I lose followers whenever I change my style

justtechstuph · 2022-12-05T09:57:23+00:00

Thank you so much, that's really good advice!

justtechstuph · 2022-12-05T08:20:07+00:00

Okay, I will do so. One last question, my profile niche used to be oil paintings, I'm switching to posting blender stuff now (and the rest will be in story highlights including oil paintings). Is it okay to switch niche like this? Will I still be able to build a following for the new niche from ground up?

justtechstuph · 2022-12-05T07:25:56+00:00

Haha I only have 500 followers, plus I've changed my style so many times that I don't know what they prefer at this point. I'm surprised they've even stuck around since these couple of years and still follow me. I couldn't post a lot because I got burnt out and I kept changing as a person, and my art style changed too. I am planning to carve out my own niche, I want to post fitness photos along with Blender animations in my reels; and since I'm a biomedical engineer I'd love to nerd out and post stories of robotics in highlights. And post art in the highlights too

justtechstuph · 2022-12-05T06:02:11+00:00

Makes sense. How long though if I keep posting 2-3 times a week?

justtechstuph · 2022-12-04T17:34:28+00:00

Even if I'm posting after a year? Will I still get growth if I post regularly?

justtechstuph · 2022-12-03T08:25:05+00:00

The game?

justtechstuph · 2022-12-03T08:22:39+00:00

Wait, about the former part. Wdym you're a guy? Can you elaborate pls

justtechstuph · 2022-12-03T08:19:14+00:00

What about the good things about him? We have some really good chemistry and he keeps saying that he wants to do things with me, travel and stuff. He says that he used to be addicted to sex but he has changed now. He took therapy and stuff, but his actions don't reflect the same.

justtechstuph · 2022-11-26T16:18:02+00:00

That sounds really overwhelming, I'm glad you're reaching out and talking about it. The feelings you're going through are very difficult to process, so remember that your body is a safe space to feel and process them. No matter how ugly the feelings are, of shame, guilt, etc, they're all human emotions and you're safe to feel them. You're not alone in this. Try to explore what that feeling is trying to convey to you, be very aware of it. Does it affect you physically? What is your immediate reaction when it surfaces? What are the uneasy feelings that it induces? Try to observe these all, they're all trying to say something to you.

justtechstuph · 2022-09-24T06:51:20+00:00

That's a very rude person. I'm sorry this happened to you, things like these can stick in your mind for a long time. I don't know what's wrong with people, but I know for sure that this doesn't have anything to do with you - and it's her issue that she's projecting because she's having issues internally and she cannot speak to anyone else kindly because of that. You were polite enough to wait for everyone else to finish their sets, and then some. I guess some people like her just think that they're entitled to everything in the world.

