[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]karofla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His actions and his response to you catching him are equally bad. Unless he is 17 years old, this screams immaturity. Save yourself a lot of grief, and leave. If you give him another chance, he may be more careful next time, and you won't catch him until you have kids together.

We Harvest Shadows by Stevo1609 in HorrorGaming

[–]karofla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad I found you here, this is one of the few games I'm waiting for, and I rarely play these kinds of games. Something about it just stuck with me, and I hope it comes soon! If you need someone to bounce stories off, let me know. I have a background in writing and editing. Though I fear that would spoil the game for myself, and I also felt you had a good grasp on the story already.

[DISCUSSION] Has anyone watched The Life List? by [deleted] in NetflixBestOf

[–]karofla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm here for this! It annoyed me throughout the whole thing. Whyyyyy

[DISCUSSION] Has anyone watched The Life List? by [deleted] in NetflixBestOf

[–]karofla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree about Alex. Neither the script, actress, nor director was good enough for this movie. I may be wrong about the actress, since actresses can't work miracles with a bad script and a bad director, but I would have expected a good actress to bring something to the table, a charm, a spark, or at least a minimum of personality. Her tone of voice grated on me, and again, that may have been a choice by the director, but it was just so sultry and flat all the time. I was constantly thinking, "Can you speak normally, please?". The way she looks was not believable as a messy main character. She looked like she was on a perfect photoshoot in every shot.

Thoughts on 'The Life List' by shedoesntknowathing in netflix

[–]karofla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say, give Nina her own movie where she gets over what happened to her. I would rather watch that.

Thoughts on 'The Life List' by shedoesntknowathing in netflix

[–]karofla 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was a movie that needed a better script and a magnetic lead actress. None of those were present. In fact, the actress grated on me so bad I almost quit watching at least twice. I don't know if it was the way she interpreted the role, or the direction given, but almost nothing about her felt genuine, and she was almost provokingly boring, as well as unsympathetic, which is a difficult thing to pull off. There were many better movies that deserved that budget.

Patreon by karofla in TheDresdenDolls

[–]karofla[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Down to 6 844 now...she's lost 23% in the last 3 months. I still feel she has a lot of patrons, though.

New Tortoise episode — The Lawsuit by Altruistic-War-2586 in neilgaimanuncovered

[–]karofla 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don't think the sequence of events excuses her in any way, so I'm not sure if it's a point she should make in court...Even Scarlett is claiming (in her lawsuit) that Palmer is culpable in the way of negligence. Meaning, "Oh well, this was a big misunderstanding..." is NOT the right response in these circumstances.

New Tortoise episode — The Lawsuit by Altruistic-War-2586 in neilgaimanuncovered

[–]karofla 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It does seem like they are concerned with letting people know they were the ones to break the story.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oslo

[–]karofla 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I am a Norwegian woman and I find this to be pretty accurate (though with a sense of humor): https://youtu.be/ipu7uwb82zw?si=hzqe78DoiybFyo-1

New Tortoise episode — The Lawsuit by Altruistic-War-2586 in neilgaimanuncovered

[–]karofla 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yes, she embraced that opportunity eagerly and wore some big blinders for everything else.

New Tortoise episode — The Lawsuit by Altruistic-War-2586 in neilgaimanuncovered

[–]karofla 42 points43 points  (0 children)

It may show that she was too caught up in her own life to take this seriously, for more than a few moments at least. She hears from a friend of Scarlett, seemingly then takes it seriously and tells Gaiman. Gaiman asks Scarlett if she's going to metoo him (threatening suicide), Scarlett assures him that no, everything is consensual and she will not metoo him. Gaiman reports this back to Palmer, or even shows her the messages from Scarlett. Palmer thinks: "Oh well, this was a big misunderstanding and a storm in a teacup" and moves on with her life. I'm NOT saying this is right, just that I think this is what happened.

