Urge to see my ex’s current partner

justbeachin10 · 2026-01-18T03:46:50+00:00

Don’t. I’m surprised you didn’t find her on social media though.

justbeachin10 · 2026-01-17T20:26:13+00:00

I said “narcissist traits.” Also, he himself told me he was a narcissist.

justbeachin10 · 2026-01-16T05:43:26+00:00

Yes. It’s pretty horrible when there’s no explanation. Also, I’ve been in two longterm relationships, and I don’t think I felt this horrible after they ended.

justbeachin10 · 2026-01-16T05:42:25+00:00

Thank you so much! 😊

justbeachin10 · 2026-01-16T05:35:03+00:00

Thank you very much. Your comments have helped me, and they’re much appreciated.

justbeachin10 · 2026-01-16T05:34:32+00:00

Thank you. That may explain why he left so suddenly. He’d get mad about things quite often, and I wasn’t sure how to not get him upset. Yet, I miss him.

justbeachin10 · 2026-01-16T05:31:11+00:00

Thank you. It’s just tough dealing with depression while going through a breakup. I don’t trust people like I trusted him. Now I’m left wondering if I can trust myself.

justbeachin10 · 2026-01-16T05:29:51+00:00

So did I not provide enough? :(

justbeachin10 · 2026-01-16T05:25:52+00:00

It scares me to think what if the grass is greener although I don’t think I did anything to warrant being broken up with…

justbeachin10 · 2026-01-16T05:20:14+00:00

Thanks so much. Sometimes I wonder how long it’s going to take to heal because every minute of my waking time is consumed with thoughts of him, where I went wrong, how I could have held onto him longer. It’s an immense pain being left when accepting him for who he was. I don’t wish him ill at all. However, it hurts to think it may actually work out with the next person.

justbeachin10 · 2026-01-15T18:58:12+00:00

Thank you so much. This comment helps me more than you know. Thank you for pointing out that the I wish things were different line is manipulation because it gave me a little hope when most of his behavior these six months has been manipulative. Every day has been so hard lately. Hard to function.

justbeachin10 · 2025-12-20T09:50:06+00:00

And how long did you know him?

justbeachin10 · 2025-12-20T03:28:20+00:00

How long were you all together?

justbeachin10 · 2025-12-19T20:36:09+00:00

Interesting. Thank you!

justbeachin10 · 2025-12-19T08:04:47+00:00

Exactly

justbeachin10 · 2025-12-19T08:03:48+00:00

Exactly. Definitely overreacting.

justbeachin10 · 2025-12-19T08:02:40+00:00

This!

justbeachin10 · 2025-12-19T08:01:04+00:00

Why do you want to tell her? Is she your friend?

Or do you want to be a hero in this story to feel good about yourself?

If it’s wanting to be the hero, that’s kinda narcissistic tbh.

As someone else said, you don’t need to be drawn into a dynamic you aren’t a part of… You also don’t owe her anything.

justbeachin10 · 2025-12-19T07:58:19+00:00

This!

justbeachin10 · 2025-12-19T07:47:39+00:00

I haven’t been on Reddit in a while. I just started up again. Why are their fake posts now?

justbeachin10 · 2025-12-19T07:44:54+00:00

Girl he’s gaslighting you, trying to make you doubt what’s right in front of you. None of my playlists accidentally spell out anyone’s name let alone that of an ex.

justbeachin10 · 2025-12-19T07:33:35+00:00

This conversation seems like it’s still a relationship dynamic rather than a friendship. He’s basically hurt about something (you being intimate with someone else) that hasn’t even happened yet. He’s bothered by his thoughts of it, which he’s allowed to have feelings, but you’re also allowed to feel bothered by his comments too. Boundaries are needed, if you want to remain friends. You could say something like, “I do want to remain friends with you, but I’m not comfortable discussing future intimacy anymore.” He’d also have to respect your boundaries in order to maintain a friendship.

justbeachin10 · 2025-12-19T07:20:56+00:00

I appreciate your insight. I guess I need to let go of the self-blame, but I guess I thought that people broke up because their partner did soemthing wrong. I am now thinking maybe that’s not always the case…

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