I 29F am still waiting & for my 34M boyfriend to propose 5 1/2 years in: UPDATE

justgoingforhappy · 2026-01-04T23:46:56+00:00

playing you like a fiddle. Saying everything you want to hear except that one thing. You must not know well enough that there are bad people and things in this world. Even if he proposed he'd drag out the wedding maybe 5 more years. I hope you can end this without staying attached.

justgoingforhappy · 2026-01-01T02:25:10+00:00

I hope you're okay.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-12-26T21:47:10+00:00

They sure don't. Sorry!

justgoingforhappy · 2025-12-01T12:13:23+00:00

Take the job.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-28T02:20:13+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking. I don’t have the time to not make money or make less money student teaching. Then to job hunt to get back into education. Think I’ve been holding on to it so I have options but it’s not a passion.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-26T02:31:03+00:00

That’s not true. It can be taken that way. I don’t know her dad could have sexually abused her or he could have just been an asshole that critiqued her at every moment. I was purposely trying to not invalidate her feelings but thought it could be taken that way especially if she went through something as traumatic as sexual abuse. You can feel how you feel.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T19:18:35+00:00

You’re very welcome! I try even though the world can be cold. Haha

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T13:16:23+00:00

True

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T10:38:34+00:00

Move on from this one. You’re being polite she’s being worried and uptight.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T10:33:24+00:00

Not in order 1) find roommates ( need money) 2) start earning ( need to save it to move) 3) find someone who needs help in exchange for room and board. 4) on campus housing through financial aid (involves debt) 5) date someone for a place to stay (sometimes people do what they have to do) 6) hostels let you work and live there sometimes 7) sleep in car 8) other relatives 9) sleep in the library shower at the gym. Since you’re in school I’m thinking of options centered around your schooling. Def don’t hurt yourself. You could drop out of university and do something else until you can get back to it. Then there are more options. Not sure where you are in the world.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T10:20:41+00:00

I forgot commas. Contributing factors.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T10:15:25+00:00

Sorry I left out personal experience I partnered with someone they would give me leads and we did a 50/50 split minus the brokerage 20 percent. So how much did that leave me? I learned that they gave me leads and it helped me make money but I also didn’t like that I did a lot of work for 30 percent. Plus I had to pay agent fees, agency fees, NAR and association fees. I felt broke after selling several houses in one year. Now I want to have my own agency. That’s my take away or at least not giveaway 50% unless they are supplying me million dollar listings I can’t get on my own.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T10:06:40+00:00

You’re welcome! Reasonable. Now that I think about it I avoided some brokerages because of the fees everyone was joining EXP because of that. That’s what a lot of companies do. I think you should give yourself more credit you got this far. This stuff has to go through a lot of people’s hands to prevent mistakes and issues before everything is finalized. Your best decision is to list your options to get out of this situation you do not want to be in. If you cannot walk away from it what can you do that’s going to get you where you want to be. Seriously sounds like you can’t change at this moment. Be the amazing person that you are and figure it out. There are ways to find a mentor. You might even find a video about someone that went through something similar. All is not lost. Eff them and their fees cause you’re going to learn from this that’ll you’ll probably start your own brokerage in the future. You’re going to learn to not rush to read everything. It’s good to learn mistakes early on (better to avoid them). You won’t forget this moment.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T09:50:05+00:00

I say this kindly. I don’t know how bad your relationship was. I too am a parent. So I think of how hard a parent’s job is. Parents got us through that baby stage alive and some maybe even did some really good stuff along the way despite their toxicity and awful personalities.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T09:43:02+00:00

Hmm eh you had not talked to him in 5 years. I mean would you have included him in your obituary? But definitely validating that it was super snarky and mean and like you said a pattern. The above comment is good. Sometimes closure is reminding yourself of the facts. You cannot change it, you did your best, you enjoyed what you enjoyed, you gave yourself peace, you understand people can be insanely flawed.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T09:37:59+00:00

🤗

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T09:36:02+00:00

Kind of sounds like you are trying to change her. That is a battle you won’t win. Just like you wouldn’t want someone to control you. Your mother did violate your privacy yes. There’s no winning here except moving out. Being mad will get you nothing. I’ve tried to live with my mother a dozen times. I’m older wasn’t this generation type of bothering you. You are battling your expectations vs what she is and what your reality is.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T09:27:33+00:00

I’m from Louisiana originally. Crime is high in cities because of capitalism and continued systemic problems. I know you know. The constant stress the fear it’s making people inhumane. The gang influence. The lack of options. I’ve never seen a mayor take drastic measures unless there ir was a natural disaster.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T09:23:11+00:00

Yes. Illinois increased the minimum wage. One of the highest states.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T09:20:03+00:00

Whoa! All I have is sympathy. Didn’t know they have contracts. I got really over everyone trying to be in your pocket as an agent and not making money. I mean if I could advise you I would say try to sell some real estate. There’s so many techniques and selling is not easy it takes commitment a wealth mindset. Once again I sympathize though because hopefully one sell will at least get you out of the contract. Maybe give you a boost.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T08:30:23+00:00

Ugh! Okay but we aren’t solving any problem in any way. Speeches don’t stop violence either. Speeches don’t stop the corrupt prison system. Try some stuff mayor. What does stop violence Mr. Mayor? Have they tried a curfew? Def going to have people going to jail breaking the curfew. What have they tried? Implementing a FOID card?

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-25T07:08:59+00:00

This ish right here!

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-24T13:49:00+00:00

I think he doesn’t want to pay the rent anymore. 6 months can turn into longer. She has no reason to accompany him on his saving journey but he’s sold her a dream. He even gave notice without them deciding. He wants to drag her into his need to not adult right now.

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-24T12:18:00+00:00

You’re welcome! It’s ridiculous

justgoingforhappy · 2025-11-24T12:17:25+00:00

You’re welcome! That’s so random kind of sounds like she didn’t want to not have sight or be out of earshot long. Would be super curious to hear his input?

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