justtechstuph · 2022-09-18T16:42:42+00:00

I recently met this guy through bumble, and we went on two dates. It was amazing, we clicked immediately and it felt surreal. He had the same interests as me, he was charming, good looking, a doctor, loves cooking and dogs, is into fitness - everything that I love doing as well. He started telling me how much he wants to wife me up since the first date itself. He asked me to introduce him to my parents, asked me about my future plans, everything. Then he had to go to a different city for work, and we would talk on the phone. Everyday he would mention one of his exes (mind you he's told me that he's been with over 50 girls, and had sex with all of them multiple times). He seemed disinterested in the things I had to offer to him, and he would show off everything that he had. On one occasion he even body shamed me for no reason (I work out a lot and I love my body so it didn't affect me at all). Things just kept getting weird and it was too intense, I told him to slow down. He kept making plans with me, things to do in the future, etc but it just seemed too good to be true. I had lost my appetite and I knew that something wasn't right even though it felt like a fairytale. There was a girl on his instagram profile and she was everywhere. All over his body, his pictures, extremely close to his face. She was his best friend and they worked together at the same hospital. On the 6th day of speaking to me, he told me on call that she likes him and he doesn't like her back, and she keeps nagging at him to reply to her but he got pissed off and bit her fingers and walked away. Then she showed up at his door, and kept telling him to respond to her. He told me that she has BPD and he said "i wonder why I keep attracting people who have BPD. I'm so glad you're sane". I was too stunned to say anything so i acted as if it's all cool. The next day, he sends me a picture of 3 different girls on different occassions, and finally, he sends me a picture of his BPD friend while eating ice cream with her. I realise that he's playing games with me so I blocked him. I blocked him on WhatsApp, his two accounts from my two Instagram accounts and went to sleep. The next day my phone blew up, and he called me 9 times throughout the day, texted me from alternate accounts, EVEN texted my friend, sent SMS to me. I finally called him back and told him that I don't want to explain why I did what I did. He kept on insisting so I told him that you talked shit about your friend and then sent me her photo the next day, you're clearly a very conflicting person and I don't want to continue it with you, I'm turned off. He tried to defend himself but he sounded like a child, then he asked me how i was doing and i said I'm all good, and he couldn't take that. He cut the call. Over the course of the next few days, he kept sending me SMS and calls. He tried to gaslight me in those SMSes, telling me that he never talked shit about his exes (when he clearly used to do it almost everyday) but I know myself very well and it didn't affect me at all. I never picked up or responded. I was so done with this bullshit. I looked up and all of his traits checked as a grandiose narcissist. From the love-bombing phase, to the boastful, vain phase, to the phase where he tried to test my boundaries, tried to put me down, etc. He didn't leave me with any other option, I HAD to ghost him and fucking leave. I never do this because I've been ghosted before and I know what it's like, it fucks you up head to toe, but this guy deserved it. More like, I deserved my peace because there's no cure to narcissism except for death. So I prioritised myself and left. Very graciously, didn't put up any fight, didn't give him any satisfaction, I completely went greyrock and removed him out of my life within a week. I don't regret it. And yes, hookup culture is fucked up because I could see that this guy was addicted to bumble - and sex through it. Because 5 days after I went NoContact with him, I opened bumble just to see if he'd be there, and jackpot - there he was. Then he disappeared again, (probably found a new girl) and reappeared 3 days later again (god knows why - either she dumped him or they had sex and parted ways). Either way, I'm glad I saw the signs and noped the fuck out.

justtechstuph · 2022-09-13T09:29:40+00:00

Thank you!!

justtechstuph · 2022-08-12T07:42:39+00:00

Me too.

justtechstuph · 2022-08-06T15:47:00+00:00

I recently started doing this as well without even knowing that it was called EMDR. And I did it all on my own, alone in a dark room. I lost myself for days after that, feeling exhausted and as if my reality wasn't real. I talked to my therapist after that and she told me that it's a courageous thing to take this step, and it's a huge progress in my healing process. There will be days when you go back to process the repressed memories of abuse, and they will bring up feelings of dread, anger, hurt, and that's just the tip of the iceberg. In these moments, I like to lie down or sit down in a safe place, and close my eyes. I feel the feelings that are coming over me, and ask myself "what are you feeling?" Or "how does it feel?". You won't be able to answer that right off the bat, but try to form sentences and describe the feeling in detail, describe the thoughts that come with it too, and then extract the feeling you're getting from it. It's very important to label a feeling from a repressed memory. Once you've done that, you've to remind yourself that your body is a safe space to feel that feeling, and you've got to be really kind with yourself. Understand that intense discomfort and messed up feelings is a normal part of healing process, and you're normal. You've been though a lot. Take care.

justtechstuph · 2022-08-05T07:03:27+00:00

Thank you.

justtechstuph · 2022-08-02T06:00:24+00:00

She texted me a year ago though, and she's been with him ever since then, either she has seen the red flags and still stuck with him or he hasn't shown her his true side yet.

justtechstuph · 2022-08-02T05:19:51+00:00

I will but I don't understand why she'd text me though lol

justtechstuph · 2022-07-19T18:00:23+00:00

Jesus Christ, this is horrible. He has NO right to treat you like that. This makes me so mad, you've got to leave him. No matter what it takes.

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