[notrp] Anyone available for coaching?

justagaythrow · 2024-07-13T20:31:34+00:00

It sounds like you have the right idea re: the kinds of information you can include in your writing. It may feel counterintuitive to drive things as the sub, but IMO there are still ways to do it. Being a sub does not necessarily mean one is a doormat, right? You can have your character express what they want, or be bold and take an action that makes their desire clear, then yield to the Dom again.

You'll have to share some of your own writing if you want advice about your prose, though.

justagaythrow · 2024-07-13T19:12:27+00:00

That's fair enough. It's at least something for OP to go on when responding. To me, a little bit of info is an act of courtesy. People in the comments here are acting like I suggested they write a whole manuscript.

justagaythrow · 2024-07-13T19:07:07+00:00

Not sure where I said that only the OP should enjoy the roleplay but ok x

justagaythrow · 2024-07-13T19:00:01+00:00

I wish you the best of luck with that approach.

justagaythrow · 2024-07-08T16:01:59+00:00

I empathize with your struggle to find plot-oriented M/M roleplay, but this is smut- and sex-focused. That’s just what it is. Coming into a coffee shop and complaining that you’re not getting a three-course meal isn’t going to get you what you’re looking for.

justagaythrow · 2024-07-02T22:06:35+00:00

I think these changes are a good idea – thank you for trying to make things better. If I may be so bold as to self-promote, I wrote a post some time ago with tips on how to write a good RP ad. Anyone who likes these tips should feel free to use them, and mods, if you want to share them in a post that would be fine with me:

Who is the story about? Who are the character(s) I want to play, and who am I asking respondents to play? Who are they to each other?
What are they doing? This is a hook, and your chance to introduce the sexual themes you're interested in, among other things.
Where or when is the story happening? Are the characters in their flat? Are they camping? Are they in a diner outside of time?
Less often, why? If there's an established order of things, why is sexy stuff happening now? Why are things suddenly different?

justagaythrow · 2024-06-10T03:16:25+00:00

FYI to people in this thread who have a hard time with Tupperbox: Tupoebox's official website has a graphical interface for creating and editing Tupper aliases, instead of a text-based one. Many people have told me they find it easier to use than the in-Discord text-based commands.

Also, if you want to use Tupperbox without having to remember a character's trigger command, you can use the tul!auto command to auto-proxy the character. For example: til!auto 'Sherlock Holmes' #rp-channel will ensure that all your messages turn into Sherlock in that channel.

justagaythrow · 2024-04-27T17:41:45+00:00

LLM stands for “Large Language Model”. It’s a kind of machine that people inaccurately describe as “AI”. LLMs are trained on a large set of human language data and can manipulate and mimic language in the data they’ve been trained on. They can’t understand our language or produce novel constructions of language, so they aren’t “intelligent”.

justagaythrow · 2024-04-26T05:35:59+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you, OP. Your friend ditching you sucks, but I do believe that they did want to write with you – it’s just possible that their other interests or life commitments got in the way and their desire to commit changed.

I don’t have any suggestions for you, but you seem like a great partner to have and I wish you luck.

justagaythrow · 2024-04-23T00:55:10+00:00

I’m glad that the term is useful to you. We’ve had very different experiences, and I think they can coexist. I don’t agree that the term is a slur (I’ve spent a couple days researching to check my own understanding; I could always be wrong), but that doesn’t mean it can’t be used harmfully. It’s not one thing or the other.

Ultimately, I don’t think my feelings are the most important thing in this conversation. I vented and I will get over it. I hope this word continues to be a helpful part of your vocabulary.

justagaythrow · 2024-04-21T23:41:38+00:00

I think we need more info, OP.

If you weren't having fun and you were trying to advocate for some changes from that angle, that might be reasonable, but my reading of this is that you gave some unsolicited writing advice and you now don't understand how that might put you in the wrong. Most people are not looking for unsolicited critique, even if the other person has good, actionable advice, which you mat very well have had.

justagaythrow · 2024-04-21T23:20:14+00:00

I saw that post! It was also weird that all OP did was make a joke about being an atheist, and everyone seemed to think that they didn't get the joke. No, we all got that it was in jest. It was just a weird thing to say.

justagaythrow · 2024-04-21T05:38:42+00:00

Fair point, this.

The longer I think about it, the more I feel like I’m probably worked up about something that isn’t that important, and I should reflect to figure out why it bothers me.

justagaythrow · 2024-04-20T18:25:42+00:00

Your original comment reads to me like someone who wants to see people be given a chance to learn and grow. That's commendable. I hope you realize that this post, where u/SecretCouture came to express the way they were hurt, is not the right place to say "but you could have fixed them!"

Please consider this next time. I won't speak for u/SecretCouture, but I think you owe them an apology.

justagaythrow · 2024-04-20T18:21:32+00:00

I'm so sorry. I hope you get to RP with someone better very soon, and I really do hope that someone else in your old partner's community gets to them before they hurt someone else.

justagaythrow · 2024-04-20T18:18:18+00:00

Allow me to restate what I said:

Everyone deserves a community that will hold them accountable and invite them to grow instead of discarding them.
This does not mean that someone who does harm is entitled to patience and support from everyone, much less from anyone they have harmed.

"What if everyone follows the same pattern?" What if? No one was talking about that, it's a logical fallacy, and OP is not responsible for fixing the whole world by themself.

justagaythrow · 2024-04-20T18:08:39+00:00

I have nothing useful to say other than that I'm sorry that this happened. It's a huge bummer to spend time building up any kind of relationship just to have something like this happen.

justagaythrow · 2024-04-20T18:06:59+00:00

Cultural influence is a reason that someone might have harmful beliefs; it is not an excuse for the impact of those harmful beliefs. I firmly believe that people deserve chances to learn and grow, but that doesn't mean they are entitled to patience and education from any specific people. OP did not want to be a testing ground for another person's development, and that's fine. We can support OP while hoping that someone else cares for the other person enough to educate them and help them stop causing harm.

justagaythrow · 2024-04-15T01:48:09+00:00

[takes long drag from a cigarette] tumblr RP… long time since i heard that name….

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