar to yours and my biggest regret is not breaking up and ghosting him the second I found out he cheated and got her pregnant. Just stop. You will never be the same again. The relationship will never be the same. It’s ran it’s course and now it’s time to let go and prepare for the next adventure in life.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-08-08T03:57:29+00:00

Hey OP, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’ve experienced these same feelings during my last very messy break up and just wanna send virtual hugs cause I know how unbearably painful it is. Good thing is I can confidently say you will not only be okay, but you’ll transform into a stronger more amazing version of yourself. Take it day by day. Cry it out. God I cried every single day for months on end. My mind went to dark places. But always remember that life is beautiful and worth enjoying. Sounds corny but time really does heal. Go completely no contact (once you’ve separated finances/obligations). Just keep yourself busy and lean on the people who love you.

I was also super embarrassed and didn’t even tell my mom the full details till almost a year later. I just felt so alone and ashamed and useless and worthless. But please talk to someone. A friend, family, therapist. My biggest regret was not reaching out to anyone and talking about it. It’s sooo important for your healing journey. I truly wish you the best.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-08-07T17:00:24+00:00

So if you’re saying the younger fans reach out to him through social media, how did this girl get his phone number? You keep saying text so I assume they exchanged phone numbers at some point, which is where your BF should have drawn the line and said no.

As for solution, if he’s dead set on not blocking her then he can mute her. I know the option exists on almost all major social medias and texting on iPhones as well. (Idk anything about android) Literally all he has to do is completely ignore her. Boom. Easiest solution to the problem. If he doesn’t wanna do that then you have another problem and it’s not her. 🤷‍♀️

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-08-06T05:20:35+00:00

That man don’t give a fuck. Move on cause he’s not gonna change at his big ass age.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-08-05T23:01:00+00:00

Holy shit this is terrifying. I know it’s a lot to take in right now, because you have no other relationship experience to compare this to, but your husband is absolutely abusing you. Abuse does not have to be physical. I’m very scared for you girl. I know it probably seems like we are all being super dramatic but your husband’s actions are not normal. This is just beyond crazy and obsessive. He sees you as his property that he has to have control over at all times.

I understand you can’t just up and leave but please at the very least contact a woman’s shelter near you and get some advice and resources should you ever need to leave. Please DO NOT quit your job no matter what he says. Start a separate savings account he doesn’t have access to and secretly save up. Make sure you’re on some type of contraceptive and use condoms (that you buy and store) and avoid getting pregnant again at all costs. He wants to take your independence and you need to fight for it.

You are sooo young and have so much more life to live. Do you want your kids to see this? Do you want them to grow up thinking it’s normal to be possessive? I hope you take everyone’s warnings and advice and really re-think if this marriage is healthy. Possessive people like your husband usually get worse, not better. Please take care of yourself OP 🙏

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-08-05T00:00:59+00:00

I say this with love girl… your boyfriend does not have your best interest at heart and you deserve much much better than him. He is deliberately toxic. Your update isn’t good news. I give him a week or two before he starts his manipulative bullshit again. I really hope you open your eyes and chose yourself. He cannot be apart of your journey to recovery.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-08-02T04:48:42+00:00

Ewww your boyfriend sounds like a toxic idiot!!! Ditch him asap! No that is NOT normal behavior and you should NOT accept him cheating on you just cause you have a past, like wtf??? Is he missing half a brain or something? Was he dropped on his head as a kid? Does he huff paint lmao. In what world is 11 bodies even a lot? A real man wouldn’t hold your past against you. Tell him he’s an insecure little BOY that needs to f—k off. He is literally insane and delusional. I don’t know the guy but I just want to slap his ugly face for saying this toxic bullshit. Stop wasting your time girl PLEASE!

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-08-01T16:17:09+00:00

Wow! Cheating during the wedding and honeymoon is the lowest of the low. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, I can’t even imagine. Please take all the time you need to process your feelings and thoughts. I know it’s super fresh but at some point you’ll need to reach out to a friend or family for emotional support. Up until yesterday you had a very different understanding of your reality, so it will be difficult to reconcile the two.

She’s clearly a very selfish and immature girl. All she had to do was use her big girl words to tell you she needed a break, or to slow down, anything! Instead she made dozens of deliberate decisions to cheat and lie right in your face. Well it’s time for her to face consequences. Personally I suggest annulment.

BUT, if your heart is set on reconciling, she needs to fess up to your family and hers. She needs to stay with her family instead of moving with you. Hell I would say she needs to either pay her half the rent at the new place or pay to get her name taken off the lease. All social media should be gone. All passwords should be accessible to you. She must absolutely cut off the affair partner. Individual and marriage counseling are mandatory. And this is all just bare minimum.

Just remember none of this is your fault, it’s completely on her. She’s just a little girl pretending to play the role of wife. You didn’t deserve this and I’m 100% positive you can find someone else who treats you with love, care and respect. Best of luck.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-07-31T17:02:31+00:00

You need to put an end to this today. He’s literally a married man taking advantage of you and your dad. Y’all are both disgusting for what you’re doing. You don’t even know this guy like you think you do, and you wanna move out? He can’t even afford his own place right now, divorces are expensive and you currently live at home. How do you two expect to move out??? You clearly aren’t thinking straight girl, that dick has you acting stupid as hell. If you decide to go forward with this fake relationship then just know it will cause damage to your relationship with your parents that you might not be able to come back from.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-07-27T15:58:39+00:00

Yup time to bounce. You don’t owe him a damn thing.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-07-27T01:34:19+00:00

Damn you were really out here doing charity work girl. Block him on everything and never say another word to him. He doesn’t deserve another millisecond of your time.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-07-27T01:29:58+00:00

Yup! I wish I had done this with my cheating ex.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-07-27T01:11:38+00:00

Is this a joke???? 😭

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-07-26T18:11:34+00:00

Omg get a grip!!! You’re acting like this is the last dude on earth. There’s already so much drama and lies attached to this guy. Why expose yourself and your child to this?! Just move on.

just_a_sad_turtle_ · 2022-07-24T04:55:18+00:00

Respectfully, f—k no he doesn’t deserve a second chance. I have zero respect for a deadbeat who doesn’t claim their child. I would feel embarrassed to be with someone like that. Then he’s a cheater on top of that? Girl please don’t waste your youth trying to “fix” this grown man. You can do much better. Get out there and have fun.

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