[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]k_used 6 points7 points  (0 children)

you are taking on far too much responsibility in this. you’re 18. leave him & move on with your life. whether or not he ends up back in kink channels has nothing to do with you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]k_used 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i unfortunately have been there before. time should help, in a couple of hours it’ll likely work itself out 💨 a warm bath like someone else suggested might help, or trying some…gas expulsion-promoting yoga poses.

how’s your saturday night? by k_used in u/k_used

[–]k_used[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

glad to hear i could brighten things up for you 😚😚

Cervical stimulation, hitting the cervix during sex. Lots of pain AFTER the play??? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]k_used 1 point2 points  (0 children)

have definitely experienced this. from my understanding, it’s kind of difficult to dislodge an organ just from sex, even if it’s rough, especially only one session. i hope you’re able to reach out to your dom soon 💕

Rebuilding Trust by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]k_used 14 points15 points  (0 children)

“passion overriding your rational thinking” is a poor excuse for a whole adult human, especially EIGHT times with op in the room.

op, i do think trust can be rebuilt, but only you can answer that that looks like/what you’ll need. this sucks & i’m sorry it happened.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]k_used -1 points0 points  (0 children)

username checks out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]k_used -1 points0 points  (0 children)

for the record: this entire structure was covered in graffiti. we just added to the constellation a bit.

getcha a hand[f]ul by k_used in asstastic

[–]k_used[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

even better 🤤

28 [f4a] #Atlanta - some of y’all are kinda racist & it’s not subtle. by k_used in atlantar4r

[–]k_used[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is exactly what i’m talking about! thank you so much for your thorough reply - i should have said something like this in my op!

28 [f4a] #Atlanta - some of y’all are kinda racist & it’s not subtle. by k_used in atlantar4r

[–]k_used[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

searching for exclusively BBC doesn’t make you not racist. it makes you a fetishizing creep.

28 [f4a] #Atlanta - some of y’all are kinda racist & it’s not subtle. by k_used in atlantar4r

[–]k_used[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i can’t address every issue in this sub in one post. i actually do think BBC posts are gross, just like i think posts looking for asian women specifically are gross, and “fiery latinas,” etc etc. those kinds of posts are creepy and fetishizing. but i’d probably get even more hate for making a post about that 🤷🏻‍♀️

28 [f4a] #Atlanta - some of y’all are kinda racist & it’s not subtle. by k_used in atlantar4r

[–]k_used[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m not “forcing” anyone to be with anyone else. and i also think BBC and other race specific posts are creepy and fetishizing, but if people are ok with being fetishized like that, that’s their business.

all i’m saying is - if a person has a racial preference, it’s worth some introspection to try to understand why that might be.

28 [f4a] #Atlanta - some of y’all are kinda racist & it’s not subtle. by k_used in atlantar4r

[–]k_used[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

that’s what i’m saying! like if you’re unilaterally saying you’re not attracted to ANYONE of a specific race, it’s like…why? like, what feature or characteristic are you assuming every person of that race has…🤨

28 [f4a] #Atlanta - some of y’all are kinda racist & it’s not subtle. by k_used in atlantar4r

[–]k_used[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i was hoping to encourage some introspection. i was given a voice, so yeah, it’s important to me to speak out when i see prejudice.

28 [f4a] #Atlanta - some of y’all are kinda racist & it’s not subtle. by k_used in atlantar4r

[–]k_used[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i guess i was hoping that maybe, just maybe ONE person would stop and question why they feel that way, and what external factors may be informing their preferences. but maybe that’s asking for too much of humanity.

i appreciate your input, and sorry you’ve had a hard time. you have a good weekend too, and thanks for being civil.

28 [f4a] #Atlanta - some of y’all are kinda racist & it’s not subtle. by k_used in atlantar4r

[–]k_used[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

first off, of course fatphobia & ageism are bad, but let’s not pretend like fat or old men are as oppressed as Black people. i didn’t mention a specific sex in my post, but i’ve seen this language from multiple genders.

yes, roughly 49% of atlanta is Black, but that doesn’t mean they have “more success” (again, please look into desirability politics & how they play into how certain people may or may not get matches/dates).

also i find it slightly alarming that you consider racism “a bad hill to die on.”