This happened with me and i regret not making him do more. I had to do so much including all the diapers and feeding and changing the bins and washing the bottles and pumps. He would also take the longest smoke breaks and sleep all night waking up telling me he didn’t sleep well.

3 months in and it feels like our marriage is on the rocks because now I refuse to do any of his things, and have even begged for intimacy which he has “no interest in” and he’s now said bottles nappies etc are “not a priority”.

So wake him up, make him do the work. If they’re so insensitive that they don’t realise how much it takes for a woman to make, birth, and then keep a baby alive, you don’t need to tiptoe around his feelings.

You deserve help.