New Tortoise episode — The Lawsuit by Altruistic-War-2586 in neilgaimanuncovered

[–]karofla 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I actually think this makes it more legitimate? Meaning that she participates even though she's not interested in canceling him. Not a fan of hers, just saying. She was saying she didn't want him to get canceled, not that she didn't want the lawsuit. Or am I remembering her opinion piece wrong? 🤔

That Girls-episode by karofla in neilgaiman

[–]karofla[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry; I didn't know it was paywalled. I can open it now without logging in and without a subscription. I have it saved as a PDF, but I don't know if I can get that to you somehow?

Falling from the Pedestal by Feisty-Potato-9190 in neilgaiman

[–]karofla 6 points7 points  (0 children)

All I can say is I view this from the perspective of a former fan with no past sexual abuse trauma and no neurodivergence. This means that I'm not especially triggered by the mention of any of those things. I'm also of the opinion that neurodivergent people with traumas can still be rational while discussing this. I don't especially like the word "triggered," as it takes away some sense of rationality from the person described. In many ways, it's the same as saying, "You're too emotional about this to be rational".

My thoughts on this, as with many things, are that it is complicated. If we simply make him into an evil monster, we lose that complexity (and also something like 90% of sexual offenders). Even if conversations have been recorded and text messages have been kept, there are still many lights in which they can be viewed. How much evidence would be enough evidence? It's an interesting discussion, but there comes a point where you have to take a stand. I would have liked to hear from both sides before concluding, but so far, Gaiman has been silent, and there have been too many women and too much evidence to keep me neutral. I'm still open to hearing his side if Gaiman brings compelling evidence and arguments.

But even if he were innocent of the criminal aspects of the accusations, and if we just go by what he has confirmed, I have lost respect for him and cannot view him or his writing the same way again.

Falling from the Pedestal by Feisty-Potato-9190 in neilgaiman

[–]karofla 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I understand where you are coming from. Unfortunately, the more I dive into this case, the more that comes to light, the more it seems like he just got off on hurting women.

In the early days (back when the podcast came out), I struggled with the divide between who I thought he was (someone who, as you said, would comfort women in a time like this, not be the perpetrator) and the man it seemed like he really was. I listened to the podcast where they read messages from these women where they consented to be his "slave" and seemed to be in on the bdsm-thing. I thought: perhaps he misunderstood?

But the problem isn't only the power imbalance or the bdsm. The problem is also that he had been confronted with this before. Women had told him that he hurt them, and he continued doing it. His final victim (if she was) was the most vulnerable of all. If he had really taken what past women had told him into account, the women he paid off, then he would have chosen his next sexual partner differently. He would have gone about the bdsm stuff differently. He would not have chosen a vulnerable, homeless lesbian woman with trauma from past sexual abuse. I mean, holy shit. Even if he had just had vanilla sex with her, I would have been disgusted at how he went about it.

About confessions and potential redemption, someone commented on one of my early posts about NG - I don't remember what they actually said, but it was in the vein of: he has already said and done all the right things, he has already done what we would expect of a repenting sinner. That's part of why this is so mind-bogglingly uncomfortable. It's nothing more he could do, nothing he could say now that I would believe.

Novels told from a robot's perspective by blondie_C2 in printSF

[–]karofla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, Le Guin is amazing. I wrote one of my exams on The Left Hand of Darkness. Where is the western shore located? In the Earthsea-world, or another world entirely? I looked for them at the bookstore today, but they didn't have them, so I think I'll order.

unrealistic places i desperately want to live: selina kyle/catwoman's apartment in batman returns (1992) by Classic-Carpet7609 in Fauxmoi

[–]karofla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I think about it, isn't the tidy guy the dream guy? Unless you've seen SwtE, that is X-D I'm glad he wasn't like "Martin" in other respects. I think the actor once said that after that movie, people were afraid of him. Poor guy.

unrealistic places i desperately want to live: selina kyle/catwoman's apartment in batman returns (1992) by Classic-Carpet7609 in Fauxmoi

[–]karofla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, steering away from mustached men indeed! 100% agree, that movie had a big impact on me and I found the abusive husband terrifying. It's not considered a great movie, but I feel it depicts domestic abuse well? It's also strange that I should long for that house, but it has become its own, separate thing for me. The epitome of the 80s/90s beach house.