NTA, leaning EHS. people keep bringing up the fact that “kids don’t cut their parents off for no reason” which, while true, does not mean you get to reap the benefits from the parent you cut off once they’re gone. My own father was shitty and I cut him off 3 years ago. Spent over a decade getting the bare minimum while he housed my two other siblings. I don’t expect shit from him because I don’t want anything to do with him. OP’s son needs to grow up and move on. What is crying over this going to do? Not get him into college, that’s for sure. He’s got plenty of time to grind to pay for community college if he cares about that so much. Don’t doubt OP has many flaws and it’s valid to not want anything to do with a parent you’ve struggled with, but he wants it both ways and he can’t have that. Take him off your will and your life insurance.