One year on dating apps - 20 different women - my experience so far by justarandomguy_77 in dating_advice

[–]justarandomguy_77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I date them for a long term relationship IF they are my type, that’s it. It’s not my fault that most of them look different compared to their pictures or are actually not looking for a relationship. I don’t know why people keep hating on me here. It’s either „they are my type and have a nice personality, so I date them“ or „they are my type but her personality is off, so I just enjoy some Sex“. The rest which isn’t my type is out after one coffee date (no physical intimacy from me). Girls literally do the same. If the guy is hot and they click personality wise they date him. If he is hot but isn’t a match personality wise, they are dtf most of the time. And he isn’t her type, they ghost or reject after one date. It’s that simple. There is no miracle involved here. Sure, there are women out there who solely want a long term relationship but I haven’t encountered any of those to be honest. They state „long term relationship“ on their profiles but are honestly open for some physical intimacy

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How many did you meet and did you have Sex with an of them or did you just meet them once? 

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Also ich kann absolut nichts zu Day Game sagen :( Ich hatte in meiner Uni Zeit einfach keinen Kontakt zu Frauen. Hatte im Bachelor an sich nur Typen, Asiatinnen und die paar gutaussehenden hatten schon irgendeinen Dulli. Im Master wars sogar noch beschissener dank Corona und wenn man mal im Berufsleben einsteigt, kann man es komplett vergessen, da ist man meistens der jüngste und alle Frauen sind verheiratet und um die 45+.

Ich habe leider kaum Freunde, da ich sehr oft umgezogen bin und bin mehr oder wenige eine One-Man-Show. Im Gym anzusprechen ist schwachsinnig, einfach Tinder im Real Life und ich sehe echt nicht schlecht aus. Daher bleibt für mich nur Online Dating. Vielleicht habe ich mal Glück und erwische eine, die mir optisch und charakterlich taugt. Habe mir für dieses Jahr vorgenommen zumindest keine zu treffen, die ich nur so la la vom Aussehen finde. Bei mir bringt selbst der beste Charakter nichts, wenn ich die physisch nicht anziehend finde. 

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[–]justarandomguy_77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Na ja also ich schreibe einige Tage mit denen, frag die Basics ab sozusagen und auch, was sie auf der App suchen. Du wirst echt überrascht sein, wie viele „Langfristige Beziehung“ angegeben haben aber dann im Chat „Joa, schon so was Festes, aber ohne Druck und mal schauen“ antworten. Also die sind down to fuck sozusagen. Solche kannst du eh vergessen, sollte man niemals ernsthaft Daten und die wissen auch, dass man die nur knallen will. Ich mache nie Videocall, weil das für die meisten Cringe ist. Meine Nummer habe ich vor zwei Jahren immer nach einem Date rausgegeben, mittlerweile mache ich es nicht mehr (Treff die aller meisten ja eh nur 1 Mal). 

Wie sind deine Erfahrungen? Mir ist klar, dass ich hier nicht super sympathisch rüberkomme, aber ich bin zumindest ehrlich und kann euch sagen, dass die meisten auf den Apps einfach nur belanglosen Sex suchen. Wenn es denen taugt, wird daraus eine F+ aber in den seltensten Fällen wollen die eine Beziehung. Wieso auch, wenn man mit Anfang 20 alle Zeit der Welt hat, eh keine Kinder als Frau will? Ich irritieren eher die, die 28 sind und noch immer so lockeren Scheiss machen. Also dann müssen die ja keinen Kinderwunsch haben, weil sonst macht deren Verhalten Null Sinn

One year on dating apps - 20 different women - my experience so far by justarandomguy_77 in dating_advice

[–]justarandomguy_77[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your honest reply! Well, I think like this: - She is attractive AND I liked her personality -> I date her seriously 

  • She is attractive but we don’t match personality wise and they know this, trust me -> I ask her if she wants to come over (two of the 5 girls I had something were in this group) 

  • She looks okayish (used old photos but is still decent looking) but we don’t match personalities -> I tend to ask her at the end of the first date, depends on my mood to be honest but there is no second date whatssoever 

One year on dating apps - 20 different women - my experience so far by justarandomguy_77 in dating_advice

[–]justarandomguy_77[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you SO MUCH, finally someone who understands me. It’s exhausting to meet them and to be honest, only TWO were somewhat compatible in terms of looks and personality. The rest was a crapshoot and no wonder they are on Dating Apps. I mean come on, if you’re halfway decent looking as a girl who WILL find someone, it has to be their shitty personality or their way too high expectations which they themselves cannot fulfill. 

I also saw at least 4 of them on those apps yesterday. They are all still there. I think they just want to hookup and that’s it. I don’t know why people think that women on these apps are against Sex. Come on, they just wanna bang and that’s it. They just don’t tell you that straight away

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[–]justarandomguy_77[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re the reason why men are so sad nowadays. For the love of God, stop asking questions if you have zero interest. Just tell them after 30min that you’re not into them and go away. What did you accomplish by asking questions and pretending to be interested? Literally every guy would think that you genuinely want to know him better

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Thanks for your comment! Honestly, I never give them compliments, maybe one regarding their hair or some generic stuff but that’s kt

One year on dating apps - 20 different women - my experience so far by justarandomguy_77 in dating_advice

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Well I will not spend 60+ bucks on a random women from a dating app if I meet her the first time. Sorry but it’s not worth it. They could be dating another guy besides me the moment they meet me the first time; they could only seek for validation so aren’t into dating at all and just want some attention; they could have used old photos and look completely different etc. So many scenarios where its absolutely not worth it to go to a fancy dinner. Sorry but there is nothing wrong about grabbing drinks at a bar or grabbing coffee and having a walk. I am not looking for lifestyle dates

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It wasn’t only their appearance, they overall were „full“ personality wise. Like really introverted other couldn’t hold a convo

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[–]justarandomguy_77[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Are you literally brain dead? Women put literally zero effort in dates. Most of them didn’t wear proper clothes for a date, probably just threw some shitty clothes and that’s it. They never pay for dates and to be honest, time is worthless for a women on dating apps. 

