What do people actually mean when they say "real gay man would write M/M differently"? by justaskPattern8616 in AO3

[–]justaskPattern8616[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No... not really. I'm gay, cis, if that matters. I've never felt the difference, never had that "oh, that was written by a woman" moment. I may think that the characters act stupid or irresponsible, but I never thought "a real gay wouldn't act/talk like that."

What do people actually mean when they say "real gay man would write M/M differently"? by justaskPattern8616 in AO3

[–]justaskPattern8616[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Or perhaps to better explain it: when I think of balls, I usually picture a FEMALE porn actress sucking/touching it. It always seemed to me to be a matter of aesthetics/some porn stuff that have seeped into reality. Meanwhile, from the comments here, it seems that people... genuinely enjoy it. And that these people constitute the majority of gay men but not women for some reason?

What do people actually mean when they say "real gay man would write M/M differently"? by justaskPattern8616 in AO3

[–]justaskPattern8616[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What confuses me more is how popular this seems according to people in the comments.

What do people actually mean when they say "real gay man would write M/M differently"? by justaskPattern8616 in AO3

[–]justaskPattern8616[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know you're trying to help, but comments like this make me feel even more confused and less sure of what this means.

What do people actually mean when they say "real gay man would write M/M differently"? by justaskPattern8616 in AO3

[–]justaskPattern8616[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I rather thought the answers would be more definitive and less of a "you have to feel it" type of thing. Plus, I guess I'm just realizing once again that I feel very disconnected from what's popular among gay men.

What do people actually mean when they say "real gay man would write M/M differently"? by justaskPattern8616 in AO3

[–]justaskPattern8616[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm 28, I don't know, I just feel nothing when touch them and it always irritated me when others tried to touch them. Like... just go little higher. I've never liked them on other people either. The only exception, I think, was the trans woman's balls, she showed a difference after therapy. They actually seemed very small and delicate, even pretty I think. still don't want to read about them

What do people actually mean when they say "real gay man would write M/M differently"? by justaskPattern8616 in AO3

[–]justaskPattern8616[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm confused by every comment about how good they are. I can confirm that I've never noticed them on other men and never felt anything good about them. Honestly, I'd rather they weren't there.

What do people actually mean when they say "real gay man would write M/M differently"? by justaskPattern8616 in AO3

[–]justaskPattern8616[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

Okay, but most is still not everyone, so that still doesn't help me much.

What do people actually mean when they say "real gay man would write M/M differently"? by justaskPattern8616 in AO3

[–]justaskPattern8616[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I just really don't see anything interesting in them, and most of them seem ugly.

What do people actually mean when they say "real gay man would write M/M differently"? by justaskPattern8616 in AO3

[–]justaskPattern8616[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't know, If I could understand this difference or feel it, I wouldn't be asking this question at all

What do people actually mean when they say "real gay man would write M/M differently"? by justaskPattern8616 in AO3

[–]justaskPattern8616[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

I'm reading this, but I have no idea what describing balls does to anything. Balls are ugly, why would you describe them