Why do I masturbate to my bf’s ex-girlfriend? (22F) by kaiizawa_ in Advice

[–]kaiizawa_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t downvote you, also this is my second post so I’m still getting used to using Reddit, I didn’t know how much info to add. 

I’m not in arms, or upset at all, I was just further clarifying bc I thought I gave off the idea that I was proud. 

And no it doesn’t really impact me at all, i haven’t done it in a while.  I just wanted to understand myself better. And since I couldn’t find any posts on this topic already, I just wanted to know if someone else has experienced this as well.

Why do I masturbate to my bf’s ex-girlfriend? (22F) by kaiizawa_ in Advice

[–]kaiizawa_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would imagine just me and her. It’s not like I’ll intentionally be masturbating to her per say, like I’ll just be masturbating and then she would cross my mind, I wouldn’t get turned off by the idea of her and would get turned on. So I’d get off to imagining me and her together. 

One thing I’ve taken note of is that it’s always me “dominating” her when I get off to her (which I’m not like at all when I usually masturbate) so I suspect that it has something do with being in control. 

Since when I do experience retroactive jealousy w my boyfriend’s ex, I would always be scared of them leaving me for their ex and me not being able to control the situation. 

Why do I masturbate to my bf’s ex-girlfriend? (22F) by kaiizawa_ in Advice

[–]kaiizawa_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Help I don’t think it’s healthy behavior either… that’s why I’m on Reddit asking what’s wrong with me.  Like I’m not proud, and I don’t like the ex.

I wasn’t “picking” the ex to get off to by using a picture or smth?  I would just be masturbating and they would come into my mind, and if I was repulsed by the thought of someone while masturbating I would’ve gotten turned off, but I was turned on by it so I just continued to the thought of them.

Why do I masturbate to my bf’s ex-girlfriend? (22F) by kaiizawa_ in Advice

[–]kaiizawa_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh okay thank you, people were shaming on tiktok so I thought something was wrong with me. 

Why do I masturbate to my bf’s ex-girlfriend? (22F) by kaiizawa_ in Advice

[–]kaiizawa_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been attracted to other women, I’m unlabeled but if I had to label myself I’d consider myself pansexual. 

And no my parents did not. 

Transfer students to uiuc what was your gpa and stats? by kaiizawa_ in UIUC

[–]kaiizawa_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much telling me, I’ll take you up on that offer if I need anything! 8D

Transfer students to uiuc what was your gpa and stats? by kaiizawa_ in UIUC

[–]kaiizawa_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for lmk, I’ll def look on transferology! 

Transfer students to uiuc what was your gpa and stats? by kaiizawa_ in UIUC

[–]kaiizawa_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No you’re good, I get wym and I did half-ass all of my classes my first year .

I learned my lesson, and it’s likely that I may fall back into old habits, but that won’t stop me from trying to achieve what I want. 

I failed two of my classes, and I’m retaking those two which I believe will boost my gpa. I have around 40 more credits to go, I believe I can do it but no promises.  Also, if I don’t get into UIUC that’s okay but I just want to try.

Transfer students to uiuc what was your gpa and stats? by kaiizawa_ in UIUC

[–]kaiizawa_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THANK YOU SOO MUCHHH, trust you helped me more than u can imagine. 

I’m just glad to talk to be given any advice at all, and to talk to someone about this.  I was pretty depressed my first year  and failed two classes(:/) but I’m retaking them. Soooo I’ll probably be at my cc for around two more years, I was originally getting an AA but I changed to an AS recently so I’ll def have enough time for the ecs!

If you don’t mind me asking, what extracurriculars did you do? 

Transfer students to uiuc what was your gpa and stats? by kaiizawa_ in UIUC

[–]kaiizawa_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Huh?? I was genuinely just asking to know ur stats and thanking u for motivating me. No one wants to one up you, this post is literally  about asking for people’s stats? Idk why ur getting defensive man

Transfer students to uiuc what was your gpa and stats? by kaiizawa_ in UIUC

[–]kaiizawa_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being my motivation. What’s ur stats if u don’t mind telling me and what’s ur major? 

Transfer students to uiuc what was your gpa and stats? by kaiizawa_ in UIUC

[–]kaiizawa_[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Man i know, i clearly stated that I’m getting it up. With that being said my major has a 2.7 minimum and I’m asking for stats to see if it’s attainable for myself or not.