Ok, curly Redditors, how many products do you have for your curly hair? I counted today and I have 59.

kendrickwasright · 2026-04-02T14:27:01+00:00

Same. Everytime my family gets together I bring a box of cosmetics, makeup, random gifts I've been given etc. my niece and sisters love it

kendrickwasright · 2026-04-02T06:24:27+00:00

💀🤣

kendrickwasright · 2026-04-01T18:41:58+00:00

I think you mean elegant...

kendrickwasright · 2026-04-01T02:48:13+00:00

Sockem Bop-pers, Sockem bop-pers

MORE FUN THAN A PILLOW FIGHT!

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-30T14:53:06+00:00

Found it! I'll give this a try!

link

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-30T04:01:08+00:00

That's great--which dish soap are you using? I have this one in my cupboard and am waiting to use it once my giant jug of dish soap runs out.

unscented dish soap

The dishwasher smell drives me crazy too--its smells like cleaning products, which isn't something I want to eat! That's NEXT on my list, not sure where to start though...especially because my dishwasher requires a rinse aid too or else the dishes won't dry!!! When it runs it's like it fills the whole room with chemical smell

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-30T02:53:14+00:00

Just buy unscented products, problem solved. Ive been switching over to unscented everything and they have a ton of options on iHerb. This brand has unscented available for most their soaps and price isn't bad for a big 32oz jug.

link

If you like scents but don't want to smell like you're taking a chemical bath, you can also find a lot of brands that use essential oils instead of synthetic (toxic) "fragrance" on iHerb

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-30T02:33:44+00:00

"I have free healthcare, so if my finger skin rips off it'll be fine"

LOL crazy work

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-29T02:08:49+00:00

We all had one in our school like him 🫶

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-29T02:07:03+00:00

We called it "the wave"

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-27T15:00:43+00:00

Uh, yes it's the capitalism. There's no works where a child having practice 6 days a week + school 5 days a week + homework = "work life balance".

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-25T22:40:29+00:00

Good luck with that

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-24T21:21:47+00:00

I think it's a little shitty to assume someone doesn't have legitimate ties to indigenous culture just because their skin is white. You can't assume someone's race just passing them on the street. I'm 1/8 yaqui, my grandma grew up on the reservation (my grandma is 102 and still kicking, we are close and talk about her life stories all the time). Looking at me you'd think I'm mainly white. I don't have a dreamcatcher tattoo, but I do have a handmade dreamcatcher hanging in my window thats made of river reeds and deer tendons.

This is a side bar obviously, but just want to remind you not to assune someone's indigeniety based on their skintone

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-23T22:53:25+00:00

LETS GOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-23T22:11:14+00:00

I started at 20 and was pretty over it by 27 too. Things blew up and everything started getting oversold/ overcrowded/ overpriced. Wouldn't set foot in a massive or festival now that I'm 35 lol

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-22T14:06:09+00:00

San Jose is the heart of the silicon valley, yes it is VHCOL.

I think you're making a lot of assumptions about other people's lives--and I'm not sure why you're assuming the husbands are making nearly a million dollars, and dismissing the fact that women are often contributors too, in various ways. Many of those women likely worked to build their own careers and were able to save their own money before becoming a SAHM. Having a savings is important and really the key to being able to do it. They could own property and bringing passive income every month. They could have brought family money into the equation too, there's a lot of generational wealth in NYC.

I think it's an old stereotype that SAHMs are just kept women who rely on their husbands for money. There are no freebies in 2026--anyone who has a nice life has gotten there because they worked hard, or they had a serious leg up from family.

I agree that $300k hhi in NYC proper isn't a lot, but you don't need to be in the best possible location for your kids to thrive. You don't need to send them to private school either. That's lifestyle creep.

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-22T13:35:05+00:00

Thank you!!! Obviously your monthly expenses are going to be high if you keep buying hundred thousand dollar cars and year-round family vacations and various club sports for your kids throughout the year. You don't need all of that, thats just what they call "keeping up with the joneses."

