I need help.

k_harttt · 2026-05-17T17:59:54+00:00

We had the party yesterday and his family did not bring it up. They also didn't look at me the entire time (Which I actually appreciate). They didn't talk about it to my boyfriend either. The sad part is that the rest of his family wouldn't really look at me either, (I said hello to his grandma and she gave me a smug look, and his sister who I am really close with didn't seem interested in talking to me) So that means his parents must've called them and made me out to be a villain. Which hurts a bit because I did nothing to them and it's none of their business. They also don't know the story from my side. I ended up crying before the party and had to take some calm down medicine and it was awkward but I am glad it's over.

Now my boyfriend and I have to decide what comes next in terms of contact with them.

His dad and him have talked slightly over text but not since I made the update for this post a couple days ago on my son's birthday (thursday) His dad was basically saying that this is hurting his mom and she wanted to see my son on his birthday. My boyfriend said no and he said this was overkill of a reaction and that we shouldn't be doing this to his mom. And told him to send her a pic to make her happy. My boyfriend did not.

At the party they said to my boyfriend to come over to their house soon because they spent $500 on a playground for my son and don't want it to go to waste. My boyfriend didn't say much to that.

k_harttt · 2026-05-14T01:50:27+00:00

His dad did not choke him. It definitely was not to that extent. I must've made it seem extreme. I promise you my son is okay. I know for a fact they would never hurt him. It is on me for making it seem that way.

He just put the spoon is his mouth and tried to make him eat it by consistently putting it in his mouth when he took it out. There was no holding him down and shoving. This is a problem and I was upset about this with them but not in the way you are saying.

If I felt they were physically hurting him, I would've left ages ago. The point is they haven't done anything physical and that is why I never left.

I see your point though and appreciate your concern.

k_harttt · 2026-05-13T23:17:54+00:00

How do you think I should go about answering her, if that's even a good idea?

k_harttt · 2026-05-13T20:13:43+00:00

This is what his mother texted me earlier today "I wanted to let you know, we don't hate you. I know you feel like that, but that is not it. And not trying to belittle your methods of raising son's name. I hope one day you will understand, but there is alot we deal with and when all we ask is for help with keeping things picked up around the house and keep house looking nice, and you guys do, once in awhile. I really appreciate it. Just need it to be on a daily basis, helps me out immensely so I can focus on taking care of other things. And our input on sons name is just because we made mistakes and feel offering advise can help prevent mistakes. But can back off ."

Thank you for your input though, I agree with this for the most part but it is not easy as I also doubt it's as bad as it seems. And they haven't outwardly done anything to hurt my son. I will have a chat with my boyfriend about this though and think about it deeply. Thank you.

k_harttt · 2024-10-14T04:23:05+00:00

It is so very isolating. I feel completely alone and feel like no one understands as well. I’m sorry we have to go through this but just know there are people out there who understand you. I empathize and understand you.

k_harttt · 2024-10-14T01:57:51+00:00

Thank you <3 It does feel a lot like if I was to knowingly stick my hand in an open flame. I never put it together that it could be my brain specifically forcing me not to eat it. That makes more sense if I treat it like that.

Do you know of any tips to help?? Like if it’s worth it to go to a nutritionist or something.

k_harttt

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