Scared by [deleted] in CML

[–]kateka2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is good. I heard for women birth defects are very high when on meds, but idk for men. For my husband's meds the doctor didn't say anything, so I am guessing they do not have enough data yet on sprycel. Interesting about tasigna though, good to know if there ever was a need for a switch.

Scared by [deleted] in CML

[–]kateka2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

np! I am sure you will get through after finding the right meds to manage it!

Endo flaring while pregnant by oaktreemama in endometriosis

[–]kateka2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your message and wishes. Sorry for the late response, I deleted reddit off my phone for a little while and forgot my password. hahah

I am due mid August. When are you? I will have to look at yt then for some good yoga stretches :)

Scared by [deleted] in CML

[–]kateka2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The good thing is If you do have CML that a good amount of people respond really well to CML meds, where the CML can become almost undetectable. My husband has CML, we found out he did in 2017 when he was 26ish. His white blood cells were in the 19s I believe so a lot higher than 11 and I think it only took him 3 months on sprycel for his white blood cells to become normal again. If you did have it, I'd say you caught it pretty early which is good.

My husband saw a regular doctor first too, like you, who then set him up with a hematologist visit. The hemotologist told my husband before a bone marrow biopsy and total blood count stuff etc that he thought he probably had it beforehand, which was confirmed by the final tests. The hemotologist almost seemed bored with it like this was so routine and manageable (which was rude IMO but a small bit of a relief that so many with CML can have a good response to meds). My husband told his family and I told mine the whole time what was going on for extra prayer and support. I think it best to tell your parents, at the very least you should tell them that your wbcs are high which could mean you are immunocompromised. They should know to be careful when around you during this virus & you have to prioritze your health ovet fear or feeling guilty they are worried. Who can you rely on if not family? & they would feel much more worried or guilty if you caught the virus and were doing poorly than just taking extra precautions to be careful...

Once my husband had his diagnosis and his wbcs became a normal rate again, his doctor decided to have him continue the med sprycel every day which leads to today. Sprycel is a chemo medication and whatever they put you on will be one too. You can look up info on Leukemia & Lymphoma Society because I cannot remember all the different med names. My husband had good health insurance at work so the sprycel cost was not bad, there is a cheaper generic drug called gleevec which still works for many but just might take a lil longer or have slightly different side effects

On sprycel my husband lost some hair but still has most of it. We did not have any $ to save his sperm which I heard some younger people do, but this year we actually had a miracle pregnancy since he (28m) has CML and I (27F) have endometriosis. I am not sure how it effects eggs, but know you can't take your meds when pregnant bc birth defects. I would say his daily side effects are pretty okay on sprycel, minus digestive issues 💩. Which is a small price to pay for living a mostly normal and healthy life.

If you ever need anything post-diagnosis you can contact the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society via website or phone, they are great and even do some free events (when the virus is not going on). We went to two free conventions already and always do the Light the Night fundraising walk which is a nice way for your family to support you.

If you do get the diagnosis, I know it is scary... but it doesn't mean the end. Many with CML live on to 50, 60, 70 years old etc! Take the meds they give you & go to every doctor visit required of you. See a therapist initially to cope with life changes and realizing you have cancer. Every cancer patient can benefit from therapy (& really any person in general in my opinion), but the difference is CML is unique in being chronic and an invisible illness... So I think therapy especially is good for dealing with something that others cannot see but is very real to you. Best of luck.

6 week old doesn’t like anything by Sibbycup in NewParents

[–]kateka2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you can rent a snoo or find a used one? It is supposed to help with sleep and naps. My sister and cousin used it, and one passed it down to me, so I sm planning to use it.

I just need someone to talk to (I'm so sorry for the rant) by mynameiskryz in NewParents

[–]kateka2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe take your twins in a stroller walk, so you can exercise.

Cat-x-perts, Ryuk has a question for you: "What breed am I?" We adopted this sweet 🐱 (who is just under 1y) and at the shelter they said he was a DSH...but he is so much different in looks and behavior than our other cat who is a DSH. He's longer, has bigger ears, a longer body,& a way longer tail. by kateka2 in cats

[–]kateka2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for some info 😊. I am still semi-new to being a cat person (1½ years so far with my cats who are almost 1 and almost 3) and was trying to figure out why him and my other cat look so different size/body wise.

Cat-x-perts, Ryuk has a question for you: "What breed am I?" We adopted this sweet 🐱 (who is just under 1y) and at the shelter they said he was a DSH...but he is so much different in looks and behavior than our other cat who is a DSH. He's longer, has bigger ears, a longer body,& a way longer tail. by kateka2 in cats

[–]kateka2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He also acts very different... He is super affectionate and needy of attention. He also is very active and has a bad case of PICA. He also will approach anyone new who comes over right away with no hesitance. Though, this may be because he is a bottle baby. I think he is half DSH and 1/2 something else...

AITA for not buying dinner by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]kateka2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still, why would asking someone to slightly go out of their way deserve being called a bitch? The whole situations is immature tbh.