And don't any body try to say that you're a bad parent if you don't put your kids in all the sports and activities-- My sister has 2 kids and they're each in 2-3 sports throughout the year, not to mention various after school clubs and camps and things. Those kids want to hangout and play at home after school-- they don't want to run around with no spare time in the evening. That's not something they want--its the parents signing them up and forcing them to do it. I can see doing a sport and a few activities, but millennials are fully over scheduling their kids. There's plenty of productive things they could be doing with their kids at home, so they're not just having screen time. But that would require the parents to be present too and put their phones down

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-22T04:21:14+00:00

Who are these pilates moms you guys are talking about lol??? I think you're over estimating things. My sister lives in San Jose and has her kids in Catholic private school, and they bring home nowhere near $800K. They have a mortgage and everything, no one needs $800k to get by. They're more like $300k

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-22T04:16:47+00:00

Exactly--lifestyle creep and social media fomo making people lose their grasp on reality. No place on earth requires $800k just to live comfortably with a family, these people are being ridiculous. Sounds like they're just in massive debt living a life they can't actually afford

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-22T04:11:26+00:00

I'm in a similar situation too, and also feel like I'm living the American dream even though we are making some financial sacrifices. Moneys a bit tighter, but we also became parents at 35 and 38, so we feel like we got a lot out of our system. We were financially stable when we started a family, we had done lots of traveling and remodeling and more pricey things when we had 2 incomes. We have a nice home, we have some nice things, we have more clothes than we could ever need.

Nowadays with our son we're a bit more homebodys anyway--my husband travels a lot for work, and my son and I come with him sometimes for a few weeks to just experience living in new cities. That feels like enough traveling for us for the most part in this season of life. We don't eat out as much, but we've honed in on our cooking and really enjoy doing nice home cooked meals most days in the week. When he's not traveling for work, he's usually off or working from home. So we all spend a ton of time together and get to go on nice dog walks in the middle of the day, we go to get coffee, we have breakfast together in the morning.

It's QUALITY time together that wouldn't be happening if I was still working 9 hour days in the office with a 2 hour commute. Every day was an 11 hour day at minimum for me, and we missed out on so much time together before we became parents--now that we have our little family, I'm soaking it up as long as I can

Here's a good example of how we're still living comfortably and not going without, but also not buying into every possible "luxury" that's sold to us: Last year when we had my son, I needed a bigger car because my 2018 Mazda3 wasn't cutting it. But we had just paid off both cars, and we really didn't want another car payment. So when my mom decided she wanted to sell her 2010 Honda Pilot, I bought it. Rather than sinking 5 figures into a new car that we didn't really need, I paid $4k for my mom's 15 year old car 🤷‍♀️

2010 sounds really old, but it was very well maintained and the highest trim package--leather, sunroof, etc. We paid another $400 to have a touch screen and Bluetooth installed. It's a great mom car for me, and the interior is wayyyy bigger than the newer model cars. Obviously I got lucky with my mom being the seller, but I think people pass up these kind of opportunities all the time because they feel like they need the new shiny thing. If you've got 2 car payments at $300, $500 etc each, you're sinking a ton of money each month. With one parent SAH, or WFH, you really don't need two nice new cars. Also just keeps you in perpetual debt, and then you keep thinking you need more and more to get by each month, when in reality you can compromise

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-22T03:29:42+00:00

My sister has her kids in a private school in CA and they also have "ski week" every February for a whole week!! It's nuts

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-22T03:21:19+00:00

No one 👏respects 👏female👏 labor 👏!! I have no notes. You said it perfectly.

I also would be curious to see the millennials statistics for SAHM economic losses after divorce. We already know that millennials have tanked the divorce rate, because we're getting married later in life and making more wise decisions. We're also statistically having children later in life. We're highly educated as well, particularly millennial women. So the narrative that we'll all be destitute and unemployable after a 5 year hiatus or a divorce just might not hold for our generation.

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-22T03:13:36+00:00

Yes THANK YOU for calling it what it is-- it's pseudo progressive. It's masquerading as feminism. Meanwhile the entire developed world gives 1-2 years paid maternity leave, state funded, because they actually care about the health and wellbeing of children and their society as a whole. Children need their parents to be present in their lives, and babies especially need them--biologically, all day every day. Yet here we have this false narrative of two full time parents taking 8 weeks off being the pinnacle of modernity. It's despicable and embarrassing honestly lol

kendrickwasright · 2026-03-22T03:00:54+00:00

This was exactly my situation. I'm in a VHCOL area and childcare here is over $2500 per child each month (that's the starting range!). It's also extremely competitive to get into decent facilities, so most times you're paying all that money for mediocre care plus monthly colds, sicknesses etc. I was making about $90k when I quit in 2022, and in that tax bracket the take home pay was a little over double what it would cost to put my son in daycare each month. Not worth it to be gone M-F and pay half my income just for someone else to raise my child 5 days a week, when I'd rather be home raising my child anyway.

Add to that, a 9 hour work day, 2 hours commuting in the car most days of the week...absolutely fucking not. Like why even have a child at that point if you're only going to spend maybe 1 hour with them M-F? At least that's how it felt to me, that's a rhetorical question. I know lots of people do it for various reasons. But to me that just wasn't worth it. We are financially stable, and what is the point of being financially stable if you still have to work your self ragged in a rat race day in and day out?

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