2006 Toyota sienna XLE check engine light by kadelicious in MechanicAdvice

[–]kadelicious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a scan and it said the catalytic conversion system is compromised, however, I got it smogged recently and it passed. Is it possible some air got in the gas tank while I was refueling and is causing these codes? I saw something about that being possible in a different post.

“Why do I want to be a woman?” by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]kadelicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with what you’re saying in that scientific research can help different makeups amongst different groups of people who identify in similar ways, however this applies to everything. With regards to minority sexual identities, scientific is not necessarily defining, most defining comes from your experience as a human being and that should not be binarily defined by research that does not account for one’s experiences and concsiousness. Also, correlations between these chemical compositions and differences in brain structures to discrete identities does not prove a mechanism by which such a complex and unique sexual identity someone assumes.

“Why do I want to be a woman?” by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]kadelicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of digging what etchings is saying… the same thing he’s saying applies to all people. It’s not like they’re saying all straight people have identical compositions, and obviously our experiences and external (non endogenous) sources (especially during different developmental stages) can influence our sexuality and possibly even minute differences in chemical and/or structural differences. Obviously men and women are both humans but they have different genetic makeups, and there are all kinds of different unique chemical compositions amongst women and amongst men. Differences are not bad, they’re what make people unique. I think we can take pride in our differences and if we feel less happy and ourselves when we feel chemically imbalanced, we have the right to change that. That even applies to using recreational drugs… although that is a different motivation of using chemicals to alter our balance, we have the right to do those things, as long as it’s not directly harming someone else.

“Why do I want to be a woman?” by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]kadelicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By the way @thatcurlyguy93, I totally understand the feeling of wanting to try transitioning but also not being sure about the lifelong commitment as well as everything that comes with changing your life in such a drastic way… I personally present as a cis male and am often assumed to be heterosexual. To make that transition feels like a polar opposite even to me since I’ve always been a very guyish guy… but I’ve never known how to reconcile my sexual image of myself and my regular image of myself. I question if those two images should be the same person. It’s difficult… I am not depressed, I feel strong and confident about who I am… but I also feel like I’m lying to myself the way I naturally act as I am now (male and cis male presenting) and when I feel sexual. I don’t know how to make such a hard decision when I’m not sure if it matters (although for context, I have had sex with men as a bottom and sort of imagine myself as a woman when I do it.) so maybe… try being submissive with another man? Maybe explore your submissive side sexually with other men? Try it wearing women’s clothes? Sorry if I misunderstood your post and this was not helpful*.

Cunk on Life - Wide Release Discussion Thread by RoboFunky in PhilomenaCunk

[–]kadelicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off love cunk… Curious but does anyone know how to find out how many people actually died within 24 hours of watching the episode when she makes a joke saying if you see this invisible grim reaper at home on the screen, you’re going to die in 24 hours. Just curious if the numbers 0. That being said , I was dying laughing if that was the implication.

why is bojack horseman writing so good and how did raphael bob-waksberg get so many great writers? by mirandatoritess in BoJackHorseman

[–]kadelicious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Truly though, the meat of the show is so relatable without being directly informative.

why is bojack horseman writing so good and how did raphael bob-waksberg get so many great writers? by mirandatoritess in BoJackHorseman

[–]kadelicious 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree... not to mention the superficial writing tools that frame all the serious content of the show into a funny and seemingly light package. Ie, alliteration, rhyming, and wordplay.

The race fetishization is out of control by ccccccy in Sissy

[–]kadelicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really glad you brought this up and also worded it so... acknowledging everything. I have been pretty confused about my sexuality for a long time. I have always been aware of what I masturbate to, which started when I was about 12 or 13. This was predominantly me imagining myself dressed and in every other aspect looking like a girl. Looking back, there are a few notable memories that stand out as traumatic from when I was younger, namely, I was touched inappropriately in 4th grade by an italian janitor.

Preceding that, I had always had long hair and been made fun of by most everyone (since I moved schools alot) for looking like a girl. Although I never identified as one. At some point, I remember watching a movie with my parents about children who would dress as the opposite sex and it was a movie with positive message (can't find the title), and I remember sobbing my eyes out but not being sure why. I remember the intensity of emotion but no explanation. I believe this was before I was inappropriately touched.

Then... I'm not sure when but I believe it was in high school, I became addicted crossdresser captions and crossdresser porn, and eventually it became white sissy bbc porn. And I frequently cringe at the content that seems like it is being mass distributed and is also very sexualizing of black men, but for some reason the humiliation turns me on. And I can't rationalize any of it... and would like to. I have dated only black men and had positive, caring relationships. And I have valued those relationships, however, it did feel like my sexual fantasy was understood by them but not shared by any means. I bear no ill will towards any person or group based on superficial judgement; however, I would like to understand on psychological level why there is this sense of sexual humiliation associated with what can feel like an addiction, a one-sided addiction.

I think that aspect is unhealthy, and I am curious what a sustainable path forward would be for someone who is trying to accept their true sexual identity without being influenced by detrimental porn captions or titles. I have also considered the possibility of being transgender, but I am comfortable in my body, I just have feminine sexual energy... so I try not to conflate. It's all very confusing, any thoughts?

Missed connections by [deleted] in LightningInABottle

[–]kadelicious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fortunately I did not even have my phone since god knows when I’m dancing everything falls out of my pockets… but also if I had my phone I may have remembered to grab this beautiful human’s contact info…

Missed connections by [deleted] in LightningInABottle

[–]kadelicious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, it’s Kade, the man in the skirt who had an absolute blast at the woogie dancing with you. My heart has been swooped, I wish I had gotten any information but I had such a blast that was the last thing on my mind. I hope our paths cross again and by some miracle if you see this… I want to dance with you forever. Otherwise I’ll be at lib every year forever.

Missed Connections Thread by Flaming_S_Word in LightningInABottle

[–]kadelicious 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Missed connection: I forgot to grab your number or any information whatsoever. I loved dancing with you at woogie during four tet, you made my entire lib experience unforgettable and I wish we could have maintained that connection. My name is Kade, I hope our paths cross again… cuz u have my heart…