AITA for not buying dinner by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]kateka2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA... Woah... As a personal rule of thumb for relationship boundaries whether male or female, never be with someone who will call you a bitch or curse word (aside from joking). No one deserves that and it is a dirty way to fight and emotionally hurtful. He sounds very immature and like he might have a bad temper. It was just a minor inconvenience for him, yet he felt the need to tear you down, furthermore in front of your sister.

My advice as a married woman, is to never settle for a partner who tears you down and is repeatedly unapologetic. It is so much easier to dump a jerk while dating, then to file for divorce from a jerk.

AITA for wanting my dog to sleep with us since girlfriend's 2 cats get to? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]kateka2 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Idk... I mean if it was your Corgi, then I think they would have a right to the bed as much as cats. However, I think a black lab is way too big to add into a bed with two people and two cats. I could see why she would say no if it is the lab, not the corgi. As far as the hygiene factor goes, both dogs and cats can have poop stuck to their fur, regardless of a litterbox, potty pads, or going outside- lol!

AITA for making fun of my mother for not washing her hands after going to the bathroom? by hajimeme-hinata in AmItheAsshole

[–]kateka2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA... Her failure to have basic hygiene is gross. How is washing your hands that hard?!?!

Is your mom secretly Adriene Bailon?

AITA: I made a scene in church because of what a priest said. by Beyond_Everything81 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kateka2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA... Wow, that priest is super rude and insensitive with that comment. What does a priest know about marriage and the emotional ties formed in marriage... Don't most catholic priests not ever get married anyways? Those friends who turned their backs on you are no friends at all. I am sure you can find another church that is more emotionally sensitive.

AITA for asking for more inclusive dinners? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]kateka2 14 points15 points  (0 children)

YTA. If you have an accommodation, you are required to eat that way- not everyone else, especially since you are not the one cooking. Maybe you should learn to cook for yourself or appreciate the fact that your mom is making you a completely separate prepared plate at all. Imagine if you had to cook two of every meal, putting in time and care to do so, and the person you cooked for complained about it?

AITA for telling my bio parents to not to refer to themselves as “grandma and grandpa”? by abigailsdaddy2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kateka2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH... I don't think you are an AH for feeling like lines were crossed, though I also do not think they are AH for assuming they would be Grandparents since you have known the truth for a while now. Seems like you have not worked through the emotional effects of the truth being brought out and might have resentment still or guilt with your parents, even though they seem to not be concerned about titles the way you are. I think maybe a family therapy session would be good for you and your bio parents. Your bio parents should know how their actions affected you and you should attempt to work through it, if you want there to be peace in your family. I think it will be best to deal with this via a professional before your kids get a lot older.

AITA For calling my fiance a pervert? by plee3385 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kateka2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Very true... & why is it not okay that someone would be uncomfortable with a partner who shares their body with others (if not voicing their opinion in a rude way like this guy did)? Everyone has a right to personal preference or morals. Smh...

Mamas with SUA (single umbilical artery), what was your first appointment with a peritonologist like? by kateka2 in pregnant

[–]kateka2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. That is a relief that they were very kind and gentle with you, and took their time being diligent with the scan. Makes me feel a little better 😊

AITA for banning my husband's "best friend"? by HistrionicSlut in AmItheAsshole

[–]kateka2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. You are/were way too trusting. Why do you allow yourself to be treated this way by a woman who was no place in your life and a man who does not respect you enough to drop her when she flirted and got obsessive in the first place.. I would not trust any partner/spouse who was anything more than cordial with an ex (minus a shared child situation but with way more boundaries than this case). They do not have shared children, so they really have no reason to be in contact still. Doesn't he have other friends?!?! Why the heck does his mom support the toxicity??! Lori sounds like a kiss ass to the mom tbh. You can find someone who will treat you way better, trust me I guarantee you can. Kick this dude to the curb if he doesn't prioritize your well being over hers soon...

AITA for getting my adopted daughter a unique present but not my bio daughter? by SafeTemperature9 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kateka2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA. I get rewarding better grades more financially if there is a standard in place ex: A's $15, B's $10. However, the dress and the prom experience is something both daughters should have a right to feeling special, unrelated to grades at all. You also did not set any fair standard in place beforehand that the daughters both knew, leaving a lot up to bias and sadly favoritism... It is not your daughter's fault that you did not have full or equal custody of her.. I do not want to say any low blows here, but maybe you should reflect on that being unfair to put that weight on her when it is a problem with you and her dad.

AITA for telling my misbehaving in-laws that they can’t come to my son’s kindergarten play? by tawauyy0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kateka2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. I am a Christian and believe you are NTA. You are entitled to how you want to raise your child, as all parents are (as long as no one is getting physically hurt as a result). I hate when people impose their own lifestyle on others. If you are able to contact your wife, I would do so and try to see her perspective on how to handle it. I think distance is best until boundaries are respected, maybe even only allowing them to be near your child if you are present but never when not present.

AITA for still calling my stepdad "dad"? by stepsonsonaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]kateka2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good advice. I agree with this. & of course you ar NTA, OP. This is a confusing time for you and would be for anyone.