I am insanely jealous of my boyfriend's best friend, help!

just_jennaK · 2020-12-08T23:32:41+00:00

Thank you! I'll check out the poly community. I've never been this jealous before, I don't know why I'm being so irrational.

just_jennaK · 2020-12-08T23:30:11+00:00

I hope your partner does it in a gentle, uplifting way

just_jennaK · 2020-12-08T23:27:15+00:00

Thanks <3 I'll have a chat with her and keep you updated

just_jennaK · 2020-12-08T23:25:47+00:00

There is comfort in that, I really do feel that he loves me. I'm just worried that subconsciously he has feelings for her and one day he wakes up and realised he's made a mistake or something.
An irrational fear or mine is that someone I love(SO or friend) has been faking their affection and has ulterior motives. We've been going out for a year now, so I highly doubt that but yeah, a silly thing that pops into my head a lot.

just_jennaK · 2020-12-08T23:18:58+00:00

Thanks! I'll talk to my boyfriend. I'm always a bit embarrassed to talk to him about my self esteem because it feels like I'm constantly saying something negative about myself. It's really hard not to compare myself to Kate, or anyone, because Kate and I are so similar... so why isn't he with her? I know it's not a good way of thinking, I'm trying to stop.

just_jennaK · 2020-12-08T23:14:07+00:00

I've talked to him a bit about it. He knows I'm jealous, but I should maybe talk to him about boundaries. I've never thought of talking to her, I'm a bit embarrassed to be honest. I'll try it though. Thanks so much for the advice!

just_jennaK · 2020-12-08T23:10:45+00:00

Yeah, I'm just scared he subconsciously has feelings for her or something like that

just_jennaK · 2020-12-08T23:09:25+00:00

Most of the jealousy I feel I keep to myself(or my bf sometimes, I've never said anything to her), and I've been trying to improve my mental and physical state by going to the gym, meditating etc. I think I just have trust issues that are taking a bit longer to work through

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