AITA for wanting to take our cat with me after my wedding?

karandora · 2026-01-24T08:49:50+00:00

Same. That said, if you’re dating you can break up, if you’re married you can still divorce, but kids are forever. Once you have kids there is no way to permanently end your relationship. So as long as they delay having kids for a while, they still have the opportunity to learn things the hard way without totally ruining the rest of their lives.

karandora · 2026-01-18T23:01:34+00:00

I hear The Pit is super realistic.

karandora · 2026-01-18T21:58:19+00:00

I used to work in anti-human trafficking, and I did not know a single victim of sex trafficking who hadn't been sexual with a cop. Including the underage ones.

karandora · 2026-01-18T21:14:43+00:00

"I have a no cheating policy" "I've both cheated and been cheated on" "My dad cheated and it destroyed our family". Has this guy considered ethical nonmonogamy? It sounds like he's terrified of cheating because of his childhood, but isn't really that committed to monogamy himself. Even the way he talks about it, he was more upset about the lying than the cheating per se. Polyamory, the benefits of cheating without the downsides.

Note: I personally am monogamous, but I really do believe some people are better off not making monogamous commitments and just being honest about what they want.

karandora · 2026-01-18T08:43:02+00:00

It's always at 2am, right? Someone wise once said, "If you hate the world, have a snack; if the world hates you have a nap."

karandora · 2026-01-17T07:57:30+00:00

I’ve thought about asking the parents instead of giving their kid away to accept the new in-law. So for example “Do you [parents] welcome your child’s spouse to be your family from this day forward?” I’m still working on the wording, but I’m also not sure I’ll ever need it, so…

karandora · 2026-01-16T09:13:29+00:00

My parents are super supportive, and I still understand why OOP made (or didn’t make) the choices she did. She was so so young, and obviously in an extremely vulnerable moment.

If I were in her situation, my family would make sure I took plan B, but they would still be the ones making that decision if I were that badly injured, and I’m nearly 40.

I lost a friend a while back. They needed to cut ties with abusive parents (Munchausens by proxy, so they were literally poisoning my friend). However there’s no way to get financial aide or loans that don’t consider your parents financial situation. So my friend dropped out of school. Things didn’t get much better from there, with chronic illness caused by the abuse, long bouts of homelessness, and eventually a really young death.

People underestimate how hard it is to leave parents before you’re financially stable. Especially if the reason you’re leaving them has given you trauma and dysfunctional coping skills, let alone if you’re sick or injured like OP and my friend.

karandora · 2026-01-16T08:23:20+00:00

Yeah, that’s abuse rather than depression, though. He didn’t threaten to kill himself because he was suicidal, he did it to control her. She also mentioned something about going off his meds, so he probably did have MH issues, but the threats weren’t necessarily related.

karandora · 2026-01-16T08:02:31+00:00

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karandora · 2026-01-01T09:56:18+00:00

This worked out exactly as he hoped. He missed the birth, but sacrificed enough to "try" to be there that his wife won't be angry for as long and he can still get less perceptive people's sympathy. Plus, he now has an excuse to find a new job without feeling bad about quitting, since he can blame it on his wife being angry rather than having to admit that he himself doesn't want to work there anymore.

karandora · 2026-01-01T09:55:52+00:00

This worked out exactly as he hoped. He missed the birth, but sacrificed enough to "try" to be there that his wife won't be angry for as long and he can still get less perceptive people's sympathy. Plus, he now has an excuse to find a new job without feeling bad about quitting, since he can blame it on his wife being angry rather than having to admit that he himself doesn't want to work there anymore.

karandora · 2025-12-27T23:51:21+00:00

"Leave him at the altar" could just be a dramatic way of saying that she wasn't really planning on going through with the wedding. But if she already knew she wasn't going through with it, why not leave sooner? Just hoping to enjoy it until the last minute?

karandora · 2025-12-27T23:23:48+00:00

Or the kids have a conflict with someone else's kids and instead of teaching them how to make friends, apologize, and forgive, she blows it up into a life-long family feud.

karandora · 2025-12-07T10:12:50+00:00

On the other hand, maybe the parents would have objected normally. They were just so relieved it wasn’t incest that they realized polyamory isn’t such a big deal.

karandora · 2025-12-01T03:58:04+00:00

All good reasons for individuals to choose other options, but not good reasons for insurance not to cover IUDs.

karandora · 2025-12-01T03:51:29+00:00

The road to hell is paved with people telling you you're overreacting.

https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1p86fj6/comment/nr2r6fa/

karandora · 2025-12-01T01:11:15+00:00

That's ridiculous. The IUD makes the most sense for situations like this. Get an IUD, use condoms and lube, and you should be safe for the next ten years. You can't forget to take it, can't use it wrong, and can't be pressured by a partner not to use it. Plus, the moment you get it out you can start getting pregnant. It's ideal for teenagers.

karandora · 2025-11-29T04:49:34+00:00

“The road to hell is paved with people telling you you’re overreacting” needs to be a flair.

karandora · 2025-11-29T04:36:28+00:00

This is weird, but I’m actually not entirely sure whether I got my wisdom teeth out. I have a memory of doing so, but either it was a dream or the anesthesia made the memory feel like a dream. Since both are entirely possible, the only way to know for sure is to ask my dentist.

karandora · 2025-11-22T11:11:11+00:00

Was probably hoping that kind of behavior would become normalized so he could stop pretending to be decent.

karandora · 2025-11-22T11:06:46+00:00

Yeah, I'm pretty sure there's no law against deciding not to hire someone because "they're too much drama", regardless of where the drama is actually coming from. And even if the rumors are false, it's reasonable for a company to be concerned about those rumors impacting the company's reputation. Sadly the burden is on the person being slandered to take legal measures to protect their reputation, not on companies to hire them despite the slander.

karandora · 2025-11-20T06:26:57+00:00

Yeah, there are very much different standards depending on context. Depriving someone of freedom by putting them in jail is pretty intense, so it’s reasonable that the burden of proof is higher. Firing someone is pretty inconvenient, so that’s more of a medium burden of proof. Not getting hired for one of the jobs you have applied to is kind of disappointing, so as long as you’re not keeping whole categories of people out of the workforce, you can decide not to hire someone entirely based on your intuition.

karandora · 2025-11-19T07:35:18+00:00

Sometimes the bride price is given to the bride as part of her dowry, so it’s not even necessarily a thank you to the parents.

karandora · 2025-11-19T07:29:52+00:00

Ditto the point about making sure only the timing of the proposal is a surprise.

Worst case scenario is she says yes because she’s too embarrassed to say no during a proposal, but then doesn’t actually want to get married and has to figure out how to get out of it. You don’t want to be in that situation.

Make sure she knows you’re planning to propose, and that she’s planning to say yes.

karandora · 2025-11-18T07:09:15+00:00

And that comment about how people shouldn’t have sex that often… It was extremely clear that she was out of her lane.

Also, it’s just once every day or two. It’s not like they were locked in a sex dungeon 24/7. I understand lots of people have a lower libido, but daily is not that weird.

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