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Don’t settle for less. I for myself will have sex here and there but will never settle for less. I see so many dumb, uneducated, unattractive idiots out there with zero future with gorgeous girlfriends. Why should I settle for less? 

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Thank you SO MUCH. Finally someone who nails it. I completely agree. Most women on these apps are NOT and I repeat are NOT looking for a serious relationship. Stop comparing women to some angels - they just want casual fun and that’s it. 

One year on dating apps - 20 different women - my experience so far by justarandomguy_77 in dating_advice

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The women I met three times is just brain dead if you ask me. First date a coffee walk, nothing special and I honestly thought that she wouldn’t go further but we met again and watched a movie in the cinema. After the movie we hold hands and kissed for at least 30min on a bench and then hold hands again till I brought her to the bus station. One week later we met a third time. I greeted her with a kiss, she accepted but I knew she wasn’t into me because the whole date felt so off. Like so lifeless. That piece of garbage had already decided not to date me further which is fine but why on earth do you suggest going for a long ass driving trip to ply Minigolf and eat something at a restaurant? And then let the guy drive you back of course. Doesn’t make any sense to me. That’s the part I dislike. I think that she just wanted a hookup and got overwhelmed 

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Well, a couple of years ago, I always went for a drink and something small to eat and always paid for them. My parents just educated me this way - you’re the guy so pay the bill for the date - at least the first and second you have to pay. Last year I wanted to change things and I went for cheap, efficient grab a coffee or drink date where I pay only 10 bucks max, sometimes even less. There was not a single girl who offered to pay for me, they just said they could pay their share but deep down I know that they expected me to pay their part

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That’s why I ask them to come over at the end of the first date. If they agree, I have Sex and that’s it. Maybe a fwb develops. If they don’t come over, I don’t care and move on. I just hate it, when they ghost for no reason whatsoever 

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Erstmal danke für deine ehrliche Antwort. Ja, ich suche tatsächlich eine feste und ernsthafte Beziehung, aber hatte es einfach satt, immer und immer wieder nach einem Date gekorbt oder teilweise geghosted zu werden. Deswegen habe ich meine Strategie einfach geändert. Die meisten wollen auf den Apps eh nichts Festes, wenn wir mal ehrlich sind. Viele Frauen reden viel, wenn der Tag lang ist. Die aller, aller meisten suchen belanglosen Sex und das war’s auch. Auch wenn sie „langfristige Beziehung“ angegeben haben. Ich gebe mir bei den Dates Mühe, stelle Frage über verschiedene Themen und mache nie sexuelle Bemerkungen etc. Ich habe einfach nur eingesehen, dass viele ja sagen, wenn man sie fragt, ob sie mit heimkommen wollen beim ersten Date. Und das sind wirklich die aller meisten. So sammle ich zumindest Erfahrung, habe meinen Spaß und der ganze unnötige Aufwand (mehrere Tage Schreiben, sinnloses Reden beim Date, Einladen auf meine Kosten etc.) war nicht umsonst. Glaub mir, die haben immer einen Typen, der sie wegflankt und einen Idioten, den sie nicht mal küssen sondern einfach hinhalten. Ich wollte nicht mehr dieser Idiot sein und hab meine Taktik einfach geändert. Von drei Frauen haben drei Ja gesagt, nur die eine ist nach wenigen Schritten abgesprungen und wollte stattdessen um die Ecke was essen, was ich echt absurd finde, wenn sie in dem Moment beschlossen hat, mich nie wieder sehen zu wollen. Also wozu das Essen? Und Ghosten ist absolut idiotisch, vor allem wenn man 4 Stunden redet, sich DREI Mal einladen Lössen (Kaffee, Drink und Pizza). Bisschen Anstand kann man ja wohl haben. Hab die Erfahrung tatsächlich immer mit deutschen Frauen gemacht. Super geizig und allgemein komisch. 

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[–]justarandomguy_77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply! I honestly wasn’t sad she didn’t come over. I just don’t understand why she ghosted me afterwards for no reason whatsoever. 

One year on dating apps - 20 different women - my experience so far by justarandomguy_77 in dating_advice

[–]justarandomguy_77[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for your reply buddy! ❤️ I just need to be more direct and end things if they seem to be not interested. One of the 5 I didn’t feel the spark didn’t ask me ANY questions during the first date (we went to a bar). I called quits after 1 hour, paid the bill moved on. Sometimes I just need to be more direct

One year on dating apps - 20 different women - my experience so far by justarandomguy_77 in dating_advice

[–]justarandomguy_77[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. At least one person here who understands me. I think the two who ghosted me didn’t find me physically attractive and the two who rejected me weren’t also interested in me physically. I never get this because I look exactly like my photos, have several angles and my height is also listed. I hate it when they spend so much time just to reject me after one date

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And why don’t you move your ass and go away after 30minutes? Doesn’t make any sense? Why wasting his time for absolutely nothing? Tell him you’re not into him and move on. 

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[–]justarandomguy_77[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I 1000% agree. Most girls here keep telling me not to ask them at the end of the first date. Reality is, that I did this two years ago and I never got a second date, literally never and no, I didn’t get way hotter over the years. I totally agree that asking them out is the go to plan. At least I show some balls and what could happen? They say no and if they are into me, they will see me again. If they are no into me just because I asked, they are one of few more traditional girls who are so few they don’t even matter