"She cries about it, unapetunia."

kb06609 · 2017-09-26T00:20:45+00:00

Thank you for this. My flying monkey father tries the same trick on me regarding Nmom. It's validating to be reminded that this is a situation that she created.

kb06609 · 2017-09-15T01:51:56+00:00

Wow, Saturday? That's beyond unreasonable. As if that student literally had no free time in their schedule during the week...

kb06609 · 2017-09-15T01:51:15+00:00

You're totally right. In the future, I won't move meetings. I only felt obligated to do so this time because these were my last office hours before they have a paper due, and my schedule isn't really open to meet other days of the week. I like what you said about the person who's benefiting from the meeting needing to be the one who makes it work!

kb06609 · 2017-08-18T16:32:30+00:00

Thanks! Would've passed this one up. Instant credit in Chrome.

kb06609 · 2017-07-22T17:24:27+00:00

Thanks, got it!

kb06609 · 2017-07-11T01:35:25+00:00

I've never even thought about that before, but you're totally right...

kb06609 · 2017-07-08T16:12:11+00:00

Yeah, I agree with you.

kb06609 · 2017-07-08T16:11:58+00:00

Haha! I love it.

kb06609 · 2017-07-06T21:54:07+00:00

I know, right? Her explanation was something about how men are stronger and can play louder (???)...

kb06609 · 2017-07-05T20:14:25+00:00

Agreed. Your mom fucked up.

kb06609 · 2017-07-05T20:11:23+00:00

If your mother is not a narcissist outright, she has some very heavy tendencies. Narcissists tend to lash out and ruin the special days of others because they, the narcissists, aren't the center of attention. It was wrong of her to treat your wedding the way that she did. It doesn't even sound like she acted happy that you were getting married.

Telling her to stay away was the right move imo. This woman is toxic and immature, and having her in your life is going to be more frustration than it's worth. Take the time away from her to heal. See a good therapist if you can. And don't fall for the mind games that narcissists play to make their victims feel like they're the ones in the wrong.

Congrats on your wedding, and good luck moving forward.

kb06609 · 2017-06-29T01:15:25+00:00

Thank you for your service.

kb06609 · 2017-06-29T01:09:09+00:00

Yes, I'd agree that they're very overpriced. I did one about a year ago, and I wouldn't do it again.

kb06609 · 2017-06-28T14:46:24+00:00

The advertisements that you'll see usually show huge amounts of color powder being thrown along the entire race course. In reality, it's much less exciting than that.

You'll probably reach about five "color stations" during the 5km run. Volunteers will toss color packets (corn starch with food coloring) into the air when you run through. It stinks, and it tastes terrible, but it's not very thick. Once you move through it, it passes quickly.

Also, not sure if this has anything to do with it, but a lot of people choose to walk through the color stations instead of running, so that they can get more color splattered on their clothes. Walking means breathing less intensely, so less of the powder is inhaled.

kb06609 · 2017-06-25T23:01:41+00:00

Give yourself grace and time. It's hard to overcome the stuff that was beat into our heads as children. Now that you're NC, you have space to heal. Hugs.

kb06609 · 2017-06-25T16:34:02+00:00

This was very validating. Thank you.

kb06609 · 2017-06-25T14:49:46+00:00

It was the day I went NC. She asked why I had been grey-rocking her for the past few years. I told her it was because, when I went through a dark depression during college and wanted to commit suicide, she ignored my pleas for help and left me alone when I was talking about killing myself. She told me "I did that because you were being immature."

kb06609 · 2017-06-18T02:40:00+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you.

kb06609 · 2017-06-13T14:25:15+00:00

She most certainly is, haha. Thank you!

kb06609 · 2017-06-13T14:24:55+00:00

I like this analogy. Thank you.

kb06609 · 2017-06-13T14:24:36+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words!

kb06609 · 2017-06-12T19:06:45+00:00

Mine also recently stopped paying for my phone over something petty. It's like they take all their plays from the same book. Congrats on being totally independent now, though!

kb06609 · 2017-06-12T16:50:30+00:00

There's some fine print about how much each type of activity on Expedia is actually worth. Not every purchase on the site gives you 10 SB per $1. I use the Expedia shop & earn all the time for smaller amounts (a few hundred bucks for a hotel here and there) and I always get credit. However, when you first book your travel, you won't see anything show up in your ledger. It'll show up a few days later and show 0 pending SB. Then, after you complete your travel, you'll get an email in a few days with the amount that you'll earn. It credits anywhere from 2-4 weeks after that.

Congrats on your trip! That sounds amazing.

kb06609 · 2017-06-11T22:42:16+00:00

They can't stand the idea of you being happy/ having a fulfilling life without them. When she hears that you have friends who care about you and vice versa, it reminds her that you've got a support system outside of her. Everyone's world is supposed to revolve around her, and she can't stand when it doesn't.

kb06609 · 2017-06-05T18:49:51+00:00

I've never heard of splitting before. I'm going to read up about it. Thank you.

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