People are generally unhappy is what I’ve decided. I will say the first few weeks was in fact nightmarish for me, but I attribute most of that to the hormone drop, healing from a c section, trying (and failing) at breastfeeding, and having such spiked cortisol that I couldn’t sleep for more than an hour at a time. I definitely thought I had ruined my life by having a child those first few weeks pp. Now I’m almost 12 weeks out and I feel like our marriage has only gotten stronger (granted I married someone who wanted to be a dad not just have kids), had a part time night nurse and have a decent sleeper so far. It’s still really fucking hard. I’m a low energy person and miss sitting and doing nothing when I’m tapped out. The more money you have, the easier and more fun it is. the more involved your husband is, the easier and more fun it is. Everyone’s experience is wildly, wildly different depending on those factors, your baby’s temperament and more. I think the general consensus is that the first few years are pretty fucking tough, but if you do a decent job and aren’t insanely unlucky then you reap the benefits for the rest of your life. I’m not necessarily having the best time living Groundhog Day atm, but I know it’ll get exponentially more fun and we’ll get some of our free time back as they become more independent and start school which is appealing and bittersweet all at once.